Trying To Concieve

yummymummyoftwo

hello all,this is my 1st time on this thread,for obvious reasons!
i was meant to have my depo today but weve been talking and weve decided to try for another baby:j :j
ive been broody for so long,i know its going to take a while after depo as it took me 12 months for my periods to come back when trying for ds and in total took 18 months to concieve ds
we have a 7 yr girl and a 4 yr boy
4yr old was born at 26 weeks (2lb)so im so scared that it will happen again,ive tried to find out what the odds would be but no luck,it was such a scary time i really dont want to go through that again
im going to try and find out what all the abbreviations are as im confused at the mo!

GracieP

Had a bit of a tough day today. Last week when I was still bleeding heavily I found what I think was my baby. We saved it in a box and burnt it last night, so today we took the ashes to the place where we spread the ashes of our dog last year. It might be a bit silly but we like the thought of the baby being looked after by the dog.

As well as that I think I over did it a bit yesterday, sitting on the couch was getting me down, so today I've been in a bit of pain physically as well. Tomorrow I'm off to visit my parents for two days. I've mixed feelings about it. On the one hand I want to be looked after by my mum. On the other, I booked the tickets on the day I got my BFP so I could tell my parents in person.:( So that's a bit crappy.

My husband is also a little upset that he hasn't heard back from his friend who got married this weekend. He has texted, emailed and phoned him since he decided he couldn't be abroad this weekend but he hasn't heard back. As far as my DH was concerned I wasn't in an emotional or physical state to be left alone and he didn't feel able to put on a happy front for four days himself. Losing the baby has hit him nearly as hard as it has me. I've told him that his friend was probably just really busy but he's still feeling paranoid that he's is p'd off. The thing is that if someone he knew had lost a baby the week before our wedding he would have gone out of his way to see if they were ok, and make sure they didn't feel bad about not being there.

Leopardlady

Huge hug Graciep, i am sure your dog will take great care of your baby.

I am sure your OH's friend is just really busy, just married usually means no phone calls etc

Look after yourselves, you will get through it all together. Hugs

MrsTinks

In fairness to your hubbies friend then when we went on honeymoon we nearly forgot our mobile chargers and thus would have had no address book!
Just trying to think the best of him really

Hedgehog28

Hugs for you GracieP...I'm sure that seeing your parents will be comforting. Maybe your OH's friend was just so tied up with his wedding that, not knowing what to say, he's put off contacting your OH..I can't believe that he'd hold it against him. But I do understand about worrying that you've upset someone, however daft it may seem...I do it all the time .

madbird_2

For those who came off depo - whats been the timescale for you for AF to return?

My last injection was March, been taking agnus castus since June when decided not to go for next jab.

I had to go on depo as have high blood pressure, doc didn't want me on pill, and I didn't think mini-pill would be for me. Was already overweight and gained weight. Haven't lost any weight since, in fact put some on, yet I have been dieting/eating healthier since June.

I'm nearly 37, so know time could be against us.

Congrats to those with BFP, and big hugs to those who are having a difficult time at the moment

x

MrsTinks

After Depo first time it was a while for AF returned - second time it was a month or two... but when it returned it started every 2 weeks - yes I had one week on one week off... and that lasted a few months until we finally found a pill that worked and managed to regulate me.
As for the weight... it's really tough to shift! I'd say it's harder than normal weight judging by my experiences, at least until all the hormones have left your system! They do sometimes mention a "slight weight gain" - I don't call 2 stone slight! - as a possibility when they first tell you about Depo...

lilmissmup

I put on 2 stone when going on depo but i would say 1 stone of that was me eating a lot lol as i have lost that stone but can't shift this last one!

I am all happy you are talking about depo today lol, i have been on it 5.5yrs since i was 18.5yrs and my next injection is in a month, i am going to have that but then think i will stop, i don't like the thought though its gonna take me at least a year to get pregnant especially as i have been on it so long!

I am only 24 so know thats young and i have plenty of time but when your broody your broody!

GracieP

Hedgehog28 wrote: »

Maybe your OH's friend was just so tied up with his wedding that, not knowing what to say, he's put off contacting your OH..I can't believe that he'd hold it against him. But I do understand about worrying that you've upset someone, however daft it may seem...I do it all the time .

That's what I'm figuring. Our own wedding was a far less formal affair, so the DH doesn't really have an idea how busy some people can be. I remember about 4 months ago he came in from a night out with his friend and he couldn't stop thanking me for how laid back I was about our wedding, as his friend was already incredibly stressed at that point. I've reminded him of this, but I'd say he'll feel a bit better in a week or so once he hears from him. I understand how he's feeling though, I keep expecting the worst about everything at the moment.:o

jiblets1

Gracie I think your little ceremony sounds like a lovely thing to do. I'm sorry for you, it must have been really hard.

I would bet that with your OH's friend, as others have said, in the midst of crazy weddingness, working out someting sensitive and heartfelt to say can take a more peaceful place than you are able to find. I'm sure he'll be in touch soon.