Is having one weekend every now and again free of visitors that unreasonable?!

paddy's_mum

I do know that but as many others on many another thread have said, using common parlance sometimes makes for easier reading and clearer understanding.

Whether you call it a marriage, a partnership or a relationship, the concepts being looked at remain the same.

No....?

Marvel1

Summary of it all, I have no clue either at this point, and I beleive the mother in law will turn up at the house on Sunday 28/08/16 at the usual time and be let in the house.

AylesburyDuck

cjdavies wrote: »

Summary of it all, I have no clue either at this point, and I beleive the mother in law will turn up at the house on Sunday 28/08/16 at the usual time and be let in the house.

I have everything crossed for Lulu that this isnt the case, but half on me isnt holding my breath.
I'd be delighted to be wrong though.:T

missbiggles1

paddy's_mum wrote: »

I do know that but as many others on many another thread have said, using common parlance sometimes makes for easier reading and clearer understanding.

Whether you call it a marriage, a partnership or a relationship, the concepts being looked at remain the same.

No....?

No.

She isn't married so she can walk away comparatively easily. That's one of the great benefits of just living with someone.

paddy's_mum

lulu_92 wrote: »

The in laws have decided to visit us at the same time every Sunday,

The original post.....

fierystormcloud

missbiggles1 wrote: »

No.

She isn't married so she can walk away comparatively easily. That's one of the great benefits of just living with someone.

It's not comparatively easy to just walk away from a relationship if you have 2 children together. Lulu is tied to this man for life.

If you were married with no children, it would be much easier to walk away from that person forever after the divorce. With having children together, that will never happen. Ever.

And I think it has to be said that there are far more benefits to being married, than there are to being not married. If the main 'benefit' to only living together is you can leave the relationship much easier, then that speaks volumes about a relationship where you are not married.

missbiggles1

fierystormcloud wrote: »

It's not comparatively easy to just walk away from a relationship if you have 2 children together. Lulu is tied to this man for life.

If you were married with no children, it would be much easier to walk away from that person forever after the divorce. With having children together, that will never happen. Ever.

It's certainly easier when there are no children involved but, all things being equal, it's easier to walk away when you aren't married. After all, that's the point, really.

ETA

And she may well be tied to some ongoing contact with him for quite a few years but that isn't the same thing as being tied to the man himself.

Dill

If I remember rightly she wants to get married and she believes he does too, but he keeps saying 'not yet'. But the immediate problem is with the in-laws, not with the partner. They've had twin girls together, they're pretty much a family, even if they haven't tied the knot.

fierystormcloud

missbiggles1 wrote: »

It's certainly easier when there are no children involved but, all things being equal, it's easier to walk away when you aren't married. After all, that's the point, really.

ETA

And she may well be tied to some ongoing contact with him for quite a few years but that isn't the same thing as being tied to the man himself.

Still disagree 100%. When you have children together, you cannot simply just walk away, just because you're not married (as your earlier post implied.)

missbiggles1

fierystormcloud wrote: »

Still disagree 100%. When you have children together, you cannot simply just walk away, just because you're not married (as your earlier post implied.)

You can't walk away from the link you have through the children, of course, but you can certainly walk away from the man himself and the relationship you've had with him. (And you can absolutely walk away from his mother!:rotfl:)