Would you marry again if you were widowed?

evenasus

We were 16 & 17 when we met. Courted (what an old fashioned word) for 3 years, then engaged for for another 3 years before we married.
Been married for 49 years.
No I would never marry again.

WillimS

missbiggles1 wrote: »

There's nothing wrong with living alone, most people have family, friends or animals.

Did I say there was?

seven-day-weekend

WillimS wrote: »

I don't think widowers look to replace their lost soulmate, I think its to fill a great void and emptiness and loneliness that's left. I also think that the love of your life would not want you to spend the rest of your life alone, obviously depending on your age. I know It would be hard to imagine a life with someone else, but you would not be replacing your loved one, and you could still be happy without the feeling of guilt. Its probably something you would never discuss with your other half, but maybe you should, or ask yourself if it something happened to you would you want your husband/wife/partner to move on, or would you want them to mourn your loss alone for the rest of their lives?

We have discussed it. We both feel the same.

You could still have a life, I would want my husband to have a life. But neither of us would want anothe r life partner, it would be impossible to do.

Georgiegirl256

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

How can anyone replace the person you have spent most of your life with?

I don't think anyone who remarries is ever trying to replace the person. Each person is an individual in their own right, and it is possible to love more than one person.

An elderly couple I know, remarried after a few years together, and many years of both being widowed. Sadly she died about 6 months after the wedding, but they were truely happy and in love.

My way of looking at it is everyone deserves to be happy and in love, and so yes, God forbid anything happened to my husband, then yes, if I were lucky enough to find love again, I would remarry.

missbiggles1

mumps wrote: »

I've never lived alone.

This last year's really been the first time for me.

In the past I lived in house/flat shares or with somebody as part of a couple.

Part of me quite fancies a "Golden Girls" set up but difficult to achieve satisfactorily IRL. I think I'll just settle for living as part of the pack as I do now.:)

baby_lemonade

My old gran was widowed in her 40s. Bought the grave with the intention that when she died she'd be buried in there too. About half a century later she was. Bit weird, if you ask me, but she obviously had no intention of re-marrying or starting a new life with someone else.

bugslet

PasturesNew wrote: »

I've never married, but I do family history and I'm always very sad when somebody remarries after their other half dies.

In the past there was a financial and practical need to remarry, but it's still sad

I also feel bad when a kid dies and they have another and give it the same name, I wonder if the kid grows up feeling like an inferior replacement.

Why are you sad that they remarry. If they were happy to do so, then that's good surely?

peter_the_piper wrote: »

Remarry at 70? can't imagine who'd want me.

A female friend in her early 70s has recently started dating a toyboy who has just turned 70. Never say never!

Never married but 28 years together, been 'widowed' for nearly three years. No intention of ever finding someone else. I actively don't want to. Not out of any loyalty or love for Mr Bugs, of which both I have still, but because I'm not really suited to living with someone, nor on the other hand , a casual relationship. I've never been happier in terms of living arrangements. It's selfish, there are no compromises.

Of course you can't predict what will happen, I may fall head over heels in love but I don't want that to happen.

missbiggles1

WillimS wrote: »

Did I say there was?

No, but you spoke of it so negatively, in terms of yawning voids IIRC.

missbiggles1

bugslet wrote: »

Why are you sad that they remarry. If they were happy to do so, then that's good duty?



A female friend in her early 70s has recently started dating a toyboy who has just turned 70. Never say never!

Never married but 28 years together, been 'widowed' for nearly three years. No intention of ever finding someone else. I actively don't want to. Not out of any loyalty or love for Mr Bugs, of which both I have still, but because I'm not really suited to living with someone, nor on the other hand , a casual relationship. I've never been happier in terms of living arrangements. It's selfish, there are no compromises.

Of course you can't predict what will happen, I may fall head over heels in love but I don't want that to happen.

You don't want to make the dogs jealous either.:)

Mind you, mine are totally unfaithful hounds, basically they're anybody's for the asking - go off with the burglar if he patted them!

trollopscarletwoman

bugslet wrote: »

A female friend in her early 70s has recently started dating a toyboy who has just turned 70. Never say never!

Pill of viagra will get him going

Or a bite of a brazilian wandering spider.