Would you marry again if you were widowed?

bugslet

missbiggles1 wrote: »

You don't want to make the dogs jealous either.:)

Mind you, mine are totally unfaithful hounds, basically they're anybody's for the asking - go off with the burglar if he patted them!

Probably take sausage to completely win mine over!:p

Spidernick

Remarry? Nah - once bitten, twice shy and all that!

Iwanttobefree

I think it depends on what age you married and what age you are widowed.

I started going out with my wife a week before my 18th birthday, I'm 52 now.

She's totally irreplaceable and I wouldn't even try.

But say something happened to one of us when the kids were young, that might have been a different situation altogether.

Also, I say I would never remarry, but I know people that always said this, but have ended up getting remarried, so unless your in that situation, you never really know what you would do.

You could be 100% convinced you wont, then meet that one person you really gel with etc

bugslet

Should the occasion arise, I want to be free, May I suggest a change of name? Might be sending the wrong signal to potential lovers:p:D

VfM4meplse

No, I'd be too busy doing time for mariticide

(I'm unlikely to ever marry, btw).

Peter333

Not in a trillion years would I marry again. Probably wouldn't even enter into another relationship. Been together 35 years, since we were in our very late teens, and I wouldn't ever want anyone else.

As a man in my mid 50s, I just don't think I could be bothered again. I am too long in the tooth, and I would find it a bit weird being with someone else. I doubt if I would feel comfortable to be honest, and would probably feel awkward.

If my lady wife died tomorrow, (God forbid!) even if I lived to be 90, I don't think I would want to be with someone else.

onlyroz

I don't see why not. To say that people who remarry are "replacing" their lost spouse is doing them a disservice. Of course you can never replace or replicate a lost love, but that's not to say you can never find another form of love or companionship ever again.

My mum's cousin was widowed in his 60s and remarried in his 70s. He had a very happy decade with his second wife until she also died.

VfM4meplse

I'm just catching up on Corrie now. 5 mins in and Kathy is being a real cow to Alex. How is it his fault?

[Deleted User]

I'm 50 next year and it feels old to me. I'm divorced nearly15 yrs but would marry the man in my life in a heart beat, but why change an arrangement that largely works well for us except for the intense feelings of loneliness when he goes abroad to work.
When he's away I keep thinking of how free I feel of the responsibility of another person, when he's here, I can sometimes feel I wish he'd go after a week or so.
Before meeting him I'd been alone for about 11yrs and it was nice to be selfish , but I missed the idea of having someone, then along came a friend of a friend just when I was getting too set in my ways and he stopped me sinking into depression and sadness and becoming a crazy cat lady.
Humans are social animals not in general known to mate for life. Once one relationship ends and there is the prospect of new happiness take it.. No one should be alone in later life if the chance of love and companionship is there..

Person_one

One of my great grandmothers was twice divorced and twice widowed, and was still on the lookout for number 5 until she died at 91.

A good friend of mine is the daughter of a second marriage after her dad lost his first wife suddenly in their twenties with young children. Her older siblings absolutely adore her, and I think it's lovely that her dad is happy after having such a tragedy to deal with at such a young age.

I suppose it's like everything else, people are all different and react in different ways to circumstances and events.