Trying To Concieve

skintbutsmiling01

How much does a round of fertility treatment cost- is it about £3k?
I'd heard some reports about fertility and caffeine as well but apparently a safe limit is 4 cups a day. I dont even have 4 cups a week after giving up smoking- makes me crave!
I found out oh had been smoking in work just not at home:mad: but has said he is giving up totally on Monday (new car more important than family???)
Can smoking really have such an effect on "man butter" :rotfl: from earlier post? I read somewhere it led to a 24% increase in motility?
So if someone had 1% motility, this could increase to 25%, giving you a 1 in 4 chance? (Can you tell I'm grasping at straws!!!):o

Also, these hospitals dont advertise the clinics do they! Mind you it doesnt really matter if the sample was faulty or not - still no baby bump

shelly

skintbutsmiling01 wrote: »

Can smoking really have such an effect on "man butter" :rotfl: from earlier post? I read somewhere it led to a 24% increase in motility?
So if someone had 1% motility, this could increase to 25%, giving you a 1 in 4 chance? (Can you tell I'm grasping at straws!!!):o

Found this....hold your mouse near his man bits http://gosmokefree.nhs.uk/quit-tools/my-body/

And I got this *"In females, cigarette smoking has been linked with both an early onset of menopause as well as directly with infertility. In males it has been linked with decreased sperm density, a lower proportion of motile sperm, decreased total sperm count, reduced testosterone secretion and, as previously shown, an increase in morphologically abnormal spermatids and spermatozoa, which can be a direct cause of various fetal malformations ."* From here..... http://www.foresight-preconception.org.uk/booklet_smoking.htm



So yes it seems it does have an effect on "man milk":rotfl: And not in a good way like you thought. But how do they know that the men tested wouldn't have had bad sperm anyway had they not been smokers? At the end of the day if either men or women are going to have fertility issues they will have them.
Men and women who smoke have conceived ok for years, many in my family are smokers and they have had no problems.
Also they say being overweight (like myself) can lead to infertility. I know lots of big women who have conceived and carried perfectly well. Its just that I need help and have been told to lose weight or I won't get that help. But thats a whole other thread :rotfl:

keelykat

I think over all though, for better chances of getting pregnant you both need to look after yourselves.. good diet, exercise, cut back on booze/fags etc. I do reckon it affects fertility/sperm.

keely.

jiblets1

My friend (close friend - she'd have to be to get away with this) texted me last night to inform me that she has bought me a green man. This is apparently a pagan fertility sign and a protector of homes. hmmm. I guess it can't do any harm....

shelly

jiblets1 wrote: »

My friend (close friend - she'd have to be to get away with this) texted me last night to inform me that she has bought me a green man. This is apparently a pagan fertility sign and a protector of homes. hmmm. I guess it can't do any harm....

It can't hurt at all. If next month you get pg, you will swear by it and we will all rush out and buy one :rotfl:

jiblets1

Ok, a good school friend of mine, my age, got married at about the same time as me, started trying the same time as me has just let us all know she's 14 weeks pregnant. I am absolutely very pleased for her. I also feel a bit sick at the news. I hope it doesn't show when I see her....

shelly

jiblets1 wrote: »

Ok, a good school friend of mine, my age, got married at about the same time as me, started trying the same time as me has just let us all know she's 14 weeks pregnant. I am absolutely very pleased for her. I also feel a bit sick at the news. I hope it doesn't show when I see her....

I know how you feel. Not long after my second mc my cousin (who lived next door at the time) came round to tell me she was expecting her 4th baby. She had waited ages to come and tell me, she said she felt sick everytime she thought about telling me. I was over the moon for her while at the same time being envious and thinking why not me?

I think you will be ok when you see her as she will probably be so excited she won't notice if you aren't as excited as her. Please don't feel bad though, we are all human and can't help feeling like we do.

Does she know you are trying too? If she does and does notice anything just tell her you are a little envious of her good fortune. I'm sure she will understand.

jiblets1

Thanks Shelly, that's what I needed to hear. I've not told my husband that this has got me feeling all funny, because he's a little sensitive about the whole thing himself at the moment, so I don't want to make him feel worse.

My friend does kind of know we're trying. We had a quiet conversation back in July where we each said we were about to get going on it, but she's obviously had success a whole lot more quickly than me.

I do sincerely feel so pleased for her, I'm just worried that this is going to be the beginning of another bad month for me emotionally. I'm working on the assumption that nothing's happened again this month, and if I don't sort my head out over this it's going to hit me hard again. Never mind. We can endure...

I'm also a little worried that m husband and I are working so hard at not upsetting each other that we're communicating a little less than usual. I've not told him that this is making me sad, and I always tell him everything. He seems less fragile about it at the moment, but is it just that he's protecting me too?

lwcus78

Hi Jiblets,
I'd tell him. He probably feels the same as you do about things. I felt a bit funny on the news of my friend giving birth. I told my husband expecting him to dissapprove at my 'jelousy' buthe just hugged me and said it was all normal feelings and he felt the same. I was fine when I went up to see my friend and the new baby.
Also, I wouldn't assume nothings happened this month. Same pregnant women get discharge early pregnancy.
Dont give up yet, its still early days. Pill can take ages to get out of your system. How long were you on it for? I'd been 8yrs without a break and was told by my GP it may take up to 18 months. xx

jiblets1

I was on the pill most of the time for 10 years and we've been trying since August. I know people wait so very long for their babies, but it ALREADY feels like ages....