Contact transport arrangements

hec2308

Still a bit confused, maybe it's me. Did the mediation for the custody agreement run alongside the court proceedings for the house/equity/assets split?

maman

This thread is either a wind up (half term?) or one of those that says 'I want views' but really means' Agree with me or I'll sulk'. Hope the children involved are more mature.

doing_it_for_my_babies

Well the op.didn't flounce off she's back having sorted the kids out and is now waiting for their bath to run .
sorry not discussing court outcome completly but I agreed on lot which includEd paying off a huge debt he had accumulated and all items that were of value if we had never each were kept.
It was accumulated clean break and I inally completed this last year.
No the mediation for the contact was completed a year or so in advance. Even though he broke this we are to another mutually agreement as it stands now.

Three years is a long time and I have changed considerably . If some people see me as flouncing off so be it. I can't remember the reason I didn't reply. I've slept since then. I've not been on here in general in a while.

So that's that.

doing_it_for_my_babies

maman wrote: »

This thread is either a wind up (half term?) or one of those that says 'I want views' but really means' Agree with me or I'll sulk'. Hope the children involved are more mature.

Oh no I'm listening. I may not agree with all has been said but I'm in no way sulking. I'm considering my options.

Feebie

I've always split transport with my ex. One collecting, one dropping - nothing changed when I moved 40 miles away.

I think if both parties drive or don't drive, then this is fair. If one does and one doesn't, it definitely shifts the goalposts and possibly the burden will land on the driver's shoulders.

The cancellation of contact is a different issue entirely. Shouldn't happen without good reason and not fair on the children or you.

OldMotherTucker

Split the journey 50/50 for now and just remember that it probably won't stay this way for long . . as the kids grow up, they will start developing their own interests anyway so 'contact time' HAS to be flexible.

Trust me -it's early days yet - not much stays the same.

doing_it_for_my_babies

Thanks for your posts. Interesting to say the least . I think he needs to be consistent with a few other things beforw I try and negotiate anything.

Contact is usually cancelled around 4 times a year. Unfortunately the whole aspect of I may be busy or have plans hasn't sunk in yet. Don't think it will really as he knows I'll have no other option than to make sure the kids are safe
.once again thanks. It's given me some space to think

Guest101

doing_it_for_my_babies wrote: »

Thanks for your posts. Interesting to say the least . I think he needs to be consistent with a few other things beforw I try and negotiate anything.

Contact is usually cancelled around 4 times a year. Unfortunately the whole aspect of I may be busy or have plans hasn't sunk in yet. Don't think it will really as he knows I'll have no other option than to make sure the kids are safe
.once again thanks. It's given me some space to think

Once every 3 months? I though you meant every other week.


I don't know the reasons, but that is hardly a massive issue.

hippychick1

Is this thread serious??? My ex used to split travelling with me, but sometimes works now, but most of the time refuses to share the travelling. I travel every other weekend to drop the children off on Friday and pick them up on Sunday. The children like to see him and want to go so I take them. It has been this way for a few years now. He lives almost 40 miles away, so 160 miles a weekend. Grow up OP, it's not about you it's about your children. Unbelievable.

doing_it_for_my_babies

"Is this thread serious??? My ex used to split travelling with me, but sometimes works now, but most of the time refuses to share the travelling. I travel every other weekend to drop the children off on Friday and pick them up on Sunday. The children like to see him and want to go so I take them. It has been this way for a few years now. He lives almost 40 miles away, so 160 miles a weekend. Grow up OP, it's not about you it's about your children. Unbelievable."

Firstly you have no idea of the relationship me and my ex have. I was simply enquiring to get a concept of what people do.

This is so we can progress some more. But thanks for your input.

"Once every 3 months? I though you meant every other week.


I don't know the reasons, but that is hardly a massive issue"

Its not a massive issue sometimes for me, although may hinder me financially , but it is for my kids. we have the contact pattern for a reason. its not hard to rearrange something when you have 11.5 days out of every 2 weeks child free. regardless of how oftern it is it impacts on my kids. Plus when he thinks its normal for a parent to cancel arrangements makes me wonder what his priorities are. I have asked some of my freinds and they have said never never ever cancel kids first all the time.