Contact transport arrangements

doing_it_for_my_babies

I comprimise on alot of thing. Im probably one of the most amicable exs I know . He sees them twice a week if its not his contact week then once if it is . If we want to be pedantic he has 288 hours a fortnight to himself. If he wants time to himself he simply cancels his contact with the children ( which he has done on many occasion)

Correction its just under 7 miles.


To be fair i couldnt care less if he lives next door really doesnt bother me and from experiance if I asked him to have them further he would say no .

He has cancelled contact and I have scheduled to be away . I plan my life months in advance around the children. Leaving me with no option but to cancel my arrangements , which of course I would do. But I am allowed time without my kids and im allowed to have fun arnt i . At the end of the day happy mum happy kids.

Sorry if absent parent offends you. Apologies in this case , hes their father and even with his faults he is a good one. Maybe one day I will actually be able to plan my free time without having to tell my freinds I may have to bring the kids.

He used to live 4 miles away. there were plenty of areas he could have lived that would have meant he could have been "comfortable" without bumping into me.

Unfortunatly none of you know my ex or me and I can see why you may think im being unfair. But the fact of the matter is why do the logistics for 3 years then suddenly when you move think its all unfair.

doing_it_for_my_babies

Kate/Bob wrote: »

I was half way through almost the same response when I spotted yours.

Seems sensible to share what is currently him traveling 64 miles a week for contact.

If you wanted a weekend away could you not just ask him to have them slightly longer, as an occasional longer visit?

Wouldnt happen, tried and tested im afraid.

Guest101

Absent - No longer around. Plenty of those, he isn't one.

doing_it_for_my_babies

Guest101 wrote: »

Absent - No longer around. Plenty of those, he isn't one.

Fair enough. whats the correct term. Just so I dont offend anyone else.

Ill just call him my ex , easier.

suki1964

My daughter has to plan her life in advance, around her kids

She also can't go out at night unless she has overnight babysitting arrangements

What's so different ?

doing_it_for_my_babies

suki1964 wrote: »

My daughter has to plan her life in advance, around her kids

She also can't go out at night unless she has overnight babysitting arrangements

What's so different ?

Nothing, I also have to do this . Although its rare I go out when the kids are with me . But when the children are supposed to be having contact with their dad and ive planned something , ie not being in the county and bought tickets etc etc . I get a little cheesed off . regardless of which my kids would always come first.

In the time we have been seperated I have never cancelled my contact weekends with them. i know what the response would be if I ever asked him to have an extra weekend with them .

If we are talking about fair wouldnt you go hell or high water to be with your kids?

Ames

doing_it_for_my_babies wrote: »

Fair enough. whats the correct term. Just so I dont offend anyone else.

Ill just call him my ex , easier.

Usually Non resident parent, or NRP.

doing_it_for_my_babies

thanks Ames . Noted

baby_lemonade

doing_it_for_my_babies wrote: »

Im probably one of the most amicable exs I know


I am allowed time without my kids and im allowed to have fun arnt i . At the end of the day happy mum happy kids.

I do hope this thread is a wind-up

doing_it_for_my_babies

I do hope this thread is a wind-up[/QUOTE]

The children have always had contact with him although ive had to fight to get this agreement in place so they have consistancy. Ive never stopped this .

Being happy is imperitive to children being happy is that not so . Even underlying sadness and trying to hide it , kids pick up on it. They have done previously. Yes kids need both parents , yes both parents need kids. But the resident parent is also entitled to a little social life when the children arnt there without the underlying thing he may cancel.

The kids will always come first no matter what.

Anyway back to the original point. Transport.