Is it acceptable not to wear a wedding ring?

missbiggles1

Torry_Quine wrote: »

No it doesn't and I certainly wouldn't say anything or judge. I can only think of one married person I know who doesn't wear one.



Not in my experience. Its always been the case with men in my family and friends

"While the wearing of wedding rings by brides has been traced back to ancient Egypt, it is only in the latter part of the last century that more than a small minority of bridegrooms began doing the same.
World War II is considered to have heralded a seismic shift, as many Western men fighting overseas chose to wear wedding rings as a comforting reminder of their wives and families back home.
"The mid-20th Century is when it becomes mainstream," says Rachel Church, a curator in metalwork at the Victoria and Albert Museum.
"That's when men started to be expected to wear wedding rings, and nowadays when you hear men don't want to wear them you think that it's a bit odd.""

http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-12986535

pollypenny

My wedding ring had got tight and very uncomfortable, so I just wore my engagement and eternity rings.

As I've now lost weight I decided to wear my wedding ring. I can't find it! I'm pretty sure it was in my purse!

I feel sick about it. Adding to the list of expensive jewellery I've lost - two gold bracelets and a heavy chain and pendant - I feel ashamed!

jackyann

I am female, and both my sister-in-law and I wear our wedding rings on special occasions, but not every day.
I think it is very personal.
However, I do think you have to explain carefully to your intended.

NBLondon

Exactly - if it matters to your other half - discuss it with them. It's no one else's business - not even your parents.


I've been wearing one for 17 years now. In early days I would sometimes take it off for gardening, DIY and poking about under bonnets but that got replaced by wearing gloves instead. My wife takes hers off for some chores and poking under bonnets but will invite me to put it back on her finger afterwards.


My father has been wearing one for just over 50 years - including 20 plus years of sticking his hands into industrial machinery.

Timpu

It's a decision between you and spouse to be, absolutely nothing to do with others. I do sympathise. DH & I also aren't into jewellery but everyone seemed to be shocked and horrified when we decided no rings (both engagement and wedding). Some seemed to think we would not be 'properly' married without. Nearly three years on, I've only been asked a couple of times if I'm married so I'm not sure why people felt the need to be so fussed.

Lily-Rose_3

There is no right or wrong here; it's up to the individual or couple... I wear one most of the time; although I take it off to shower and wash my hair and wash up etc... But I always wear it when I am away from the house. My husband always wears his, and never ever takes it off!

No disrespect to Torry, but I don't know a single man married before the mid 1970s who has ever worn a wedding ring. None of the generation above me wore them. (I'm in my early 50s...) One of my cousins got wed in 1981, and her husband wore a wedding ring, and they were the first couple I ever knew to both have one.

Back in the day, (pre mid 1970's,) most men I know would have recoiled at the thought of wearing a wedding ring. Then again, they also recoiled at the thought of changing a nappy, doing the washing up, and spending the day with the kids! :rotfl:

Do whatever makes you and your spouse happy. As many have said on here, it's nothing to do with anyone else...

peachyprice

Lily-Rose wrote: »

No disrespect to Torry, but I don't know a single man married before the mid 1970s who has ever worn a wedding ring. None of the generation above me wore them. (I'm in my early 50s...) One of my cousins got wed in 1981, and her husband wore a wedding ring, and they were the first couple I ever knew to both have one.

Back in the day, (pre mid 1970's,) most men I know would have recoiled at the thought of wearing a wedding ring. Then again, they also recoiled at the thought of changing a nappy, doing the washing up, and spending the day with the kids! :rotfl:

Do whatever makes you and your spouse happy. As many have said on here, it's nothing to do with anyone else...

My dad has always worn a wedding ring, they married in 1961.

Georgiegirl256

My uncle is the only man I know to have (and still wears) a Wedding ring from the day he got married in the mid to late 1960's. When I was little, I always found it unusual because no other man wore one! :rotfl:

Nowadays, men are more into jewellery, and a lot of men want to wear them. But as has been said, there is no right and wrong, and even though people are saying it should be discussed with a person partner, personally I don't think it's got anything to do with them either. If my husband had insisted I wear my ring, I still wouldn't as I don't like the feel of jewellery.

skattykatty

Dad has never worn his wedding ring, but probably not advisable in building trade!

Husband would like to wear, his but eczema prevents him from doing so.

A ring may symbolise commitment but it's not a commitment. Your intention and actions are.

Cyclamen

On our wedding day my husband and I exchanged a kiss instead of a ring when we said our vows. It was a church wedding and having explained to the vicar I don't wear jewellery he came up with swapping a kiss. I really thought we would have to have rings for the service then leave them in a draw but our Vicar was very happy and said that was the first time he'd married a couple without rings.

We've been married three years.

If you choose not to have rings it is absolutely fine, perhaps you want them for the service and special occasions, you want to wear one all the time or you don't want one at all.. what matters is that it is your choice.