How much rent should my parents charge me?

Pollycat

Tammykitty wrote: »

This is what my parent's house is like.


In their eyes it will always be my home - I do admit to raiding the fridge sometimes (By that I mean - have a cup of tea and a sandwich)


And yes my parents, are allowed to walk into my house without knocking too, and some of my friends etc, simply knock and then walk in.


(the door will be locked if we don't want people simply walking in!)

Our doors - front and back - are always locked, even when we're in.

So nobody would be able to just walk in. I wouldn't want them to, even if was my Mum or my sister.

mellymoo74

My dad would have been devastated if I hadn't just wandered in to the kitchen to make everyone a brew when I went home.

God I miss him

Peter333

fairy_lights wrote: »

I know that myself and my siblings are always welcome at our parents house, but if we walked in, rifled through the mail and helped ourselves to food out of the fridge we'd be seriously overstepping some boundaries.

Tammykitty wrote: »

This is what my parent's house is like.

In their eyes it will always be my home - I do admit to raiding the fridge sometimes (By that I mean - have a cup of tea and a sandwich)

And yes my parents, are allowed to walk into my house without knocking too, and some of my friends etc, simply knock and then walk in.


(the door will be locked if we don't want people simply walking in!)

I agree mostly with the sentiment in that 'notice' posted, but obviously no-one can go through anyone's mail!

Was that what it said though? I am not sure if it said 'rifling through the mail' or 'rifling through the mail looking for magazines...' The punctuation is a bit poor, so it's hard to tell.

Apart from that, yes, our adult children CAN come in without knocking, and can help themselves to tea, coffee, and biscuits. Why on earth would they NOT be allowed to? How odd. I have never lived in an environment, or known an environment where an adult child would have to wait to be let in by their parents. Seems very strange to me.

And yes it IS the same the other way around. We just walk in. Although that said, we never turn up without warning. Why would we? They may not be in, and we would have wasted our petrol and our time!

JP08

At "mum and stepfather"'s house I would (and have) happily used the "hidden" key, walked in, made a cuppa and sat down and waited for their return .... but then again we hardly ever turn up without arranging a visit due to the distance. Certainly would just walk in with a "hello" so as not to startle anyone engrossed in the tv !

However, would not dream of doing the same at my dad's house. Guess it boils down to closeness of relationship - parents split when I was 8 and the relationship is closer to "favourite uncle" than "parent".

Marcon

Time to grow up and join the adult world...

nat21luv

14 years ago, when I was 16, my mum charged me £30 pw rent as I started college full time studying for 4 ALevels and worked a few hours a week for £3per hour at a newsagent. I had to pay train fares, books and my lunch from that- on top of the rent!

Bottom line; grow up and pay your share. We're the same age but I run a house on my own and support 2 children. Your parents are close to retiring and need to conserve every penny.

martinbsp

Wow. I'm not saying anything new here as the thread is full of comments that already say it better.

You need to grow up and stop being so self-centred. Put it this way - if they said you couldn't stay there at all what would you do? Why do you own a pet when you can't afford to look after yourself properly?

Pollycat

Just to point out that this is now the 'Money Moral Dilemma of the week':
https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/5504816

Fujiko

Peter333 wrote: »

I agree mostly with the sentiment in that 'notice' posted, but obviously no-one can go through anyone's mail!

Was that what it said though? I am not sure if it said 'rifling through the mail' or 'rifling through the mail looking for magazines...' The punctuation is a bit poor, so it's hard to tell.

Apart from that, yes, our adult children CAN come in without knocking, and can help themselves to tea, coffee, and biscuits. Why on earth would they NOT be allowed to? How odd. I have never lived in an environment, or known an environment where an adult child would have to wait to be let in by their parents. Seems very strange to me.

And yes it IS the same the other way around. We just walk in. Although that said, we never turn up without warning. Why would we? They may not be in, and we would have wasted our petrol and our time!

I have not read all of the posts, but at last I have found someone who is on my wavelength! Until she left home to get married my daughter now has a house of her own the house in which she grew up is still in my view her home and as such I would never feel resentful if she or any of her family helped themselves from the fridge, store cupboard, and made cups of tea, etc. In actual fact, they always do ask first and do not arrive without warning although they would still be welcome if they did. However, I would not expect to walk into their house unannounced simply because it has never been my home.
I am a widow on a limited income, but I would never dream of charging rent! Just how much extra does it really cost in electricity, water etc and the laundry cost seems to have been resolved. What I would expect would be a contribution towards any identifiable extras, but never, never rent as such. Flowers,chocolates or the occasional meal out would be a nice gesture. I cannot see how you can compare a commercial transaction with support from family, and I know that if at any time I needed help I it would be given willingly. Perhaps we are a close family, but am I really so unusual?
One point with which I would agree. If this woman suffers so from anxiety and panic attacks how on earth is she oing to cope with a new life in a new country, with the additional difference of being married?

Dird

If you're saving £500/month you can afford to give your parents £200/month. If you bf will have the money to support the 2 of you in a few months time he should have the money to help you save up now (giving the £200 you give your parents)

You're adding cost/inconvenience to your parents living with nothing given in return. For all you know they were at it like rabbits before you moved back in & blew out that burning candle of passion