Is it acceptable not to wear a wedding ring?

maman

missbiggles1 wrote: »

It's a recent thing for it to be the norm - that isn't to say that nobody of earlier generations did.

Like many men of his generation, my father thought all male jewellery was effiminate, even wrist watches.

In my acquaintance, men sometimes wore signet rings rather than the plain gold band that seems more recent. These were often passed down in families and given as a 21st birthday present and not necessarily worn on the 'wedding' finger.


I have three wedding rings: my own, my mother's and my grandmother's. I wear my grandmother's on a daily basis as I prefer the old gold. The other two come out on high days and holidays on my right hand with a dress ring.

KRB2725

My husband never had one and I took mine off after a couple of months. I don't care what anyone else thinks, I'm happily married as is my husband (I hope!).

If anyone wants to make a move on my husband they're welcome to. I trust him completely and aside from that, there's no way he could cope with two women in his life!

wendz86

My ex didn't and it didn't bother me as my Dad has also never worn a wedding ring so normal to me.

onlyroz

I have a jewellery phobia and so don't even have a wedding ring, and neither does my husband. I've never had any comments at all about my lack of ring.

Torry_Quine

Out,_Vile_Jelly wrote: »

My dad's never worn one, and my parents have been happily married over 40 years. I don't associate jewellery with successful marriages, they're for the showy, wedding ceremony bit. They are just symbols, not the gritty reality of the life-long commitment you've both made.

I agree that they are symbols but to many are important ones. To you they are for the wedding and I don't like the showy comment.





Pleased to see others confirm men wearing them for many years past.

74jax

It doesn't matter what we think, it's what you and your other think.


We weren't going to have rings at all, but had to swap something during the service so ended up with them.


Hubby doesn't wear his much, I wear mine sometimes.


It depends what you want. No right or wrong.

AndyBSG

The only jewellery i'd ever worn up until getting married at the age of 38 was a watch.

At first I really did find the wedding ring pretty intrusive and noticeable but now, 2 years on, it's the complete opposite.

Forgot to put it on a week ago as I was in a rush and I was really conscious that it was missing all day.

That said, I don't tend to wear it while in the house. As soon as I come through the front door keys, wallet, watch and wedding ring go in my 'man bowl' in the porch.

tea_lover

I was only married very (very!) briefly so don't have a huge amount of personal experience. I really like both my wedding ring and engagement ring and do think about wearing them sometimes. Maybe I'll dig them out of the cupboard this evening

My parents married in 1970 and my dad only wore his wedding ring for special occasions. He had a physical job and was always doing DIY etc at home so couldn't really have worn it more often. When he moved into an office job for the last few years of his career he got a new ring as the other one didn't fit anymore and he wears that all the time now (since retired).

My mum doesn't wear her as much now as she has problems with her hands. She very rarely wears her engagement ring (which I LOVE, I keep telling her I'll wear it for her )

Rings are totally up to the couple to decide. Some people will never take theirs off, some people will never have one in the first place. Neither approach says anything about the strength or state of the marriage.

tooldle

My husband chose not to have a ring.
My dad also didn't have a wedding ring. His father before him didn't have a wedding band, but did wear a signet ring which was inherited from his much older brother.

teddysmum

My parents were married in the early 1940s and though my dad didn't have a wedding ring, he always (except at work where he was a bricklayer) wore a signet ring with his initials, on his ring finger.


I don't wear my engagement ring as it is absolutely tiny (I was 7st 12lbs back then) .My husband didn't wear his engagement ring either (I mention above that I have his wedding ring), so we had it engraved with our son's initials and gave it to him, some years ago.