Just had a blazing row with my OH

mirko

We're only hearing one side of the story here. Even if the violent Bake Off fan is in the wrong for what he did, there are probably underlying issues here that none of us know about.

How_easy_is_it

He that is without sin among you, let him cast the first stone at her.

Pollycat

mirko wrote: »

We're only hearing one side of the story here. Even if the violent Bake Off fan is in the wrong for what he did, there are probably underlying issues here that none of us know about.

"even if"? :eek:

AylesburyDuck

mirko wrote: »

We're only hearing one side of the story here. Even if the violent Bake Off fan is in the wrong for what he did, there are probably underlying issues here that none of us know about.

Sorry Judge, i have underlying issues..... thats ok then off you pop.
NOT!

DCFC79

OP you did the right thing, how could you take his side after what he had done.

baby_lemonade

PhoebeBuffay wrote: »

For privacy reasons, this is a new profile. I know making a new profile to post about a problem on here is frowned upon, however, after reading what has happened tonight. You will understand why I want to post this anonymously.

DH and I, have had a blazing row. At around 20:00pm this evening, a young lad was parked up behind our house playing music in his car. He parks there when he picks up his girlfriend, who lives on the corner.

DH was getting grumpy about the music, because bake off had started. I told him the lad will be gone in a minute, he's just waiting for his girlfriend.

Off he went on his high horse to confront the young lad. I went after him - he confronted the lad who turned down the music. Not enough for DH, oh no, he had to start effin and blinding at the lad.

I tried to drag him away, the young lad even said sorry. As soon as I thought DH had calmed down. He picks up a rock and smashes the back window of the car.

The neighbours witnessed it all - called the police. They arrested DH for destruction of property. I apologised to the young lad - and offered to pay for the damage.

At the cop shop. They took a statement from me. I told them it was all DH on his high horse. The young lad has said he does not want the matter to go further as long as the damage is paid for.

The police issued DH with a caution. When we got home, he went off in a tizzy at me for not taking his side. We had a row over what happened, with him spouting words along the lines of me being his wife and how I should take his side, no matter what.

His incessant ranting became too much - so I phoned his sister to come and get him out of the house for the night. Telling her, if she doesn't come get him. I will be calling the police and he'll be back in the nick for the second time tonight.

She eventually convinced him to leave for the night. The stress he has caused me tonight, has made me reach boiling point. Now, I'm struggling to switch off - and I am thinking maybe not taking his side was the wrong to do, as ridiculous as that sounds?

This board gets more and more like the Jeremy Kyle show..

Gavin83

groovy_chick wrote: »

I would not be offering him tea and comfort for his bruised ego; I wouldn't be letting him back in the house until he had sought help for his anger issues :mad:

Except she really hasn't got that option unless he agrees, it's as much his house as hers after all.

baby_lemonade

groovy_chick wrote: »

I'm sorry OP, but people like your husband really scare me and make me worry about my family and friends going out in public.

The young lad turned his music down and apologized, yet your husband still went on and smashed his window? Imagine if the lad had argued back - you would probably be visiting your husband in prison on charges of GBH at the very least.

And all because the knuckle-dragger wants to watch BakeOff?? :rotfl:

I sincerely hope it's a wind-up thread, but nothing would surprise me on here.

mirko

AylesburyDuck wrote: »

Sorry Judge, i have underlying issues..... thats ok then off you pop.
NOT!

Hell no, anyone smashing the window of a car certainly has some problems, I meant underlying issues in the relationship. There's certainly more to this story than what the OP has put.

mirko

If I heard someone making a lot of noise near my house I would tut so loud the neighbours would hear. I may also glare at them were I to be walking along in the street and saw someone playing loud music.

I doubt I'd go as far as leaving a note on their car though.