Just had a blazing row with my OH

missbiggles1

You can be on your husband's side without agreeing with or condoning every thing he does. Perhaps he feels you aren't?

You were obviously in the right for not being prepared to lie to the police for him but you seem to have put yourself in the wrong by bringing another family member into your problems and by virtually throwing him out of his home.

Prepare to do a lot of talking to each other over the weekend.

Andrew_Ryan_89

Sorry for being rude but it's absolutely stupid to suggest that the OP done anything wrong by NOT taking his side. Blindly defending people equates to a huge lack of responsibility and is a major problem in today's society.

Pollycat

Andrew_Ryan_89 wrote: »

Sorry for being rude but it's absolutely stupid to suggest that the OP done anything wrong by NOT taking his side. Blindly defending people equates to a huge lack of responsibility and is a major problem in today's society.

I do agree with this but I also think missbiggles has a point about the OP involving her OH's sister - unless she really was worried about her own safety or damage to property.

Without any context, it's hard to know.

It may now look to the OP's OH that she has got everybody against him, including his own sister.

pollypenny

As do others, I'm wondering if he's under stress about something else. Hopefully, things will have calmed down after a night cooling his heels. I bet your OH was embarrassed at his overreaction and took it out on the nearest - you.

The lad was very good, saying he didn't want to press charges.

Rain_Shadow

anotheruser wrote: »

Divorce.

It seems to be the way people go when they have an argument these days...

:rotfl:You've been on this board too long.

warehouse

It sounds to me like he has something much bigger on his mind that has caused him to react this way, nobody smashes windows for a bit of loud music. What's underlying here?

TeamPlum

To be fair, bake of had just started. It was entirely justified.

fairy_lights

prowla wrote: »

You should not have contradicted your husband, regardless of whether he was in the wrong.

Do you often take the opposing view to him (and let everybody know)?

(Incidentally, posting such a detailed story under a new account is not really going to hide much, is it?)

What? her husband gets so angry about someone playing music while he's trying to watch Bake Off that he smashes their car window, and she's supposed to agree with him?

missbiggles1

Andrew_Ryan_89 wrote: »

Sorry for being rude but it's absolutely stupid to suggest that the OP done anything wrong by NOT taking his side. Blindly defending people equates to a huge lack of responsibility and is a major problem in today's society.

You obviously misread my post - I said she was right not to lie to the police about the incident!

Pollycat

missbiggles1 wrote: »

You obviously misread my post - I said she was right not to lie to the police about the incident!

I'm not sure that Andrew Ryan's post was addressed to you.