Paris Metro ticket - possible proof of an affair

Gloomendoom

thorsoak wrote: »

If he's been in France, for the week in question, it would show! Mine shows when I've gone into a country and when I've come out of it and the dates.

The only stamps in my passport are form non-EU countries.

You'd be hard pressed to find anyone to stamp your passport at most EU border crossings, sometimes it's even hard to work out where the border is.

thorsoak

You fly in, you go in by Eurostar, or go by Eurotunnel, you get stamped (unless you go by coach)

PeacefulWaters

thorsoak wrote: »

You fly in, you go in by Eurostar, or go by Eurotunnel, you get stamped (unless you go by coach)

I flew in to Paris. Alas, no stamp.

thorsoak

PeacefulWaters wrote: »

I flew in to Paris. Alas, no stamp.

New electronic passport, maybe - but we're talking 2+ years ago.....

Knightsuntold

tea_lover wrote: »

I'm really sorry to see you're getting the third degree OP.

I had a very similar time with a scary woman claiming she was seeing my (then) partner. She got hold of my number and used to call in the middle of the night, get her mates to send me abusive messages, and even put my windscreen through. Completely mad. She was a scorned ex and my partner was very convincing in his shock at her behaviour. Turns out she was telling the truth though, and they were seeing each other for years.

Thank you.

Yes, I know of a similar situation too. An ex of my mate's new boyfriend gave them absolute hell, and it went on for years. She got branded as the sad, desperate ex and was drummed out of all the social circles. The police were involved and she even got sectioned at one point. I found out literally last weekend that it was my mate who broke up the relationship, and her new boyfriend had been seeing the ex on the side for two years - everything she said had been the truth. It makes you think differently of people.

PeacefulWaters

thorsoak wrote: »

New electronic passport, maybe - but we're talking 2+ years ago.....

Old passport. 2013.

Knightsuntold

thorsoak wrote: »

Have you ever looked at his passport? I always check mine to confirm dates when I have been to certain places.

No, but I know that mine has been scanned, but not stamped. It looks like an unused passport.

Gloomendoom

thorsoak wrote: »

You fly in, you go in by Eurostar, or go by Eurotunnel, you get stamped (unless you go by coach)

:huh: I've never been stamped using the tunnel by car.

The last time I can remember getting my passport stamped entering an EU state was when I arrived in Sweden by boat. That was in my old black passport, so a while ago.

Knightsuntold

FBaby wrote: »

If this had happened a month after the event, then there would still be plenty you could do to try to get to the bottom of it, but you didn't then and made the decision to believe your husband. You've got to honour that choice. Yes, the ticket triggered the whole insecurity and questions again, but it is telling you nothing alone so you are back to either opening the whole investigation again, or closing it fully again. Since he has given you nothing at all to doubt during that time, is it worth going back in time hoping to find proof you didn't then?

Yes, this will add to the full mystery and it is frustrating that it opened old wounds, but you are where you are and if you're happy, then throw it away and focus on the future.

Yes, I made the decision to believe my partner, because there was no evidence that couldn't logically be explained. This is potential evidence. Trust me, if I'd found this ticket at the time, it would have been a whole different ballgame.

Knightsuntold

Pollycat wrote: »

Well, I'm not sure that having a 'just in case' fund means you trust someone 100%.

No, it's just me. From the first day that I started working, my dad drummed into to me that I should have a 'just in case' fund, so I've always had three months wages untouched, which was increased to six months, when I was able to. Probably the best piece of advice my dad ever gave me.