Is it acceptable not to wear a wedding ring?

Georgiegirl256

dandy-candy wrote: »

I'm truly amazed at the amount people who don't wear their wedding rings! Really really gobsmacked!.
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Why though? Some of us don't need a piece of metal to prove our commitment to our partners. If anyone wrongly assumed I was single and tried it on, then they would be firmly and quickly put in their place and corrected straight away.

I don't need to be "marked" by a piece of jewellery to say "taken!" Besides, it doesn't always mean that someone is taken. I know of a lot of people who wear rings on that finger just because they want to.

I don't necessarily think it's got anything to do with family tradition either, as my Mam (my Dad never wore a ring) always wears her ring and never takes it off. She was shocked at first that I didn't wear mine, but now she's accepted it, and doesn't bat an eyelid. My Nana never wore jewellery bar her wedding ring.

dandy-candy

I actually love having a wedding ring and am proud to wear it. I don't think of it as being "marked" tbh, but DH and I are quite soppy and romantic.
Some people ask why would you wear it, I say why wouldn't you. My engagement ring felt odd at first because I'm not a jewellery person, but I got used to it and my wedding ring took its place.

This thread has actually reminded me that I was on the tube about a month ago and noticed only 3 other people wearing wedding rings (all looked my age 40+) and I had assumed that less people get married nowadays, but it was probably as others here are saying and they just prefer not to wear their rings.

Wizard_of_Id

My sister-in-law stopped wearing hers due to a circulation problem, she was having to visit 10 or 12 bars before she got a date

Pollycat

Is it acceptable not to wear a wedding ring?

In my opinion, the answer to this is - it's nobody else's business what you wear (apart from your partner, I guess).

I don't wear any of my jewellery when I'm in the house - and that includes my wedding ring.
Someone I worked with was horrified at the idea I took it off 'willynilly' - but again, no business of hers or anyone else.

My OH dislikes jewellery of any kind.
No chains, bracelets and he stopped wearing a watch for quite a few years but has started wearing one recently.
There was no question that he would wear a wedding ring.
It makes - imho - absolutely no difference to me or him.

Do whatever suits you, Gavin83.

madvixen

Neither hubby or I wear Wedding rings. He can't wear his at work and I just find rings uncomfortable for everyday wear. I do wear it for special occasions though.

Pollycat

madvixen wrote: »

Neither hubby or I wear Wedding rings. He can't wear his at work and I just find rings uncomfortable for everyday wear. I do wear it for special occasions though.

A male friend of mine almost lost his finger when he caught his wedding ring on something at work. :eek:

daivid

Never been into jewellery, and none of the previous generations of men in my family have had wedding rings. In my partners family wedding rings for men are the norm so me not having one caused some discussion. Having one for the ceremony but not wearing it was suggested but to me seemed the worst idea of all, why get one if you know you won't wear it? (This is MSE after all).

OH wanted a ring so has one, she plays sport and takes it off for that. Sometimes she forgets to put it straight back on or has left it safe at home, she has even been on a night out after a game without her wedding ring:eek:. Does that bother me? Not in the slightest! I trusted her long before marriage, or engagement even and continue to do so regardless of the jewellery she wears. If she hadn't wanted a ring at all I would have been happy with that, the commitment is between the two of us and a ring (or two) doesn't make that commitment any stronger in my opinion.

Marvel1

dandy-candy wrote: »

I'm truly amazed at the amount people who don't wear their wedding rings! Really really gobsmacked!
When I was single I certainly looked for a wedding ring to see if a guy was off limits or not.

What about people who are together and not married, there is no ring to see if someone is off limits or not

Gloomendoom

cjdavies wrote: »

What about people who are together and not married, there is no ring to see if someone is off limits or not

Are they off limits though?

Georgiegirl256

daivid wrote: »

, she has even been on a night out after a game without her wedding ring:eek:. Does that bother me? Not in the slightest! I trusted her long before marriage, or engagement even and continue to do so regardless of the jewellery she wears. If she hadn't wanted a ring at all I would have been happy with that, the commitment is between the two of us and a ring (or two) doesn't make that commitment any stronger in my opinion.

Exactly this. That's why I don't understand those who get upset and insist their partner wears a ring. Do they not trust them to open their mouths and utter the words "I'm married"?