Trying To Concieve

Leopardlady

Hello ladies,

Well this weekend was an odd one! OH tells me he is very happy to have a baby as soon as possible, but he doesn't seem up for BDing very much, which makes the whole process a little difficult.

I am trying to stay calm and not stress about wanting a BFP this month, although as you all know once started this is almost impossible to do.

Well i did get him to bed a few times in the past week, and as still not sure when i am OVing (should have been this weekend appartently) it could still be ok for at least a few symptom spotting moments in the next couple of weeks.

Baby dust to all and i hope we are all keeping positive for October?

reetyre

Well I have been feeling SO premenstrual for a week now - AF due this weekend and boy do I know its coming! So I am transferring my hopes to October for that BFP.
DH and I have decided that Oct will be the month that we really really try so that we have at least done one month where we have done everything we can to conceive.
On a side note - has anyone ever BDed once a day for a full month? I think DH would be fine with that but its not a challenge I think I can rise to

galvanizersbaby

GracieP wrote: »

That's if you have a D&C or ERCP. I was "lucky" in that my mc happened early enough for me to have a natural miscarriage. So I'd be fairly safe to get pregnant now. I get the impression though that dh is thinking along the same lines as you.

Oh well, maybe I'm a twice a month ovulator and can get knocked up next week.:cool:

GracieP sorry to hear you are still feeling so rubbish. I'm in similar situ to you only we have decided to wait a while before trying to concieve again for various other reasons.

Just to say that the reason they say to wait a month is emotional (i.e the pain of having another miscarriage so close to the first.)
Last month I had an ERCP through choice (I could have gone away and miscarried naturally when at 9 weeks I was scanned and there was no heartbeat (yolk sac was consistent with a pregnancy of about 6 weeks so was diagnosed with a missed miscarriage) however I went for the ERPC rather than wait.
My first pregnancy also ended in a missed miscarriage and I chose the ERPC option - like you I was keen (well desparate really) to try again so I do understand your frustrations but we did try again immediately and I concieved 6 weeks after op but OMG was it a stressful pregnancy and obviously I wasn't really ready emotionally - I was constantly terrified the pregnancy had ended so would phone our local early pregnancy unit for a scan at least twice weekly (we had a special unit at our local hospital) and by the time my son was born I was a nervous wreck.

I know it's hard but try not to be too hard on yourself or OH at the moment - keep positive - it will happen x

FairyElephant_2

Hello All :hello:

I'm back from my hols and was feeling quite relaxed, although still lots of 'stuff' I need to get done like DIY, college work, etc, etc, felt that the break had done us good and was really looking forward to starting the ISCI cycle....

Then I just had a call from the FC, who says that she has discussed with the anaesthetist and her other FC collegue, and they feel that my BP is still too high and I have to go to my GP and get some medication to get it down....she reckons this could take a little while, so there's def. no chance I can start this cycle, and probably not next one either. This has knocked me for six, I am sitting at my desk with tears in my eyes and can't wait to leave work so I can bawl my eyes out.

To make it worse, I can't even get through to the GP on the phone to make an appt.

My BP has never been high before now, and it came down at both my last two reading before we went on hols, so I really didn't expect this.

I just want to scream - it is SO NOT FAIR.

jiblets1

No time to chat, but big hugs to those that need them.

Leopardlady

Big hugs Fairyelephant,
have a good cry and then try and relax! Hopefully you will get hold of your gp and they can help you out.

Look after yourself and hugs to all others out there.

liloandstitch

Fairy Elephant, I am so sorry you cant start the IVF yet - I know how hard it is to take set backs at times like this - you put everything into starting things, and it doesnt go to plan. I am sure they wouldnt put a hold on it if they didnt think it was in your best interests, you dont want to risk your own health for the sake of a month or two - remember you need to be in good health to carry your babies for 9 months, and look after them after that! Think positive thoughts - and try not to stress out too much, it wont bring your BP down. - Lilo

Rosie_Bud

Hi all, I've not been around for a couple of days so just had a bit of a catch up.

Gracie - sorry you're feeling low still, hope you are feeling a bit better now. At least you and your DH are talking about each others feelings which is a really good start. You will get there but your emotions and hormones are bound to be a bit haywire at the moment. One day at a time is the key here I think. He will come around eventually and time is a great healer.

FairyElephant - oh hun, sorry for you too. Hope you are feeling better this morning as I assume you will have had a good cry and got it all out last night when you got in from work? Like liloandstitch said, health is crucial for now and the nine months you will be carrying for so they are only doing what is best for you. I know that doesn't make you feel better but get in and see the gp and see what they have to say. All is not lost.

Reetyre - my DH will rise to the occasion every day (more than once!) if I need him to. Definitely not boasting though because sometimes (mostly) he is more up for it than I am. Lol, obviously some of these times we are doing it just for the sake of bding and I do feel concern for the quality of the pp but I think he is just trying to saturate (ewww!) the problems we are having conceiving! The only times we definitely don't do it is when AF is here, mine and his choice I have to say! TBH I think we will try more 2-3 days this month as every day hasn't worked for us but I don't think its his fault - I definitely feel its more me.

LeopardLady - would you be worth getting some sexy undies or something like that to entice him? If he is up for the baby part he needs to realise the bit that comes first and some red/fuschia pink undies always seem to do the trick!:o

Hope everyone else is ok, positive thoughts for October and babyglue for all.

Rosie Bud xx

Leopardlady

Rosie_Bud wrote: »

LeopardLady - would you be worth getting some sexy undies or something like that to entice him? If he is up for the baby part he needs to realise the bit that comes first and some red/fuschia pink undies always seem to do the trick!:o

Thank Rosie Bud

I don't think he is not up for it, just not as often as i am, he is also very tired because of being overworked at work! I am hoping to up the pace a little but am still happy with enjoying ourselves.

Also unfortunately i don't have any money at the moment so new undies is not on the cards at the moment. I do try and spice things up a little at the moment, although last night i was a sneezing sniffling idiot, so we laughed about bding but went to sleep:rotfl:

Baby dust to all, i hope that GracieP and Fairyelephant are feeling better today. Hugs to you all

angelavdavis

Sorry to hear about your news Fairy Elephant as Liloandstitch says, its critical to get the BP down now.

Hello to everyone else.:hello:

Well I got my copy of Toni Weschler's book and have started charting today as it is my 1st day of AF.

I thought I might as well do this in prep for the hospital appt (which I still can't make until I have done the two blood tests with the GP).

Am seriously thinking about a change in career - the job pays well and this would be enough for most people, but I just don't find it fulfilling any more. My OH thinks TTC is messing with my mind, and he might be right I guess. I have been struggling over preparing a report for the last two weeks and only have today to complete it, instead I am on here!

It's funny, I could never understand women getting obsessed over TTC, but now I am in their shoes it is gradually taking over! I guess better late than never!