Am I just an 'old fashioned' thinker

barbarawright

To be honest, I probably would have done the same as the teenagers. At that age, who wants to spend their limited spare time with older relatives? And why would you want to spend the afternoon with them if they're so obviously reluctant? It's their weekend too and they have a right to spend it how they want. I remember just how boring it was spending Sunday afternoons with older relatives banging on about how abdly brought up we were compared to their kids - I'd hoped that sort of thing had died out. Apparently not

clairec79

I have 15 and 14 year olds and if they are told they are going somewhere then they will go.
My parents do come up to ours frequently so I have no issue with them going out then or staying in their room (if they are in the house they do have to at least come and say hello), if we were invited out to a meal and accepted then yes they would have to go (could go out before and/or after

LKRDN_Morgan

Since when has being a vegetarian classed as a fussy eater? You clearly come from a time when meat and 2 veg was the only option on the menu.

You come across as very judgemental of your sisters parenting choices. Maybe the kids pick up on it around you and that's why they'd rather be with their friends/boyfriend/girlfriend than at yours for dinner

Mojisola

swingaloo wrote: »

My sister has been having issues with her 2 teens especially the daughter. (14)

Today they have been invited to ours for a Sunday roast at tea time. She had actually asked if they could come as she wanted to have a 'family Sunday' rather than the daughter disappearing for the day God knows where and the son sitting in his room on the Playstation or wandering the streets.

Just had a message left on my phone to say that sis will be coming on her own as the daughter wants to see her friends and has made arrangements and the son (15) is going out with his girlfriend.

With children of that age, I would have talked to them about whether they had already made plans before making other arrangements.

If they had made plans but I wanted to them to be part of a family dinner, we would have set another date and they would have been expected to be there.

The vegetarian dinner won't be wasted - it doesn't do a meat-eater any harm to eat a veggie meal!

Yorkielassy

Mine is nearly 17 & I've already packed her off on a residential course

Come back for a cuppa tea when you're 21 & earning love :T

It's great!!! She phones me several times a day whining about her overly strict instructors.
She realises how easy she had it at home now.
I just have to oooh & aahhh in all the right places.

Jeez teenagers can be hard work. Get em out the nest as fast as possible :beer:

System

LKRDN_Morgan wrote: »

Since when has being a vegetarian classed as a fussy eater? You clearly come from a time when meat and 2 veg was the only option on the menu.

You come across as very judgemental of your sisters parenting choices. Maybe the kids pick up on it around you and that's why they'd rather be with their friends/boyfriend/girlfriend than at yours for dinner

Theres always one...:rotfl:

barbarawright

I don't get why anyone would want to spend the afternoon with two people who don't want to be there

Person_one

Judi wrote: »

Theres always one...:rotfl:

I actually thought the same when I read the OP. She said the niece was a 'fussy eater' so she made her a veggie meal, well, if she describes her niece's legitimate and not particularly unusual choice to be vegetarian as 'fussy' then perhaps a clue why niece is not too keen to go?

FBaby

If they don't want to come, what's the point in making them? They may be 'children' but they are still people.

Maybe because they could have realised that a tasty Sunday dinner is something to be appreciated, as well as an adult showing an interest in your life and that they can even be fun! There are many things my parents made me do as a kid which I really wasn't looking forward to to then realise what great fun it was afterwards.

LKRDN_Morgan

Judi wrote: »

Theres always one...:rotfl:

For which part? The acknowledging and respecting someones dietary choices irregardless of age? Or wondering if the kids pick up on their aunts superior attitude?

Hmmm I wonder which it could be!:cool: