Is having one weekend every now and again free of visitors that unreasonable?!

AylesburyDuck

lulu_92 wrote: »

No its his dad that's Irish :rotfl::rotfl:

As an aside, when I mean a weekend free of visitors it applies to everyone so it's not even me trying to alienate them, it's just that they are the ones who have created this appointment of every Sunday at the same time without fail.

Oh man, thats totally ruined my day now, plus i've got the theme tune to Mrs Brown stuck in my head.:rotfl:

lulu_92

AylesburyDuck wrote: »

Oh man, thats totally ruined my day now, plus i've got the theme tune to Mrs Brown stuck in my head.:rotfl:

Off topic but have you seen the live shows? We went to Birmingham twice and it was amazing!

AylesburyDuck

lulu_92 wrote: »

Off topic but have you seen the live shows? We went to Birmingham twice and it was amazing!

Fraid not, although i'd never rule out the possibilty of wanting to go.
Hilarious. :rotfl::rotfl:

Mojisola

lulu_92 wrote: »

No its his dad that's Irish :rotfl::rotfl:

What's your FIL's place in all this? Does he just keep quiet and follow his wife's lead or is he equally demanding?

lulu_92

Mojisola wrote: »

What's your FIL's place in all this? Does he just keep quiet and follow his wife's lead or is he equally demanding?

Yep that's exactly him.

paddy's_mum

AylesburyDuck wrote: »

As a disclaimer i hate stereotyping and am fully aware not all Irish mothers are like this, however i do know of at least one personally. :rotfl:

Oh, lordy. So do I. My former M-i-L was Irish to the core (one of 17 children in the wilds of Co Wexford) where the girl children waited upon the males of the family, where they came to the table after the men had filled their own bellies to eat whatever they could find of what was left over and despite an entire adult lifetime as a theatre nurse in England, still thought that the 'old ways' were the best.

Sorry, Lulu - off on our own little wander down memory lane

Andypandyboy

ska_lover wrote: »

I am struggling to understand your point I am afraid

So getting what he wants every single other weekend is fine then? He is an adult now, however Mummys boy cannot live without having his own way for one weekend in FOUR MONTHS??? Mummys boy cannot live a full week without seeing mummy?? He cannot prioritise what his partner wants above what his mother wants?? theres something seriously wrong here, his mother and father are imposing on this family and causing a rift.

He gets his own way more than enough if you ask me

How the hell do women find men like this attractive. Will mummy be named as the other woman on the divorce petition??

The point is the OP's issue is actually with her OH. That is the root cause.

If they were acting as a couple, OH would listen to Lulu and say, "yes, it is a bit much, I will have a word with Mum and explain that we want a few free weekends so they will have to vary their visiting times". The fact seems to be that OH does not agree with Lulu on this subject, or rather, he seems indifferent to her opinions.

OP's mum would take the information onboard much better if it came from him. As it stands, OH's mother will know it is Lulu not her son who objects and will probably be thinking that until she hears it from him she will carry on regardless.

missbiggles1

ska_lover wrote: »

I am struggling to understand your point I am afraid

So getting what he wants every single other weekend is fine then? He is an adult now, however Mummys boy cannot live without having his own way for one weekend in FOUR MONTHS??? Mummys boy cannot live a full week without seeing mummy?? He cannot prioritise what his partner wants above what his mother wants?? theres something seriously wrong here, his mother and father are imposing on this family and causing a rift.

He gets his own way more than enough if you ask me

How the hell do women find men like this attractive. Will mummy be named as the other woman on the divorce petition??

I don't see any point in setting up combative positions when compromises are available, particularly by people who aren't even on the sidelines IRL.

I also don't believe that the OP's is the only POV in this domestic situation and think that onlookers should keep an open mind. We aren't her friends or her cheerleaders - the situation may be exactly as she describes it but the reality could be completely different.

lulu_92

missbiggles1 wrote: »

I don't see any point in setting up combative positions when compromises are available, particularly by people who aren't even on the sidelines IRL.

I also don't believe that the OP's is the only POV in this domestic situation and think that onlookers should keep an open mind. We aren't her friends or her cheerleaders - the situation may be exactly as she describes it but the reality could be completely different.

So what I am asking is unreasonable to you? That I should dedicate the only free time I get with OH and our kids to everyone else to do with as they please? I'm sorry but even the most family oriented people need some space and I'm asking for an occasional weekend. I don't understand how I can compromise any more. I have offered week visits but it is not good enough.

Kim_kim

paddy's_mum wrote: »

Oh, lordy. So do I. My former M-i-L was Irish to the core (one of 17 children in the wilds of Co Wexford) where the girl children waited upon the males of the family, where they came to the table after the men had filled their own bellies to eat whatever they could find of what was left over and despite an entire adult lifetime as a theatre nurse in England, still thought that the 'old ways' were the best.

Sorry, Lulu - off on our own little wander down memory lane

Wexford is not nor has ever been a wild part of Ireland. It's nearest equivalent is Surrey or Kent is to England, it's part of the mild & populas south east of Ireland. The most modern & least rural part.

My mother was born in 1936 (my grandmother in 1898) in Connacht (now that is the wild & rural part of Ireland), but everyone always had a plate of food & did not eat the scraps left by the men. I'll admit men tended to get the bigger & better cuts, but I've never come across women eating the scraps left behind. I think you have been told a tall tale.