We'd like to remind Forumites to please avoid political debate on the Forum... Read More »
We're aware that some users are experiencing technical issues which the team are working to resolve. See the Community Noticeboard for more info. Thank you for your patience.
📨 Have you signed up to the Forum's new Email Digest yet? Get a selection of trending threads sent straight to your inbox daily, weekly or monthly!
Guest staying free - house rules?
Options
Comments
-
firely2327 wrote: »I'll go out and come back, obviously.
But then she'd be in the house alone, which you've made it clear you absolutely don't want because you don't trust her not to rummage or burn the house down.
If you think she's going to go rummaging if you give her a key why do you think she isn't if you go out and leave her alone? What's the difference?Accept your past without regret, handle your present with confidence and face your future without fear0 -
firely2327 wrote: »Cheers for the insult! There really is no need to be such an !!!! about it. I'm not going to apologise for making sure I'm covered for the worst case scenario. Paying guests are not covered so in this instance, an unpaying guest, I need to check legalities.
In either case she's not having a key, end of.
Secondly, there aren't a lot of rules
1. no smoking
2. no meat
3. I'll be there to let you in in the evening. I don't see these as being unreasonable at all, nor would any sane, rational person. Considering she's to be at meetings by 9am, as do I start work then, and I'll be home earlier than her, unless she skips out of the sessions (in which case why travel half way across the world for an opportunity only to skive), it's not like they are OTT rules. :cool:
That's a bit of an understatement though because you could add,
4. Limited access to property.
5. No telephone calls.
6. Early curfew.
Apart from the question of meat, that's more rules than I had at the age of 17 with very old fashioned parents.0 -
The visitor is not there long-term and the OP is doing her a favour. Therefore, I don't think her 'rules' are onerous.Member #14 of SKI-ers club
Words, words, they're all we have to go by!.
(Pity they are mangled by this autocorrect!)0 -
Could you perhaps keep her passport for assurance, or something along those lines?0
-
Have you checked whether there are any evening events at the conference? I'd be surprised if there wasn't a conference dinner or similar formal event, never mind informal ones.0
-
pollypenny wrote: »The visitor is not there long-term and the OP is doing her a favour. Therefore, I don't think her 'rules' are onerous.
Absolutely agree. And I speak as someone who would give a key to a stranger, but accepts that other people may not be as trusting/gullible as myself.
Can you imagine a thread on here where someone had had a house guest, given them a key, and they'd damaged the house? The very same people who are posting on this thread would be the ones blaming the victim, saying "You gave a door key to a complete stranger", "you didn't check with your insurance first", and how it was all their own fault!0 -
dealer_wins wrote: »Personally I would never allow a stranger to stay in my house and/or hold a key to it. Sod that its just asking for trouble.
It could invalidate my home insurance and these days you can trust NO ONE!!!
I'm with you. Some relatives and friends are annoying enough when they stay but a stranger? No way. I too have animals and I wouldn't trust their safety to a stranger, and I'd also be concerned about the place not being left locked up properly when they go out. Insurance has already been mentioned!0 -
ThumbRemote wrote: »Can you imagine a thread on here where someone had had a house guest, given them a key, and they'd damaged the house? The very same people who are posting on this thread would be the ones blaming the victim, saying "You gave a door key to a complete stranger", "you didn't check with your insurance first", and how it was all their own fault!
Show me an insurance policy that says giving a guest a key will invalidate the policy.
If I was so untrusting I wouldn't have a guest to stay in the first place. I certainly wouldn't expect someone to stay for a week and have to stay out of the house outside my own working hours. There are too many variables, all more likely than the guest causing damage to the house, for me to feel happy to leave a 17yo girl visiting a foreign country with no access to a safe environment.Accept your past without regret, handle your present with confidence and face your future without fear0 -
peachyprice wrote: »Show me an insurance policy that says giving a guest a key will invalidate the policy.
They don't, but when you specify that you have certain locks installed the insurance company expects you to use them! Can the guest be trusted to do that is the question.0 -
They don't, but when you specify that you have certain locks installed the insurance company expects you to use them! Can the guest be trusted to do that is the question.
That makes no sense whatsoever. If the guest doesn't have a key they can't actually lock the door on the way out!
I can just imagine the conversation if OP got burgled: 'So Ms Firefly why weren't the doors double locked when the house was empty?' Because I refused to give my guest a key that would enable them to lock the doors properly.'Accept your past without regret, handle your present with confidence and face your future without fear0
This discussion has been closed.
Confirm your email address to Create Threads and Reply

Categories
- All Categories
- 351K Banking & Borrowing
- 253.1K Reduce Debt & Boost Income
- 453.6K Spending & Discounts
- 244K Work, Benefits & Business
- 598.9K Mortgages, Homes & Bills
- 176.9K Life & Family
- 257.3K Travel & Transport
- 1.5M Hobbies & Leisure
- 16.1K Discuss & Feedback
- 37.6K Read-Only Boards