Trying To Concieve

keelykat

Doing it two-three times at the right time-will work, you just need to work out when youre ovulating etc.

Funny thing is-as soon as my OH knew we were ttc, he suddenly got very horny and wouldnt leave me alone so you never know!! (and it obviously worked!)

Good luck Miss Penny Pincher!

keely.

ps and i understand how you feel about waiting, we were originally going to start ttc early last year but ended up putting it off for various reasons so it drove me mad for a while!

honeypop

Well I had my Day 21 blood tests this morning, my surgery will call me if they need to see me to discuss anything once the results are in.

I think I already know though that I'm not ovulating, as been using the test sticks and nothing has shown up and not had any other symptoms (ewcm etc). I was ovulating when we first started ttc last July but since November-ish, have had no signs of ovulation boo hoo.

static999

Like Miss Penny Pincher, I've also been reading this thread with a lot of interest for quite a number of weeks now. I still have no idea abt fertile or infertile periods as I haven't been paying much attention to myself! DH showed signs of wanting to start a family 6 mths ago (just talking about it). After finding out how hard it could potentially be & we aren't getting any younger(!) I discussed abt trying to ttc for the next 2 mths & he agreed.

I figured my fertile period could be last wk & told DH we have to do it! He laughed it off & was tired that nite. I said OK, it'll be tomorrow then. Come tomorrow, he was tired again. We did however try the next 3 days after that but it was either I'm not wet enough or he's tired & don't have enough energy to do it! Needless to say, I was really dissapointed coz I felt he didn't try hard enough & we've missed our chance this month. I don't think he knows how I really feel but there is nothing he could do as he's tired. I'll have to wait for AF and try again next month. If its the same story next month, looks like I'm only going to TTC mid next year when I'm 34 :mad: and god knows how long it'll take to finally succeed. I'm just starting to get worried about the quality of the eggs, age factor etc... I know it's only going to get harder from here as embarrasingly we don't do it "very regularly" to begin with . We are both "constantly tired" due to work.

I don't know what I can do to increase my chances. Any ideas or suggestions?

skintbutsmiling01

I've heard that you may not ovulate every month?

honeypop

skintbutsmiling01 wrote: »

I've heard that you may not ovulate every month?

Yes my doctor told me this, so I don't know exactly what they will determine from the test...that I didn't ovulate THIS month? I know that already! I haven't ovulated in the last 4 months according to my symptoms/test sticks.

Static999 - If you don't 'do it' that often you probably would be better off actually calculating your ovulation times to maximise the chances of catching the right day rather than just figuring when it is. OH might feel under pressure to perform though when you announce that tonight is the night! Although make sure he understands that trying to conceive actually does mean trying, as in making an effort to do it if you don't do it that often. Are you both taking relevant supplements, watching diet and exercise etc?

shelly

skintbutsmiling01 wrote: »

I've heard that you may not ovulate every month?

Iv'e been told that too. When I missed a couple of periods but had neg pg tests my doc told me that if you don't ovulate you don't have a period as there is nothing to get rid of (ie the egg)

Also when they do the 21 day blood test that can only tell you if you have ovulated that month, unfortunately it doesn't tell you if you ovulated in the past or are going to in the future.

r.mac_2

Gosh - it is all so complicated! Where is the best place to start *please don't say having sex!*

Miss_Penny_Pincher_2

keelykat wrote: »

Doing it two-three times at the right time-will work, you just need to work out when youre ovulating etc.

Funny thing is-as soon as my OH knew we were ttc, he suddenly got very horny and wouldnt leave me alone so you never know!! (and it obviously worked!)

Good luck Miss Penny Pincher!

keely.

ps and i understand how you feel about waiting, we were originally going to start ttc early last year but ended up putting it off for various reasons so it drove me mad for a while!

thanks keely - you have reassured me

wow i hope that ttc acts as an aphrodisiac for Mr Pincher too - I just have fears though that he will come up with excuses :S

Congratulations on your little 'P'!!!

Miss_Penny_Pincher_2

static999 wrote: »

Like Miss Penny Pincher, I've also been reading this thread with a lot of interest for quite a number of weeks now. I still have no idea abt fertile or infertile periods as I haven't been paying much attention to myself! DH showed signs of wanting to start a family 6 mths ago (just talking about it). After finding out how hard it could potentially be & we aren't getting any younger(!) I discussed abt trying to ttc for the next 2 mths & he agreed.

I figured my fertile period could be last wk & told DH we have to do it! He laughed it off & was tired that nite. I said OK, it'll be tomorrow then. Come tomorrow, he was tired again. We did however try the next 3 days after that but it was either I'm not wet enough or he's tired & don't have enough energy to do it! Needless to say, I was really dissapointed coz I felt he didn't try hard enough & we've missed our chance this month. I don't think he knows how I really feel but there is nothing he could do as he's tired. I'll have to wait for AF and try again next month. If its the same story next month, looks like I'm only going to TTC mid next year when I'm 34 :mad: and god knows how long it'll take to finally succeed. I'm just starting to get worried about the quality of the eggs, age factor etc... I know it's only going to get harder from here as embarrasingly we don't do it "very regularly" to begin with . We are both "constantly tired" due to work.

I don't know what I can do to increase my chances. Any ideas or suggestions?

hi static - welcome to the thread too

I can appreciate how disappointed you have felt - I can really imagine that Mr Pincher will be the same because he always usually excuses whichI find frustrating and upsetting. I'm also afraid that we could miss our chance because of the irregularity of how often we do it and cos of getting older etc.

I've found www.fertilityfriend.com a good place to predict when your most fertile stage is. This requires taking temperature every day though at same time when wake up using a body basal thermometer because the body's temperature tends to drop just before ovulation then rises.

Another simpler sign is checking cervical mucus - the most fertile cervical mucus is supposed to be egg white i believe - when it's very stretchy etc This take place just before ovulation so is the ideal time to ttc.

I read that the best days for ttc are the 4 days before ovulation so i was thinking of using fertility friend to try to work out when day 4 before ovulation is and then attempt to seduce Mr Pincher and if he isn't in the mood that day I won't be too disappointed because have 3 more days to attempt it so even if only happens once that month it will have been during the fertile phrase. Sounds similar to your plan too!

jiblets1

My hubby and I were never too regular with the wink wink either, but we're much better now and we enjoy it too! We "make ourselves" in my fertile week, but that's only three times, and the first time is always fun because we've not been forcing ourselves constantly, and the next two are not too much of a chore and then....... we rest.
We were happy prior to ttc with once a fortnight, and now we're in the habit we do feel like we're missing out if we've been abstinent for a week.

So basically, I think you'll get in the habit and your bodies will follow suit.

Also, make sure Hubby is onboard fully - it shouldn't be all your responsibility to be the one pushing things. If you're not careful you'll end up too stressed to be capable of conceiving!