How much rent should my parents charge me?

Thunderbird4

LKRDN_Morgan wrote: »

I'd give up if I were you. It's clear there's some 'issues' going on here
Posting your living situation in detail then telling someone to mind their own business when they ask a further question?
Having your previous posts trawled?
Bizarre

Maybe when your post count is a little higher you won't be so berated for disagreeing with the majority

Yes I do appear to have enraged a clique!

I still don't understand the bedroom thing though

just_trying

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Exactly. When I started work at the age of 17 I contributed to the household budget with a third of my pay. This allows the one third to spend and one third to save which is often seen as a good foundation. My family weren't well off in any way and it meant life was just easier for everyone.

Thanks Torry Quine, that's what my son pays, what my daughter will pay and it includes everything.

Thunderbird4

just_trying wrote: »

Thanks Torry Quine, that's what my son pays, what my daughter will pay and it includes everything.

If you're taking a third of your kids wages it does appear that you're not charging them board (e.g a cost based on what it costs you to home them). Instead it appears you are charging them some sort of living tax for being in your house.

just_trying

Thunderbird4 wrote: »

I would happily profit from my son if he won £60 million and wanted to give me something. I wouldnt ask for anything but I know he would give me (and his sister) some of his winnings.

Okay, so you would profit from you own child/adult when your making comments about people charging a fair amount. Sounds expected to me to be paid something.

lady1964

I discussed this thread with my 21 year old DD earlier and I asked her about her friends and if any of them pay rent/board, all of them do. One buys her own food, she lives with her dad but gives her mum cash as her mum has some financial difficulties. Another friend is a uni student but has 2 p/t jobs, he has a car on finance but his parents pay the monthly fee and he pays barely any rent.

I asked my DD, if we told her to stop paying rent how would she feel, she said she would still want to pay something as it wouldn't feel right not to, she would want to contribute. She knows we don't rely on her financial contribution to pay our bills (we are mortgage free), but she appreciates that running a home costs money and she feels we have helped her understand that life isn't a free ride. Equally she knows that if she needed any kind of support we provide it for her.

just_trying

Thunderbird4 wrote: »

If you're taking a third of your kids wages it does appear that you're not charging them board (e.g a cost based on what it costs you to home them). Instead it appears you are charging them some sort of living tax for being in your house.

Get your facts right, my son pays £50 a third of his wages he works hard for, my daughter will pay £40 out of student funding and be left with £80 a week.

They understand how much it costs to live. Just because your adult lives Scot free means nothing.

Living tax, what does that mean.

Thunderbird4

lady1964 wrote: »

I discussed this thread with my 21 year old DD earlier and I asked her about her friends and if any of them pay rent/board, all of them do. One buys her own food, she lives with her dad but gives her mum cash as her mum has some financial difficulties. Another friend is a uni student but has 2 p/t jobs, he has a car on finance but his parents pay the monthly fee and he pays barely any rent.

I asked my DD, if we told her to stop paying rent how would she feel, she said she would still want to pay something as it wouldn't feel right not to, she would want to contribute. She knows we don't rely on her financial contribution to pay our bills (we are mortgage free), but she appreciates that running a home costs money and she feels we have helped her understand that life isn't a free ride. Equally she knows that if she needed any kind of support we provide it for her.

Sounds like you've raised a daughter to be proud of. Well done.

silvercar

suki1964 wrote: »

So we ( me and DH ) bought and paid for a 5 bedroom, 3 bathroom house so we could accomadation the olds

At HUGE expense

A wee 2 bedroom flat or bungalow would have done us grand.

At least you will have a larger capital gain from living in a bigger home.;)

Torry_Quine

Thunderbird4 wrote: »

If you're taking a third of your kids wages it does appear that you're not charging them board (e.g a cost based on what it costs you to home them). Instead it appears you are charging them some sort of living tax for being in your house.

No its not that at all. How do you know thay a third isn't less than the actual costs. I still had two thirds of my money which was more than plenty. Actually when I was married and buying a house seven years later (along with my husband) we had enough money for everything without having to wait and save up more.

BobQ

I imagine the OP has long since departed this thread. I found the thread rather amusing. Most parents sympathise with the difficulties their children have when staring out in life and even when they have a short lived problem later in life. But the OP really takes the biscuit. When you are entering retirement you expect to have a less complicated life, not to do your 35 year old child's washing and have them sponge off you while they save enough money to sod off abroad.

The OP should be self supporting. £50 is generous in my view for a 35yo, but it really is up to them.

Anxiety? It seems strange to me that someone who has Anxiety is planning to travel to live in a country where stress is a way of life.