My Sisters Bank Won't Let her release My Inheritance To Me-Please Help.

Somerset

TheBanker wrote: »

If she had involved a solicitor, I would probably have passed the estate to my own solicitor to deal with. This would have had the effect of delaying everything and incurring additional costs so everyone would have got smaller inheritances. But it would have removed me from the stress of being "nagged" and would have therefore been well worth it.

Having read the previous threads as well as this one by the OP, if I were either of the sisters, I'd have handed it back to the probate solicitor long ago. Stuff the additional cost, it comes out of the estate anyway. I couldn't take the abuse, nagging and pressure.

Newly_retired

Ann, you mentioned going to the CAB. Don't go there, go to a GP.

If you came to see me at CAB, I would say that there is nothing anyone can do to get your money any more quickly. Be patient.

But there is one thing you can do to help yourself. Go to a GP.

One day before long you will get a letter from DWP telling you your DLA is going to stop, and you need to apply for another benefit instead, it is called PIP. I think you know about this as you mentioned it once before.
To get PIP you will definitely need medical evidence and the support of a mental health worker. It will not be easy. You will need a GP or you will lose your benefits, DLA maybe ESA too. That is really something to worry about.

So make a start and go and register with a GP. Get support from CMHT as well.

*max*

I have a feeling that warning her she may lose her benefits will only spur her on to "get her inheritance" because she will then not need benefits - stuff going to the GP. :cool:

I really think the OP is a lost cause as far as this forum is concerned.

altojack

annbarbs wrote: »

I am glad you asked me that.

Look I am in a terrible state over this.
I am in no state to go to a GP I don't even know.

I have tried to speak to my solicitor on the phone today but every time I phone the receptionist says he is with a client.

So I cannot help thinking he is trying to avoid me.
I have not had any emails from him since last week.

I have also emailed my well sister and told her I spoke to my sister on the phone at the hospital last Thursday.
I also told her I told my ill sister what she has to do to get that money released.

And I also told my well sister what my solicitor said that she would have to go to the court of protection if the other sister does not get better.
I also told my sister that this cannot go on forever and my imheritace problem must get sorted out soon. In a nice way of course.

But my sister has not answered my email and neither has my solicitor.

So I am in a terrible state because of this.
And the last thing I feel like doing is going down to a strange GP surgery to talk about registering.
Because I know they are not going to help me.
What can they do about this: Nothing.

GP's have said things in the past to upset me.
And I don't want that now in this state I am in.

I am going to have to tell my ex-CMHT Social worker about this.
That it's all gone wrong with my inheritance.
She knows me and at least I know if I tell her she will be sympathetic.
Unlike a strange GP that won't.

But my Ex-Social worker does not work Wednesdays. So I will go down to try to see her at the CMHT on Thursday.
Even if she is not there I will tell the Duty Officer and she can pass it on.
I will go down to the CMHT on Thursday whether I have found a GP or not.

I don't care about a GP.
I am to upset to go down to a surgery with all of this on my mind in the state I am in.

And I am in this state because my inheritance is being with held from me.
And my solicitor is doing NOTHING about it.
He won't even see me at the office.
That's not very helpful and no wonder I am in a sate.
You would be too.

All I know is my mum left me 118k and I cannot claim it and no body is helping me sort this out.
The solicitor I mean.

I think I am going to have to go and seek advice from another Solicitor.
I can pay for just a consultation and can pay it now.
At least that way I will find out where I stand legally on this.
I cannot see what else I can do.

aannbarbs, have you eaten today?

I am in touch with aannbarbs and arranging for someone who deals with aspergers to go to GP to register. Also other services available to help and support her.

It is obvious that since these threads began things are getting worse in annbarbs world. Rest assured that things are going on in the background but it is hard work. Esoecially as she keeps coming back here repeating the same things.

The repeating, lack of care for others, is all part and parcel of her illness. She did have a written paper of what to say to both sisters but even that went wrong unfortunately.

I have a GP with me who is advising in the background but more than this I am not at liberty to say.

annbarbs, if you are reading this, isn't it bed time? Good night.

System

Originally Posted by annbarbs
Just answer me this:
What should I do if the worst comes to the worst and I don't get my money?

you carry on with your life and make the best you can, money will not solve the core issues.

You were told in your first thread this could well take over a year but ran ahead and planned in your head as if you already had it.

If the worst happens and I don't get my money.
Then I will have to stay on benefits for the rest of my life until I am old and die.

But I don't think I will be able to live with knowing that my mum left me 118k in her will and I will never be able to claim it.

