Would you marry again if you were widowed?

GwylimT

People who re-marry or go on to have another relationship aren't replacing anyone.

uberalles

I very much doubt I would want to remarry nor even bring somebody else in my life, been together 26 years and married 22.

However if events took a turn for the worse now, aged 48, I am pretty certain that after a couple of years I would be out casual dating again.

However, lifelong friends and lovers are irreplaceable and casual dating is as far as I'd envisage I'd like it to go.

System

It was common practice for widows and widowers up to around WW1 to remarry within weeks of losing their married spouse. Then if the woman was under 42, to have more children.

This was also common practice. Due to high child mortality rates, if a child dies - using a boy called Thomas as an example, the next boy born would be called Thomas. One of my gg grandparents had three Mauds. Two died before they were 3 and the other died in childbirth.

I believe people didn't grieve for their losses and carried on life without remembering those they have lost. As if anyone now has a child after losing one, the late child's name maybe used as a middle name for the new born.

System

In my family friends, one of my mum's friends died and her husband's best friend was killed in a car crash within 3 months.

The living widows knew each other well as been on holidays with each other for past 20-25 years. Within three years, both moved in together and about two years later, got married.

amersall

I have been married for 34 years and would not get married again, I could not get used to someone else and their "ways" as another poster said.

I told my Hubby, if I die before he does and he meets someone, that is fine I would want him to be happy, but... if he moves her in our house and marries again, he should make a will and leave the house to our Daughter and Son, no one is "sharing" what I put into it or I will come back and haunt him that is my only fear really, irrational as it sounds .

iris

My husband died 3 weeks ago and his funeral was Tuesday. We had been together 56 years and would have been married for 53 years next week. He was my soulmate and I loved him so much, there are not words to express how I am feeling at the moment. I am finding being without him very hard. He is everywhere in our bungalow.


I just couldn't imagine anyone else in my life, although before my husband's death he said that if the right person came along, that I should consider remarrying. He wanted me to be happy.

pollypenny

Oh, Iris, you poor thing.

My maternal grandmother died at 24, leaving 3 children aged 7, 5 and 3. My grandfather never remarried, although he was pursued apparently. It's a shame that my father and his siblings didn't have a loving mother.

bugslet

Of course he does iris. Be that with or without someone new in your life.

It's a terribly difficult time right now for you, everything feels just wrong, out of kilter. I hope you find a peace at some time that you can't imagine right now.

Running_Horse

I would want my wife to be happy if I died. The only condition would be that she is very fussy about who raises our child. As for me, I'm not sure I want or need the various things I wanted and needed when I got married. So probably not, but you never know in life.

SailorSam

trollopscarletwoman wrote: »

Someone will.

And it will happen when you least expect it.

I wish people would stop saying that.