Wedding cake

Rosemary7391

If it's normal for people to drop friends just because they have partners I'm screwed

Lily-Rose_3

Rosemary7391 wrote: »

If it's normal for people to drop friends just because they have partners I'm screwed

It doesn't always happen, but it does sometimes. Some friends stay and some friends leave.... People drop child-free friends when they have had a baby too, (OR people will drop a friend when their friend has had a baby!) It happened to me! 20-odd years ago, a couple of child free friends deserted me and stopped bothering with me, but then I gained several new friends after having our daughter. Swings and roundabouts.

Friends come and go in our lives for various reasons, and if they do 'go,' it's not always personal... Other things in their life take over.

LKRDN_Morgan

Half the fun of a wedding is the planning. For me it was anyway! I must have sampled a hundred different cakes before settling on the one I loved. Had someone offered to make it for me I'm not sure I would have had the same experience.
I know to some people that sounds stupid and a waste of time. But it was my wedding. I wanted everything perfect and exactly how I'd pictured.

Rejection hurts now matter how it's handed to you. Whether it's in a relationship or the offer of making a special cake but you cannot begrudge your friends choice. It's his wedding. He's entitled to have everything exactly as he wants it.

I think I read in a post they're moving in together. Why not make them a 'congrats on your new home' cake? Or an engagement cake? In fact no one needs a reason to eat cake so make them one anyway!

fairy_lights

Maybe the partners mother wants to make the cake, but because of time/health/other issues may not be able to, and it's easier for them to have a professional cake maker on standby than mess you around? Or maybe the mother has said that if she can make the cake herself she would at least like to pay for it. Who knows!

Rosemary7391

LKRDN_Morgan wrote: »

Half the fun of a wedding is the planning. For me it was anyway! I must have sampled a hundred different cakes before settling on the one I loved. Had someone offered to make it for me I'm not sure I would have had the same experience.
I know to some people that sounds stupid and a waste of time. But it was my wedding. I wanted everything perfect and exactly how I'd pictured.

Rejection hurts now matter how it's handed to you. Whether it's in a relationship or the offer of making a special cake but you cannot begrudge your friends choice. It's his wedding. He's entitled to have everything exactly as he wants it.

I think I read in a post they're moving in together. Why not make them a 'congrats on your new home' cake? Or an engagement cake? In fact no one needs a reason to eat cake so make them one anyway!

Believe me, I would've made them a hundred different cake samples if that was what they wanted! (Yes, I have too much time on my hands)

I fully intend to continue making them all sorts of cake, made them an engagement cake already and have plans for the housewarming cake.

Rosemary7391

fairy_lights wrote: »

Maybe the partners mother wants to make the cake, but because of time/health/other issues may not be able to, and it's easier for them to have a professional cake maker on standby than mess you around? Or maybe the mother has said that if she can make the cake herself she would at least like to pay for it. Who knows!

If that was it it would make more sense for us to share the task surely? It would've at least been a conversation to have. I wouldn't have been offended if they'd offered to pay for the materials/extra tins I'd need to buy either I don't think - I like to pay for things myself, and they know it, but I'm not daft and their financial situation is many times better than mine.

Lily-Rose_3

Rosemary7391 wrote: »

If that was it it would make more sense for us to share the task surely? It would've at least been a conversation to have. I wouldn't have been offended if they'd offered to pay for the materials/extra tins I'd need to buy either I don't think - I like to pay for things myself, and they know it, but I'm not daft and their financial situation is many times better than mine.

No offence intended, but I doubt that is ever going to happen. Your friend's mother is highly unlikely to want to share baking the wedding cake with you. She doesn't even know you does she?

Pollycat

Rosemary7391 wrote: »

I fully intend to continue making them all sorts of cake, made them an engagement cake already and have plans for the housewarming cake.

Maybe they (or at least your friend's partner) feel you're a bit too 'full on' with the cake making?

pebbles88

Rosemary7391 wrote: »

I fully intend to continue making them all sorts of cake, made them an engagement cake already and have plans for the housewarming cake.

Have they asked you to make a housewarming cake?

pebbles88

Rosemary7391 wrote: »

If that was it it would make more sense for us to share the task surely? It would've at least been a conversation to have. I wouldn't have been offended if they'd offered to pay for the materials/extra tins I'd need to buy either I don't think - I like to pay for things myself, and they know it, but I'm not daft and their financial situation is many times better than mine.

Ultimately, it's up to them as its their wedding. They don't have to have conversations about it, they don't have to justify anything to anyone at all.

I think you'd be better just moving forward from this, and just enjoy being a guest at the wedding and seeing your friend get married.