Is it acceptable not to wear a wedding ring?

DigForVictory

M'father-in-law was a miner & rings were forbidden at work, so he rarely wore one & his son learned from that. My grandfather had a signet ring, but that went as soon as it interfered with his golf. So my father had no enduring example & never wore a wedding ring.

We discussed rings plural, and my husband said he'd really rather not wear one, so discussion closed.

Me, I wear my wedding ring all the time. (Other than the maternity rings which were simply as the real one didn't fit.) Now it'll come off only with shears & I'm fine with that. Circulation fine so far...

If you want to wear a ring OP, go ahead. If you don't, likewise. If later you want an always on link, you can suggest a ring & it need not be a wedding one, you'll have more choice. Possibly puzzlement, but Whose Business Is It anyway?

TonyMMM

There is no requirement to have any rings as part of the wedding ceremony - it is entirely optional.

TeamPlum

My wife said she didn't care if I wore a ring, apart from on the day of the wedding. I couldn't stand the weight on my finger, or the way it felt. She could tell I hated it the moment I put it on.

As such I got a silicone one to wear on the day - which I wear for short periods now and again (family gatherings etc).

Out,_Vile_Jelly

My dad's never worn one, and my parents have been happily married over 40 years. I don't associate jewellery with successful marriages, they're for the showy, wedding ceremony bit. They are just symbols, not the gritty reality of the life-long commitment you've both made.

catkins

Newly_retired wrote: »

It is relatively modern for a husband to wear a wedding ring. Men of my father's generation did not.

My dad is 91 and has worn a wedding ring since he got married over 60 years ago

Lily-Rose wrote: »

No disrespect to Torry, but I don't know a single man married before the mid 1970s who has ever worn a wedding ring. None of the generation above me wore them. (I'm in my early 50s...) One of my cousins got wed in 1981, and her husband wore a wedding ring, and they were the first couple I ever knew to both have one.

peachyprice wrote: »

My dad has always worn a wedding ring, they married in 1961.

My mum and dad married in 1952 and have both worn a wedding ring ever since

andrewmp

Gavin83 wrote: »

So I hate rings. I hate the way they look and I hate the way they feel. I've made it quite clear I have no plans to wear a wedding ring but several people I've spoken to seem horrified by this idea. So, I thought I'd ask the good people of MSE. Is it acceptable to never wear a wedding ring?

I've never had one, the wife didn't mind. I guess people might think I'm single or something if they check my ring finger, but really, who cares?

reehsetin

jackyann wrote: »

However, I do think you have to explain carefully to your intended.

Disagree it depends on the couple, we've never needed to - we trust each other 100%

I rarely wear mine, if anything it's at dos and other peoples weddings (when I remember). Most people don't notice, only one person was really shocked by it, when she found out I was married she mentioned no ring and was amazed my husband was ok with it... I remember I'm married I really don't need a ring to jog my memory.

He wears his on and off when he feels like it, doesn't make any difference to me

kathrynha

My husband never wore a ring. He has absolutely massive hands, and we would have struggled to get a ring big enough, and he said that he wasn't keen on wearing a ring anyway due to manual work.

I stopped wearing my wedding and engagement ring, except for special occasions after a couple of years due to developing an allergy to the metal. Hubby is fine with it.
Only person with an issue is the mother-in-hell who asks me every few months why I don't wear them, and I answer every time that I'm allergic too them, and every time she acts surprised

liuhutOz

Been married 9 years, husband wore his ring for one day.. The wedding day! He hates jewellery and never wears any. I'm fine with him not wearing it, and I don't care what other people think :-)

arbrighton

I wear my engagement and wedding rings most of the time, but do regularly take them off for sport (rowing and lifting weights- blister issues!) and for gardening and if my eczema is bad. I usually remember to put them back on.

Husband got a plain titanium one and wears it most of the time. I think he's got used to it after 12 months or so but if we discussed and decided one of us was going to stop wearing them- e.g. if our fingers swell as the metal of his and design on mine mean they can't be resized, that'll be fine. We did discuss prior to getting married if he did want one as he's not a jewellery bloke and more often than not leaves off the nice watch bought as his equivalent to my engagement ring!

Friend lost his a long time ago, wife was a bit miffed at the time i think but they haven't sorted a new one

It is entirely optional but is used as an indicator- single friend and I were discussing whether or not the nice looking vet might be single- wasn't wearing a ring. But, thinking about it, I might not if I were a vet either