How much rent should my parents charge me?

Thunderbird4

Detroit wrote: »

You are making a profit from someone only if there is some of the money they pay you left after you have covered the costs they incur.

In the vast majority of cases, board paid by adult children doesn't even cover the extra cost to the parent of their presence, never minding leaving a surplus (profit!) on top.

I like phrases like "vast majority of cases". What evidence have you got to back this up?

just_trying

Thunderbird4 wrote: »

I don't give my wife pocket money. Where did you get that from?

On the other thread about finances I explained that our money went into a joint pot which we used to pay the bills etc. We then give ourselves an equal amount of money to spend on what we like. If you find that unreasonable please tell me why?

I'm still confused by your situation. You said if your mother didn't live with you then you would live in a two bedroom house. Yet because your mum does live with you, you live in a five bedroom house. I just don't understand why!

I'm sorry if you find it offensive but it is profiteering. I find it equally offensive that the fact I don't charge my son rent is a terrible thing to do....

It's none of your business.

It's not profiteering have you not understood that yet, it's about adults paying towards there keep. (Understand paying towards).

It's not terrible you don't take anything from your son, though he's probably laughing about it, if his other friends parents live in the real world. A adult as your son is should be paying something, some would call him a sponger. My son is 17 and has paid for over a year not moaned once, he understood how much it costs to run a house !!. My 18 year old daughter will be paying soon to do they grudge the money or think I making money no, they seem to understand no matter where you live it's not free.

LKRDN_Morgan

Detroit wrote: »

You are making a profit from someone only if there is some of the money they pay you left after you have covered the costs they incur.

In the vast majority of cases, board paid by adult children doesn't even cover the extra cost to the parent of their presence, never minding leaving a surplus (profit!) on top.

And that is what people are disagreeing on. Food is the only thing I can think of that would drastically change the parents outgoings (unless of course benefits are involved) so charging them anymore than the difference prechild living there vs child living there is in fact making profit

suki1964

Thunderbird4 wrote: »

I don't give my wife pocket money. Where did you get that from?

On the other thread about finances I explained that our money went into a joint pot which we used to pay the bills etc. We then give ourselves an equal amount of money to spend on what we like. If you find that unreasonable please tell me why?

I'm still confused by your situation. You said if your mother didn't live with you then you would live in a two bedroom house. Yet because your mum does live with you, you live in a five bedroom house. I just don't understand why!

I'm sorry if you find it offensive but it is profiteering. I find it equally offensive that the fact I don't charge my son rent is a terrible thing to do....

You posted here that you work hard to pay for your family to live at home

You asked wether you should charge your wife rent

You have also posted, berating someone else that all adults should pay their way

That you being the high earner, take your wife's wages into the pot to pay the bills, then you give her an allowance

Now you can't have it both ways.

Either all adults living under the roof are equally liable for the cost of keeping that roof, or their not

Make your flipping mind up


And as for my house, I'd be a lot better off with a two bedroom house, wouldn't cost me a penny more then I'm already paying in rates, electric oil, maintenance etc. But for my mother, who needs the heat on all day, the electic on all day, the full rates, maintenance costs, insurance, etc etc etc, she would be a hell of a lot worse off


Asking adults who live with adults in a family unit to pay their way is in no way profiteering

Detroit

Thunderbird4 wrote: »

Yeah you know I was referencing the paragraph above my final sentence which specifically referenced you. Still it's always sensible to try and move the argument away from the main point when you know you're in the wrong.

Myself (and other people) see the benefits of not profiting from your own children. I also disagree with your point that not charging rent creates an unhealthily relationship between a parent and their off Spring.

i was reading the other thread about the woman who found out her husband was having an affair and you've basically accused her of being a liar and making the whole thing up. It seems like you deliberately try and be confrontational.

There really is no need to act like that

I am not confrontational, although I will defend a viewpoint if I believe it right to do so, be it my own or in support of another.

