My Sisters Bank Won't Let her release My Inheritance To Me-Please Help.

DCFC79

Probably been mentioned numerous time but your solicitor cant do much if anything if the other sister is too unwell to sign the form.

Go and get registered with a GP.

System

If your ill sister does not get better your well sister needs to apply to the court to get her removed as a executor but as you now this can not be done yet as your sister needs to be given time to recover.

My solicitor told me the same thing last week when I asked him this on the phone.

He said my sister would have to apply to the Court Of Protection.
But my sister might not want to do this.

And what if my sister won't?
Can my Solicitor do it?

Would it help you know how long you need to wait before court can even be considered? Is that what the issue is? you have no time frame to work on? I can understand that could be difficult.

Yes that would help.
If my solicitor was more understanding towards my MH like my EX-Social worker is.
That would have made me feel a lot better and I would not be in this state.
But he is not really understanding towards my MH even though he knows I have Mental Health problems and Asperger Syndrome because I told him.

I suggest your email you solicitor with just the one question
"How long should I wait before I contact you again if my sister does not recover and we need to look at my well sister possibly going to court"

Yes I do need to know how much time should I give my sister before if nothing changes we can take legal action.
That would help as well.

It would have helped if my was more understanding towards my MH.
But he is not
Not out of malice he is not a MH worker so probably does not know how to deal with people with my problems.

Yes I do need to see my EX-CMHT Social Worker and tell her what has happened.
As it is effecting my mental health.

Only 6 weeks ago I emailed her to tell her I had got my freedom Pass and the house was now being sold.
She wished me good luck with the house sale.
But now it's all gone wrong and she does not know so I have to tell her.

I did not expect this to happen, nobody did it has.
And now I have got to deal with it.
As I am very upset and I need someone to talk to so I can get it out and get it off my chest.

My Ex-Social worker will at least liston to to and talk me though it.
As well as advise me what to do and how to deal with it,emotionally.

If I had a CMHT Keyworker I might not be in such a state.
As I would have someone to turn to and would not be going though this Hell alone.

But I cannot talk to my sister because they don't want to know.
And my solicitor probably has not got the time to deal with my emotional state and is not qualified to anyway.

But a CMHT worker can and at least if I had support from the CMHT they can help me deal with this.
And support me in taking the next step, getting another solicitor if it came to that if I had to.

Okay the CMHT can only give moral or emotional support, they cannot get my inheritance for me.
I have to do that on my own by going to a Solicitor.
But they can help me keep it together so I can get though this.
A Solicitor won't as they don't deal with emotional problems.

That's why I want a Keyworker as the GP alone is not enough.
That's probably why I don't want to register with a GP.
As they do not have the same understanding that a psychiatrist and the CMHT has.
But my CMHT won't give me a keyworker.

elsien

annbarbs wrote: »

That's why I want a Keyworker as the GP alone is not enough.
That's probably why I don't want to register with a GP.
As they do not have the same understanding that a psychiatrist and the CMHT has.
But my CMHT won't give me a keyworker.

No, a GP alone isn't enough. But it is better than no support at all, which is what you have now.

You do not know if your CMHT will give you a keyworker now, because you haven't asked them. The last time they said no was a long time ago and things have changed. A GP could refer you for a more up-to-date assessment.
You don't have a thing to lose by giving it a go.

altojack

Anthear wrote: »

Altojack - the world needs more people like you.

THANK YOU for caring and THANK YOU for doing what you are doing.

xxx

Thank you Anthear, we at this end are trying but with so much going on here I think it makes it more confusing at times.

We won't give up, things are moving

iammumtoone

altojack wrote: »

Thank you Anthear, we at this end are trying but with so much going on here I think it makes it more confusing at times.

We won't give up, things are moving

Maybe your are right perhaps people replying on here are not helping just making things worse for Ann?

But people want to try to help and to just ignore when she is clearly so distressed seems cruel.

Person_one

altojack wrote: »

Thank you Anthear, we at this end are trying but with so much going on here I think it makes it more confusing at times.

We won't give up, things are moving

Did you know the OP before this thread?

altojack

iammumtoone wrote: »

I think the issue is for Ann that she knows she has to wait but she doesn't not know for how long.

Shes has a need to know and control so she feels safe.

Even a person with no metal heath issues would like a time frame to work within. For Ann it is more than a like it is a must.

Once she has a date in her mind that she has to wait until, before taking further action hopefully things will become a bit easier to cope with.

Unfortunately no one on here is qualified to give a date as it can't be an estimate it needs to be exact as after that Ann will be expecting action so that information has to come from the solicitor.

There is little point keep telling her to wait, she needs to know wait until when.

Exactly, but for someone with aspergers they need to be given definates which nobody can give, here or any solicitor. It's the not knowing that's rocking the boat

iammumtoone wrote: »

Maybe your are right perhaps people replying on here are not helping just making things worse for Ann?

But people want to try to help and to just ignore when she is clearly so distressed seems cruel.

It's a case of wanting to help and overload

Person_one wrote: »

Did you know the OP before this thread?

From first thread and then away from this her 3rd thread.

iammumtoone

altojack wrote: »

Exactly, but for someone with aspergers they need to be given definates which nobody can give, here or any solicitor. It's the not knowing that's rocking the boat

Correct nobody on here can and should not attempt to, but the solicitor will be able to give a date after which they are prepare to act further, I don't think Ann will like the answer, it will likely be a long time in the future and I am sure everything will get resolved by then but at least it will be a date. The problem is getting the solicitor to understand that.

altojack wrote: »

It's a case of wanting to help and overload

Yes you are right but thats what you get on internet forums, in the main people have been very understanding.

Person_one

altojack wrote: »

From first thread and then away from this her 3rd thread.

I am sure you are a lovely person who just wants to help but it concerns me slightly if the OP has unquestioningly accepted help/contact in her real life from a total stranger on a forum. However good your intentions are, i worry that it shows she is very vulnerable to people who might not be as decent, after all she has been very clear about the fact that she will be receiving over £100,000 before too long.

I think maybe the time has come for this to be removed from the forum. OP I'm going to report this, if it does get deleted I hope you understand why, and I hope that you are going to do as you've said you will and get help from a GP and from your old social worker. Good luck, and I hope you and your sisters are all feeling healthier and happier soon.

iammumtoone

Person_one wrote: »

I am sure you are a lovely person who just wants to help but it concerns me slightly if the OP has unquestioningly accepted help/contact in her real life from a total stranger on a forum. However good your intentions are, i worry that it shows she is very vulnerable to people who might not be as decent, after all she has been very clear about the fact that she will be receiving over £100,000 before too long.

I think maybe the time has come for this to be removed from the forum. OP I'm going to report this, if it does get deleted I hope you understand why, and I hope that you are going to do as you've said you will and get help from a GP and from your old social worker. Good luck, and I hope you and your sisters are all feeling healthier and happier soon.

Whilst your are right to question but someone clearly needed to do something to help as Ann is in need and unable to take that step herself.

Whilst Ann is troubled with one issue she comes across well and I trust she knows not to give out personal information.

Having said that I do think it might be best for Anns sake to remove the thread BUT the MSE team need to make an exception to inform Ann of what has happened and why her thread had to be deleted, not just do so without her knowledge, this would cause further upset.

I will not be reporting as too many reports will make it disappear automatically and I don't want that I want MSE to read and understand how important it is to treat this differently and inform Ann of their decision if they decide to remove.