Is it acceptable not to wear a wedding ring?

teddysmum

My husband doesn't wear his, though he has one.


Being 22 carat it marks more easily than the more usual 9 carat for men, so he stopped wearing it, to prevent damage, but then age made my fingers a little fatter, so I have nabbed it, because mine is too small when my finger swells and my finger feels naked without a ring after wearing one for 44 years.

Georgiegirl256

Torry_Quine wrote: »

As others have said it's entirely your choice although some may wonder why not.

Does it really matter if they do though? Personally, I can't see why people would think anything. The only time I could see people judging is if someone had always worn a ring and then suddenly didn't. But even then there could be a number of reasons why.

balletshoes

Gavin83 wrote: »

So I hate rings. I hate the way they look and I hate the way they feel. I've made it quite clear I have no plans to wear a wedding ring but several people I've spoken to seem horrified by this idea. So, I thought I'd ask the good people of MSE. Is it acceptable to never wear a wedding ring?

its acceptable to me, my husband doesn't have a wedding ring, he never has. I do but I don't always wear it (right now for example, the weather is hot and I hate wearing any rings in hot weather, so I haven't worn my wedding ring at all for about a fortnight). I often go out of the house wearing it and then take it off and it ends up in my purse, and the first thing I do when I come home is take it off (if its not off already) and put it on the mantlepiece, I never wear it in the house.

Gloomendoom

I have one. It went back in it's box about two weeks after my wedding as I couldn't stand the thing on my finger.

I actually got quite a few comments about wearing a ring in those two weeks but none about not wearing a ring in the eight years since.

maman wrote: »

Would we get a different answer if it was a woman? I'd like to hear any logical reasoning.

My wife likes wearing her rings as they reduced being bothered by hopeful suitors. I'm ugly enough for that not to be a problem.

missbiggles1

Torry_Quine wrote: »

My husband wears his grandfather's wedding ring so not a recent thing at all.


As others have said it's entirely your choice although some may wonder why not.

It's a recent thing for it to be the norm - that isn't to say that nobody of earlier generations did.

Like many men of his generation, my father thought all male jewellery was effiminate, even wrist watches.

missbiggles1

balletshoes wrote: »

its acceptable to me, my husband doesn't have a wedding ring, he never has. I do but I don't always wear it (right now for example, the weather is hot and I hate wearing any rings in hot weather, so I haven't worn my wedding ring at all for about a fortnight). I often go out of the house wearing it and then take it off and it ends up in my purse, and the first thing I do when I come home is take it off (if its not off already) and put it on the mantlepiece, I never wear it in the house.

I was like this with my first wedding ring, I took it off in hot weather and even when I got in from work. When I lost it we bought a comfort fit ring and I've worn it ever since - some styles of rings are more wearable than others.

Torry_Quine

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Does it really matter if they do though? Personally, I can't see why people would think anything. The only time I could see people judging is if someone had always worn a ring and then suddenly didn't. But even then there could be a number of reasons why.

No it doesn't and I certainly wouldn't say anything or judge. I can only think of one married person I know who doesn't wear one.

missbiggles1 wrote: »

It's a recent thing for it to be the norm - that isn't to say that nobody of earlier generations did.

Not in my experience. Its always been the case with men in my family and friends

AnotherJoe

Gavin83 wrote: »

So I hate rings. I hate the way they look and I hate the way they feel. I've made it quite clear I have no plans to wear a wedding ring but several people I've spoken to seem horrified by this idea. So, I thought I'd ask the good people of MSE. Is it acceptable to never wear a wedding ring?

It's certainly not acceptable to me to wear one, for the exact same reasons. What anyone else does with a ring is their own business and that's a two way street in terms of anyone caring if I wore one

unforeseen

I stopped wearing my ring after getting it caught on a door and nearly ripping my finger off.

Never worn any rings since then.

ThinkPink

My husband wore his ring on our wedding day and as soon as the say was over he took it off and it's been in its box in our wedding memory box in the loft ever since. It wasn't safe him wearing a ring for his job at the time and I really wasn't bothered whether he wore one or not- I would much rather he didn't wear it and keeps all his fingers!!

My husband wanted one for the ceremony so we just got a cheap gold ring. Some people did comment at first that he could wear it at weekends but he doesn't feel comfortable wearing it as he isn't used to it. My sisters husband to be is exactly the same so they too are getting a ring for the ceremony but that will be the only time it worn. You don't even need one for the ceremony but my oh wanted one.

I've always worn mine and love wearing it and feel very lost without it at the moment due to having swollen fingers as I'm heavily pregnant and cannot wait for it to fit again.

Do whatever you want, don't give in to peer pressure!!