Would you marry again if you were widowed?

seven-day-weekend

Just watching Coronation Street and Roy's relationship with Cathy. It is obvious that he still loves Hayley, who died of cancer. He does 'love' Cathy, but not how he loved Hayley. It appears to me that Cathy will always be second best.

I know if (heaven forbid) my husband died, I would never, ever, marry again. His boots would be too big to fill. Anyone else would be second best and I don't want second best. NO-one else could ever take my husband's place.

How do others feel about this? Maybe others have been there? Can you love, as much, again? Do you love differently?

Or do you feel like me and would not want another in his place?

Discussion welcomed.

pollypenny

No chance. We've been together since I was 17.

Dill

Are you referring specifically to older people who've been together for many years? Someone who lost a husband or wife while they're still young might well find love again. (As might older people of course! I'm just wondering if it's an age thing you're referring to?)

PasturesNew

I've never married, but I do family history and I'm always very sad when somebody remarries after their other half dies.

In the past there was a financial and practical need to remarry, but it's still sad

I also feel bad when a kid dies and they have another and give it the same name, I wonder if the kid grows up feeling like an inferior replacement.

peter_the_piper

Remarry at 70? can't imagine who'd want me.

seven-day-weekend

pollypenny wrote: »

No chance. We've been together since I was 17.

((((pollypenny)))).There's a young married couple I know who have been together since they were 14. My mum was 8 when she met my dad , ( he was 12), and told his sister then that she was going to marry him, which she did when she was in her early 20s. My husband and I were 21 and 22 and met on a blind date.

How can anyone replace the person you have spent most of your life with?

seven-day-weekend

Dill wrote: »

Are you referring specifically to older people who've been together for many years? Someone who lost a husband or wife while they're still young might well find love again. (As might older people of course! I'm just wondering if it's an age thing you're referring to?)

Not necessarily. I felt the same when I was younger.

Tor_Brexit

Not a chance.
Plenty of fish (apparently) but I have no bait.

cybermum

I am 40 , been with my DH since I was 18. I cannot imagine being with anyone else. I'd stay alone. I just couldn't.
He's my world and I know everyone will say it , but he's the best.

System

i'd like to think someone would love me enough to want to marry me.

seven-day-weekend

cybermum wrote: »

I am 40 , been with my DH since I was 18. I cannot imagine being with anyone else. I'd stay alone. I just couldn't.
He's my world and I know everyone will say it , but he's the best.

I would stay alone too.

I'm 66 now (young for my age) - I might have a student lodger to keep me company but that would be as far as I got to sharing my life with someone.

I don't want either of us to be left alone