Trying To Concieve

AnnieM_3

Congrats Wannawin! :j

I'm feeling quite pleased today- I started doing the OV stick tests on Wednesday, and today's test showed a (quite faint but definitely there) line! I'm overjoyed!

The calculator on www.mymonthlycycles.com shows me as due to OV on Monday, but I'm hedging my bets at Sunday, as my cycles vary between 24 and 27 days, and it reckons 26 is my average.

Guess what I'm doing tonight! hehe

Rosie_Bud

GracieP wrote: »

Poor RosieBud. I was talking to a friend at home who had a mc recently. We were feeling really sorry for ourselves but in the end cheered ourselves up with the fact that at least we have the love our dogs and that at least with dogs you could still get a good nights sleep. You seem to be having the worst of both worlds right now.


(((((Rosie)))))

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Thanks Gracie, you made me laugh with that one!

Rosie_Bud

Thanks for your kind words girls, it means a lot that there are people out there feeling the same way as I do.

Reetyre, yes the thought of a ickle baby inside does weird things to my brain, but I still can't wait!

I really hate AF time as you know full well that there is pretty much no chance of conceiving and really not that into bding when AF is here either. So basically that gives me a zero chance of conceiving cos DH aint coming near when AF is in town!:p

It is really hard not to get despondent though, isn't it. Especially when it has been such a long time trying.

About the September baby thing, I always laugh because my DH birthday was yesterday (25th Sept) so I always think his parents had a christmas shag, lol! That is moneysaving, nice cheap pressie for the bloke, seeing as though they are so easily pleased . I don't mind adding to the September baby statistic so if mother nature wants to smile down on me in December then I will graciously accept! Would prefer it sooner though (but you knew I was going to say that didn't you)

Hope everyone has a good weekend with plenty of bding thrown in for good measure!

Rosie Bud xx

GracieP

Rosie_Bud wrote: »

I don't mind adding to the September baby statistic so if mother nature wants to smile down on me in December then I will graciously accept! Would prefer it sooner though (but you knew I was going to say that didn't you)

The thing with the September baby thing is that you'd have to spend your 3rd trimester in the height of summer. I just know that if I end up due in September it will be the hottest summer in decades and I'll be a big sweaty, cranky blimp.
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Felicity

Hi, I havent read all of this thread and I can't remember if I posted on it before but I just wanted to give a little hope to you all.

We were ttc for FIVE years, unexplained infertility and were a month away from starting IVF when BINGO! We conceived naturally and we have a little nearly one year old boy now.

I am getting broody again now and we will be trying again soon, I am trying to be optomistic and I am so dearly wanting a little sibling for my son but if it doesnt happen I will just always be so grateful for the fact that I have my little boy with me.

I have PCOS and endimetroisis (sp), I was put on metformin, followed a special diet for PCOS, had a lap and dye and a very good chilled out holiday just before we conceived.

We were seeing a specialist at the hospital for about 3 months before we conceived (I so wish I had seen a doctor and got a referral a long time before that but I was burrying my head in the sand) and he was so amazed that we had managed it that he saw me nearly every week for the first 4 months to ensure that we had a healthy pregnancy, lots of scans, check ups etc. I know he bragged (as so he should) about it to other doctors because we met a few along the way and they said 'oh you are the ones that Dr x got pregnant naturally!!!'

There is hope for everybody, my life became all consumed by wanting to have a baby and I was very depressed just before we managed it.

Good luck to all you ladies, blowing lots of baby dust your way!

Felicity x

sparklygirl1

Can I just advise, don't go to ikea if seeing lots of preggy ladies makes you feel down. I went today and it hurt!

chickpea

Hi Sparklygirl - I can well imagine!

When I was approaching the 3 yr TTC mark in June, I had to buy a new baby gift for my friend who had just had a baby girl (I wasn't jealous of her baby - she got pregnant the hard and expensive way, with ICSI) and made the mistake of trying to enter JoJo Bebe Maman - I nearly made it over the threashold, but there was an invisible forcefield that kept me out. I went to M&S in the end - much better!

Rosie_Bud

I have to say sparklygirl I totally agree with you. Although I don't think where I live it is specific to one place. Pregnant women and babies are literally EVERYWHERE! I went into town yesterday and it was wall to wall babies or babies to be, very depressing when you are ttc!

On a good note, AF is on its way out so can start bding again - and hoping and hoping and hoping........

Rosie Bud xx

AnnieM_3

Hiya,

I have a dilemma I need some advice on please - sorry, this could be a long one...

Basically, it's about telling friends we are ttc. Of my two closest friends, one knows we are, but the other doesn't. The one who doesn't know can't have kids (but says she is quite ok with this, as is her OH), and I already know it will be very difficult to tell her as and when I do get a bfp. The problem is, being in a social situation with her means we'd normally have some wine, and she's a smoker too. Obviously, I am sworn off alcohol, and I'm trying to stay out of smoky places too. There have already been some awkward questions about why I'm not drinking, and I think she may suspect I'm actually pg.

So, what I'm wondering is: do I keep quiet about ttc until I have some bfp news, or do I let her know we are ttc now?

My reasons for telling her now would be:

1. To give her time to get used to the idea - As and when we get a bfp it would be less of a shock
2. It would be nice to be able to announce a bfp without feeling awkward - I'd like it to be a celebration rather than an apology iyswim.

My reasons for not telling her now would be:

1. I'm worried she'll start avoiding me, thinking I'm baby-mad, or that we've somehow 'betrayed' her by not showing solidarity by staying in the DINK brigade.
2. Apart from on here, I'm trying to not be all about ttc - I told my other closest friend because I just had to share it with someone, but we don't talk about it really.
3. I don't want her to be upset - I find it difficult enough being around pregnant women and babies, and I know it will be really hard for her.

Any advice gratefully received!

AnnieMx

morganb

Hi AnnieM

If she is that close a friend, then perhaps honesty is the best policy? I think she would rather hear that you were TTC and get used to the idea before you announce a BFP?? But only if you would consider telling her this anyway (not just because you're sensitive to the fact she can't have children of her own) I think this would then, as you say, avoid any awkwardness. After all, she has been upfront about not being able to have children and, in so doing, shows that she is mentally at a stage to talk about it.
I really don't think that any friend will feel betrayed by you, especially if they have had time to get used to the idea of you TTC if this is still a sensitive topic for them.