22 Foxhole East

Mumoffourkids

f0xh0les said:

Well this is dull.

I did another trip to my old house to pick up stuff to transfer to my new house as I knew the roads would be empty. The drive was lovely and quick as so many people stayed at home to watch it. Easiest trip I ever made between the two houses.

f0xh0les

Sounds like a very good use of your time @Mumoffourkids

Surprise email time!  Job 2 that I applied for on Friday..... Her Majesty's Mail Service have been in touch...... and so I have just uploaded all my documents to become a seasonal member of Santa's Postal Delivery Army.  Wonder if this time next week I might be employed? I did it when I was last a student and met some lovely people. 

It is just over 5 miles away, and under 20 minutes drive. Could handle that for October/November/December

teapot2

kerri_gt said:

QueenJess said:

Yep. I went to the park with the kids and we were not the only people with that idea. It was packed.

Thank goodness - I felt like the only person not glued to the TV. 
I have an actual funeral to go to imminently, of someone I knew and loved, I felt no compulsion to spend 9hrs watching one of someone I didn't know to just be able to say 'I watched it' 
Was outside doing some stuff at lunchtime, was so quiet it felt like Xmas Day with the lack of normal background hum.

I didn't put the TV on till the late evening and then just watched 'Dave'.  I'd not really watched much in the days before but it seemed a bit inescapable.  Felt better for not watching

f0xh0les

All s/g's silver was silver plate and literally not worth bobbins. Oh well. Only the ring was actually silver and worth less than £5 .

Her brother got his cheque last week on Thursday - 10 days ago - I found out when I rang this morning to check if he had received anything yet. I did not even get a 'thank you'. Just an 'oh yes we have got ours, keep in touch, bye!' Not sure why, but that hurt!  Still, we have never met, so why would they care?

The sister has not been in touch either, so emailed her this morning to check if she has hers.

 Really annoyed about the whole blimmin' thing now. Their whole family is just RUDE!!

This morning I did my expenses for the work last week - will not see that until the end of October, but it will be welcome when it does arrive.  Made a lovely veg stew with herby sausages,  and roasted rosemary apples on the side.  Baked 6 chocolate doughnuts and  6 gingerbread mini-bundts for the volunteer who was 80 last week, whose surprise birthday celebration had to be cancelled due to a certain funeral.  Will ice them later and take them into the staff kitchen as a surprise for him tomorrow. 80+1 week will have to do. He never married or had kids, but is just a really nice old man.  At least he knows how to say please and thank you.

badmemory

f0xh0les said:

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 Really annoyed about the whole blimmin' thing now. Their whole family is just RUDE!!

I'm coming to the conclusion that most people are rude & that until recently most of us haven't noticed how bad they are getting.  We teach our children to say please & thankyou & just hope that it sticks, that is all we can do.  So I will say it for them - thank for all the hard work you put in to sorting this out.  I was lucky my sister said just let me know if you need help & then thankyou when she got the last money & each bit.  Can't ask for more than that.

f0xh0les

The sister has not had her money yet, because she sent in her bank details last week, and now the £ has tanked, she is upset that she won't get as many Canadian $, as she would have received if she had emailed the solicitor at any point in the last 6 months like I have been asking her to.   Obviously my fault.   Not my circus, not my monkeys.

Soon it will all be over.  I just have to hang on to that thought.  This is the sticky bit at the end.  I am never going to hear from her brother again, he has got what he wanted. I doubt I will ever hear from the sister again to be frank once the money hits her account.   I have done my bit.  I am finished with the lot of them.

Today DS2 is 18.   I have successfully raised him to adulthood.  Sadly, he is just not very pleasant.  He has refused to open any presents and has taken himself off to bed after college .  DH is upset by him.  I know exactly what to expect from him - precisely nothing,but I have managed to keep him alive, which is no small feat when he is such a button pushing, wind-up merchant, for 18 years, and now he can vote. 

We are a family of 4 adults and 2 children for the first time EVER!

badmemory

Wow - can't believe that DS2 is 18 already what was he 12 when you started this thread.

LadyWithAPlan

I can't believe the amount of work and lack of respect you have received from the relatives of your SG. Hopefully you will receive your portion soon. Do you have any specific plans or did I miss a journal entry?

Sorry to hear your DS still being a pain  - just remind yourself that boys brains are not fully formed until they are past 25  - although some medical studies are now saying 30! 

From Medical daily Magnetic resonance imaging (MRI) studies have made it possible for scientists to watch the rate at which the PFC matures, and have discovered the male brain doesn't fully develop until age 25. Meanwhile, women experience a maturity rate of 21 years-old.

MRIs have revealed the brain has a developmental process that tends to occur from the back of the brain to the front, which explains why the prefrontal cortex develops last. With an immature PFC, even though the person can intellectualize dangerous situation or poor behaviour, they may engage regardless. The slowness of a man's brain maturation can explain the list of maturity failings, and their own recognition and admittance of those failings.

f0xh0les

The plan is to pay off the mortgage (£75k), thus giving DH a pay rise of £560 a month, a new roof - including a small loft dormer above the main bathroom (which is currently a wasted space), 2 new bathrooms and showers, and a damp proof course and new kitchen. Those are the immediate issues.

If I am careful I might have £60k left, but that is because I have managed to squirrel away a lot of savings with not being able to do anything or go anywhere for the last 3 years (or bloody kids bloody school trips, or losing full PE kits within 48 hours) . Solar panels are on the cards and  definitely solar water heating as I have a large (but skinny) quantity of south facing red brick over 3 storeys that is crying out to be used as a heat radiator - which would leave me just under £50k and vastly reduced fuel bills.

But again I am paralysed by fear of getting it wrong, and the economic  climate is terrifying me.   I need to bite the bullet and do it.  So send me brave vibes - I have been given 2 recommendations for building firms that have done friends' extensions.

apple_muncher

Go for it! You have been saving for a purpose and sg's money means you can do it sooner. No one can predict the economic climate, but the works would improve your quality of life.

As would sending DS2 to the workhouse!!

Along with ds1!