If you look back over the thread you'll see I addressed you only after you had made a number of abrupt and quite offensive remarks to others.

I did not start in this vein, just responded to you as you had to others. You adopted a very belligerent tone and were derogatory about people's choices long before i decided to weigh in.

Even now, you are in disputes with a number of other posters, yet you believe it is me, and others who are unpleasant rather than reviewing the way you have conducted yourself in this discussion.

Torry_Quine

just_trying wrote: »

They said board, how arethey making money. Rent, council tax, food, heating, water, sewage, Internet, electric it goes on and all costs money. It's not free as far as I'm aware. Adults normally contribute to a household.

Exactly. When I started work at the age of 17 I contributed to the household budget with a third of my pay. This allows the one third to spend and one third to save which is often seen as a good foundation. My family weren't well off in any way and it meant life was just easier for everyone.

Thunderbird4

suki1964 wrote: »

You posted here that you work hard to pay for your family to live at home

You asked wether you should charge your wife rent

You have also posted, berating someone else that all adults should pay their way

That you being the high earner, take your wife's wages into the pot to pay the bills, then you give her an allowance

Now you can't have it both ways.

Either all adults living under the roof are equally liable for the cost of keeping that roof, or their not

Make your flipping mind up


And as for my house, I'd be a lot better off with a two bedroom house, wouldn't cost me a penny more then I'm already paying in rates, electric oil, maintenance etc. But for my mother, who needs the heat on all day, the electic on all day, the full rates, maintenance costs, insurance, etc etc etc, she would be a hell of a lot worse off


Asking adults who live with adults in a family unit to pay their way is in no way profiteering

This is an excellent example of someone manipulating what a poster wrote.

1) I said should I charge my wife and dog rent as well. I am amazed that you took that seriously...
2) me and my wife are a unit and share our money. I am amazed that you think this is weird.
3) as I explained I don't give my wife an allowance we both take the same amount of money from the pot each month. It's odd you think this is weird.
4) There is a difference between my wife and my son. My wife owns half of everything we have, my son doesn't. I therefore don't consider him financially liable for my assets.
5) I work hard but I like my job. I don't resent working hard.

just_trying

Thunderbird4 wrote: »

Board is just a polite word for rent to salve the parents conscience

Of course the child is profiteering from their parent. They get to live for free in the house. It's my son and I am more than happy for this to happen as I am a lot wealthier than him.

If my son was the person who won £60 million quid yesterday I would suspect I would profit from this as he would now be significantly wealthier than me. It's what families do. Those with more money help out those with less money. The fact people seem to think this is wrong says a lot for the state of your family relationships.

Profit from your child, sorry adult surely not. Your against that, even when people talked of taking a fair share and less !!.

Wealthier than you means nothing, it's his money, surely.

LKRDN_Morgan

Thunderbird4 wrote: »

This is an excellent example of someone manipulating what a poster wrote.

1) I said should I charge my wife and dog rent as well. I am amazed that you took that seriously...
2) me and my wife are a unit and share our money. I am amazed that you think this is weird.
3) as I explained I don't give my wife an allowance we both take the same amount of money from the pot each month. It's odd you think this is weird.
4) There is a difference between my wife and my son. My wife owns half of everything we have, my son doesn't. I therefore don't consider him financially liable for my assets.
5) I work hard but I like my job. I don't resent working hard.

I'd give up if I were you. It's clear there's some 'issues' going on here
Posting your living situation in detail then telling someone to mind their own business when they ask a further question?
Having your previous posts trawled?
Bizarre

Maybe when your post count is a little higher you won't be so berated for disagreeing with the majority

Thunderbird4

just_trying wrote: »

Profit from your child, sorry adult surely not. Your against that, even when people talked of taking a fair share and less !!.

Wealthier than you means nothing, it's his money, surely.

I would happily profit from my son if he won £60 million and wanted to give me something. I wouldnt ask for anything but I know he would give me (and his sister) some of his winnings.