Wedding cake

Soundgirlrocks

Lily-Rose wrote: »

I think (or hope!) that you meant to put SCRUMMY here! :rotfl::rotfl: :rotfl:

Oops typo! :doh:

Sorry OP - I did indeed mean Scrummy!!!

Lily-Rose_3

Soundgirlrocks wrote: »

Oops typo! :doh:

Sorry OP - I did indeed mean Scrummy!!!

:rotfl::j

I'm sure Rosemary would know that. I could tell immediately that this is what you meant.

helcat26

My late mum made my wedding cake, when I told her we were getting married she just said CAKE! and then went ahead and planned it. No options from us to say yes, no or what.


It was a single tier fruitcake with a silver bud vase in the middle and looked very much like what she had for her wedding.


Neither myself nor my husband particularly like fruitcake or royal icing. At the time a friend from work was getting married and she had this glorious chocolate thing covered with tempered chocolate roses- I was a bit jealous.


But one of the reasons we were getting married was that my mum was unwell and wanted us to, so I still am glad that we did not make a fuss.


So seriously OP can you see that couples may have personal reasons for their choices. Please just accept their decision and back off a little.

Claire_A87

Sorry OP, but having read the entire thread I do think you're coming across as a bit needy.

When a previous poster asked if your cakes had ever been professionally judged, I think they meant have you made cakes professionally for others to give their opinions on. You've said not, so I can't help but wonder if your cakes really are as great as you think? I can't criticise them, I've never seen or tasted them. But if your cakes were truly amazing and to a professional standard then...well, wouldn't you do more wedding cakes etc? Couldn't you make a business out of it if you have so much time to bake? You don't seem even remotely open to the idea that they may enjoy your cakes on an informal basis, but don't see them as something appropriate for a wedding.

You also say that you bring cakes with you wherever you go; as lovely as this is, have you considered that perhaps people don't always want you to bring a cake?

barbiedoll

A gay wedding? With a home-made cake? I really don't think so!
:rotfl::rotfl:

OP, don't take it so personally. My friend makes fabulous cakes, both traditional and "novelty". But if I had a few bob to spare and I was getting married, I'd definitely want a proper, professional wedding cake.....and hang the expense. Much as my friend is a fantastic baker, her creations still have that very slightly "homemade" look, which is fine for birthdays. But not for weddings. And definitely not for gay weddings!

As an aside, why would you be involved in "organising" the wedding of your friend? No-one organises a wedding apart from the bride and/or groom. And possibly their families. Lots of my friends have got married over the years, I don't think I've ever been asked to organise anything, thank goodness.

Sandhy

I see it as a case of their partner's mum gets first dibs. So if partner's mum doesn't want to make the wedding cake then it's politically safe to go for a bought one.
I feel for you as it could have been your wedding gift to them
I'm also a very competent baker and well capable of creating a professional cake. Your ability is not the issue.

I've run into 'wedding politics' before.

Floss

Has anyone considered whether the partners mum is planning to make the cake because she has always said she would, or has done so for other children & wishes to be fair, or that the mum-made cake is to be mum's contribution to the wedding.

Our younger son got married earlier this year with 200 guests - I made their cake & dessert cakes, DH made the red & white wine & truffles for favours. We aren't financially flush, it was cheaper for us to use our skills than to give the money required to purchase everything, and it was a way of being involved in their special day.

Pollycat

Floss wrote: »

Has anyone considered whether the partners mum is planning to make the cake because she has always said she would, or has done so for other children & wishes to be fair, or that the mum-made cake is to be mum's contribution to the wedding.

Well, not since the OP told us on 19/11 that the Mother isn't making the cake:

Rosemary7391 wrote: »

Actually I've now found out that my friend's mother doesn't want to make it and they are intending to buy one.

martinnathalie9

I wouldn't read too much in to it. People (and I include myself in this) become really precious about their weddings. It's probably just that they would feel more comfortable with paying someone to do the job so that they can make changes and requests without feeling guilty. I imagine it would take a lot of time and money to make a wedding cake, so they are probably just concerned. A friend did my flowers for my wedding and whilst I was so grateful to her, there were small changes that I would have requested had I been paying a professional/ stranger. It sounds like they just want to avoid any awkwardness.

Rosemary7391

I'm seriously, seriously unimpressed at MSE putting this in their weekly email... Would've been nice to warn me!