No children at wedding

bottom_biscuits

Big weddings are for both families to get together and celebrate. So to ban children is churlish, and anyway where's your cut-off point going to be? age 13? 14? 15?

Bit different if you're going to just elope to Gretna Green or somewhere with your beloved and a couple of friends as witnesses.

HornetSaver

Some social events involving adults take place with children, some take place without. I've never met anyone who doesn't accept that this is a fact of life.

But try organising an adult-only event before 7pm, and you'll end up having family and friends disown you. Absolute hysteria.

Gloomendoom

Hemera wrote: »

In general, I think the organiser of an event has a duty to make people comfortable, and not just to do as he/she pleases "because it's my party". But then again, I come from another place and my culture is different.

Although the "it's your day, you have a right to offend anybody you want" point of view with regard to weddings seems prevalent on this board, I don't think it is established in British culture per se.

Runningfast

I was best man for a mate last summer there was about 8 children at the ceremony between 1 and 5 years old. All I can say was that was hard work. The couples youngest child wouldn't go to his grandparents so the bride had to hold him during the entire service, with him, at times screaming. It seemed that one kid started screaming and that set the others off. I felt sorry for my mate as I turned around to see his mother and father and various friends all heading outside to deal with screaming children.

Jagraf

bottom_biscuits wrote: »

Big weddings are for both families to get together and celebrate. So to ban children is churlish, and anyway where's your cut-off point going to be? age 13? 14? 15?

Bit different if you're going to just elope to Gretna Green or somewhere with your beloved and a couple of friends as witnesses.

Big or small weddings are for the bride and groom to do exactly as they want. It's a bond between two people. They needn't have any family members of they don't want to, indeed, some don't actually have any.

bottom_biscuits

Jagraf wrote: »

Big or small weddings are for the bride and groom to do exactly as they want.

and sod everybody else??

Is this the sort of society we're living in now?

Jagraf

bottom_biscuits wrote: »

and sod everybody else??

Is this the sort of society we're living in now?

Well where do you draw the line then? Do you invite all relatives? All friends? Only first cousins? I don't agree that a wedding is for both families to party, my priority is a marriage. Yours is different.

bottom_biscuits

Jagraf wrote: »

Well where do you draw the line then? Do you invite all relatives? All friends? Only first cousins? I don't agree that a wedding is for both families to party, my priority is a marriage. Yours is different.

I would consider other people's thoughts and feelings, not just my own. I have a bit of a dislike of bridezillas (and groomzillas)!

Mojisola

Jagraf wrote: »

Big or small weddings are for the bride and groom to do exactly as they want. It's a bond between two people. They needn't have any family members of they don't want to, indeed, some don't actually have any.

This does seem to be the way things are going.

A marriage (rather than the party afterwards) used to be thought of as a public union of two families and so it was the business of the close relatives as well as the couple.

Most couples needed the support and help of their families in order to get a household together and to raise their children.

Jagraf

bottom_biscuits wrote: »

I would consider other people's thoughts and feelings, not just my own. I have a bit of a dislike of bridezillas (and groomzillas)!

Whose feelings though? Everyone you are inviting or everyone you can't invite?