I would have got my inheritance 4 weeks ago when the house was sold.
If my sister had been well enough to go to the bank with my other sister.
But she is not which is why I have not got my money.

I phoned up the hospital today but the nurse told me my sister is not there.
He said she has been moved to another hospital and he gave me the phone number.
But when I phoned that they said she is not there and they have never heard of her.

So maybe the nurses heard our conversation with my sister on the phone. And are just saying she is not there because they don't want me to speak to her.
Or they don't know where she is and she could be discharged.

One day before long you will get a letter from DWP telling you your DLA is going to stop, and you need to apply for another benefit instead, it is called PIP. I think you know about this as you mentioned it once before.
To get PIP you will definitely need medical evidence and the support of a mental health worker. It will not be easy. You will need a GP or you will lose your benefits, DLA maybe ESA too. That is really something to worry about.

Yes. Yes. Eventually my DLA will be reviewed for PIP. And I will have to have a GP because the DWP will write to them for a medical report.
That is going to happen whether I get my inheritance or not.
Even if I was with the CMHT they will still write to the GP.
So yes I have got to get a GP.

One of the reasons I want my inheritance because I have been worried for the past 5 years since I heard about the benefit changes, that my benefit will be cut or stopped.

If I had my inheritance this will not be such a worry and I will be independent of the DWP.
But if the worst happens and I don't get my inheritance.
And if my benefit is cut or stopped.
I would not be able to live with knowing that my mum left me money and never being able to get it.
Also if I don't get my money it will cause me a lot of hardship because I won't be able to do the things I want.
That's why I want my money.

Be very careful of continually contacting your solicitor as he may get fed up and stop representing you, in which case you will have a large bill for nothing and won't have moved any further.

Yes that could be why my solicitor is not speaking to me on the phone.
Although I only ring him once a week.

But because of my illness I always talk about the same thing over and over again.

So I think I should try not to phone him for a while and leave it for 2 weeks.
Unless he phones me. Otherwise he could get fed up and drop my case and I don't want that.

System

*max* wrote: »

I have a feeling that warning her she may lose her benefits will only spur her on to "get her inheritance" because she will then not need benefits - stuff going to the GP. :cool:

I really think the OP is a lost cause as far as this forum is concerned.

But the reality is that I cannot get my inheritance at the moment.
And I don't know how long it is going to take to sort out.
Which is all the more reason why I must get a GP.

Because if the DWP do review my benefits I am going to have problems if I have not got a GP.
As they will want to write to them and I need a GP for any medical they may ask for.
Which could effect my benefits and I don't want the DWP to stop them.

I have got to face the fact that I am not going to get my inheritance now. And it could take many months or longer to sort out.

But if I loose my benefits I won't have any money at all.
So I have got to get myself a GP.
I know that.

whitewing

Of course you want your inheritance. So would I, if I were being left money.

Ann, make today the day that you see the GP.

Robin9

Annbarbs – There is light at the end of the tunnel - can I try and encourage you by telling my family stories?

My wife has had MH problems for many years – depression, OCD’s, anxiety, panic attacks. Psychiatrists and counsellors helped to get her onto an manageable level until this summer when a health issue of my own led to a big downward spiral. There are 9 doctors at our local Health Centre and I think we have met or spoken to 7 seven of them. It has taken a long time for them to look beyond the physical symptoms and to refer her to a psychiatrist.

He came to our house last week and we all had a comprehensive re-evaluation of her MH. Seeing her in her home environment was a particular benefit. Now we are on the path of further appointments, revised medication and counselling. I don’t think my wife will ever be the 25 year old I married but we with the support we look forward to a better future.

Her father was diagnosed with Asperger's shortly before he died and I see in him much of what you have written - poor social interaction, obsessive, repetitive actions and a preciseness. It was all very difficult for his family and I don’t think in the years I knew him I had a real conversation.

There has been much good advice for you from the forum but having experienced my wife’s and my father-in-law’s illnesses I can appreciate that your illness prevents you taking it. You are alone with no-one to help you – my wife has me ( and, despite my love for her, I get very frustrated).

There is help for you as well but it starts with a GP – you don’t have to like him/her.

troubleinparadise

Dear Annbarbs,

I see your last two posts were at 3:30am this morning, which suggests you are not sleeping at all well.

Please see a Doctor as soon as possible to see what help they can give you - not sleeping will only worsen your anxieties and worries.

Anthear

Altojack - the world needs more people like you.

THANK YOU for caring and THANK YOU for doing what you are doing.

xxx