Is having one weekend every now and again free of visitors that unreasonable?!

itsanne

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

What extra status does a wedding give inlaws in their child's partner's life, exactly?

Depends on the parents. No difference at all for many, but from the sound of things it could make a difference to the boyfriend's parents.

missbiggles1

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

What extra status does a wedding give inlaws in their child's partner's life, exactly?

Well, it actually makes them "in laws" as opposed to being no relation whatsoever. (The clue is in the name.;))

AylesburyDuck

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Well, it actually makes them "in laws" as opposed to being no relation whatsoever. (The clue is in the name.;))

I ate spotted d!!k for tea, it was spotted but i dont think it contained any ... :eek:
Titles dont always have any standing.

missbiggles1

AylesburyDuck wrote: »

Post number 202, you quoted her directly.
It doesnt matter what she calls them A/ they have the hide of a rhino and B/ it wouldnt solve her problem anyhow. :rotfl:

I'm not sure why you're trying to stir things but you might notice that I specifically said "we all", not "you".

Parents in Law are part of your family and their opinions need to be considered, your boyfriend's parents are no relation to you so need less consideration.

That may or may not make any difference to the OP's problem but I think it should do.

smallholdingsister

Mojisola is right. They can get their own copies of birth certs without anyone's permission.

My ex MIL used this to open an account for DD which she will never see the money from.

AylesburyDuck

missbiggles1 wrote: »

I'm not sure why you're trying to stir things but you might notice that I specifically said "we all", not "you".

Parents in Law are part of your family and their opinions need to be considered, your boyfriend's parents are no relation to you so need less consideration.

That may or may not make any difference to the OP's problem but I think it should do.

I'm sorry you consider it stirring, i was just pointing out she probably thought it was aimed at her as you quoted her.
I shall consider myself chastised.

surveyqueenuk

Lulu is the person that MIL's son chose as his life partner. She is also the mother of her grandchildren. She deserves consideration from MIL on this basis alone, regardless of whether they are married or not.

lady1964

tea_lover wrote: »

That's quite a clear double standard there. He's not allowed to give the birth certificates to his mother, but the OP is being encouraged to give them to her mother without his knowledge?

Yes I agree it is.

The reason I suggested giving the birth certs to Lulu's mum is because of how Lulu says her MIL has behaved and will continue to behave I expect, towards her. She appears to ride roughshod over her feelings and Lulu's OH appears happy to sit back & watch it happen.

If Lulu isn't going to make a stand, and I'm not sure she will, then it might not be a bad idea to take the birth certs. Maybe make copies and let the in-laws have those but Lulu has alluded to having some kind of plan if this doesn't get resolved or no kind of compromise can be reached, perhaps the birth certs is part of that plan,

missbiggles1

surveyqueenuk wrote: »

Lulu is the person that MIL's son chose as his life partner. She is also the mother of her grandchildren. She deserves consideration from MIL on this basis alone, regardless of whether they are married or not.

That might be your reading of the situation but it isn't mine.

However, in any domestic situation, all parties should show consideration to each other, obviously.

Rosemary7391

surveyqueenuk wrote: »

Lulu is the person that MIL's son chose as his life partner. She is also the mother of her grandchildren. She deserves consideration from MIL on this basis alone, regardless of whether they are married or not.

I'm not convinced re bit in bold. He hasn't asked to marry her, let alone actually married her. She doesn't appear to be on the paperwork for the house, or included in his will. We've not been told of any formal, pen on paper commitment. Sure, they're all just bits of paper, but bits of paper matter when it comes to practical considerations, especially when the lack of them is used as ammunition (it's not her house, so her opinion doesn't matter). Maybe I'm misreading the situation but I don't think we can conclude the bold on the information given.