Is it acceptable not to wear a wedding ring?

Gavin83

Pollycat wrote: »

So, Gavin83, given the replies you've had are you going to wear a ring or not?

To be honest I'd already decided, I just thought it would make for an interesting discussion.

We haven't really discussed it but I get the impression my girlfriend would be quite put out if we got married and I refused to wear a ring. I might compromise if she really pushes the point and agree to a two week trial but we'll see what happens.

marisco_2

Absolutely fine to not wear a ring. It's not what you wear but how you feel about and treat the person you commit to that counts.

lisa110rry

Lovely comment Marisco.

My engagement ring is 103 years old and my wedding ring slightly younger (obviously). I can no longer wear my engagement ring, it's too thin in the band, though I do wear it if I'm going to see my Mother in Law (it was her mother's).

My husband of almost 39 years has never had a wedding ring. My son, does wear one (almost five years).

If your work is compromised by wearing a ring then you must take it off!

Fuzzy_Duck

I wear an engagement and a wedding ring despite not being overly keen on rings. I dislike the poor fit as your fingers swell/shrink throughout the year and getting water trapped underneath when I wash my hands. My engagement ring was half a size too big but fits fine now I have my wedding ring anchoring it in place. I still frequently take them off when showering, cleaning and sleeping though.

My husband on the other hand rarely wears his as he takes it off and forgets to put it back on. He probably could have done with a more comfortable band as there's not much of a gap and it must be a pain to wear at times. I do sometimes wonder what my married friends think as all their husbands wear theirs constantly, but I wouldn't say that's the norm. My father never wore one as he thinks jewellery is for women.

Why would you care though? You can't dictate what someone wears. A wedding ring isn't an obligation, and people shouldn't assume a bare fingered person is single. I got chatted up a month before my wedding whilst wearing my engagement ring, so I'm not convinced people do bother looking for rings. As others have mentioned their are some jobs where you simply can't wear a ring anyway.

edinburgher

I wear my wedding ring perhaps 50% of the time. I tend to take it off while decorating, giving the baby a bath etc. and then forget to put it back on. That reminds me, I have no idea where it is at the moment :eek:

[Deleted User]

I didn't want them but my husband did and I wasn't too strongly opinionated against them so we both got titanium ones.

Now we both wear them all the time. I took mine off for the first time 2 and a half years after we got married as we were going snorkelling and I had read the local barracudas were attracted to shiny/glinty things :rotfl:

lippy1923

My husbands wedding ring is in the safe. He doesn't like wearing rings for his job and could never get used to it.
It doesn't really bother me. At least we have it safe and its not getting knocked about.


On the other hand, I love wearing my rings and feel naked if I forget to put them on in the morning.

euronorris

My father never did. Not for the first 40 years of marriage. Then my grandma moved in and started on and on at my mum about it, who in turn went on and on at my dad about it. He then got a ring and it has worn it since.

It's because of this that I'm not bothered. DH has never worn a ring, but settled on for the wedding. He wore it for a few months, but when I got pregnant he over ate just as much as I did. Took it off one day cos it had gotten uncomfortable and hasn't been able to get it back on since. Whoops!

We're both trying to lose some weight now, so one day he'll be able to wear it again. He may choose not to. That's OK too *shrugs*

Mayflower10cat

I didn't expect my fianc! to wear a ring when we got married but he wanted to. His last grandfather died before we met and he wanted to wear his ring, for remembrance.


I like wearing my ring and (without wanting to sound like I'm gorgeous, because I'm not!) I feel comfortable being my usual chatty, friendly self around men that I meet though work etc., who don't know me as the wife of their chum.

Pollycat

euronorris wrote: »

My father never did. Not for the first 40 years of marriage. Then my grandma moved in and started on and on at my mum about it, who in turn went on and on at my dad about it. He then got a ring and it has worn it since.

WOW!
How long ago was that?
I don't recollect that it was the norm for blokes to wear a wedding ring when I got married (for the first time).
That was 40 years ago.
So important that a mother or mil went on about it to that extent.