Trying To Concieve

lizziebell*80

kathy72 wrote: »

I have just done a bit of an experiment with the two methods, taking one reading after the other...

Got a oral reading of 37 and a down below reading of 37.38 so there is quite a variation to be had there...

Kathy x

Cheers Kathy (hope you washed it in between -ok just re-read the order and it is fine! ). Have found a pack on Ebay including a thermometer and some ov tests so might get that and have a go.

Glad to see all the science geeks coming out the closet

Rosie Bud, I got some cheapo folic acid tablets from Tesco which are 400mg which is the amount I found to be recommeded for when trying to get pg so the ones you have bought sound fine wrt that, otherwise sound like multivitamins so I would probably take them if it were me.

shelly

Rosie_Bud wrote: »

Hi all and thanks for the warm welcomes!

Thanks for the heads up for those home fertility tests, GracieP, that is much appreciated. I think what we will do for the time being is keep BDing because he is getting obsessed too and I don't think he would be able to abstain for the 2-3 days before testing. We will just keep BDing this month till he goes away and then while he is away I will get myself investigated. Then I will order one of those male tests for when he gets back (if we need it). Its excellent to know we can do something without having to wait for hospital appointments. Its so frustrating now he has this job to be working away. Ho hum, will just have to make the best of it when he is home, lol!

I am allegedly supposed to be OVing today, although this is my first month of tracking my cycle and I am not doing BBT. Maybe I will do the BBT when he is away to get more of an idea of actual OV date. I am on CD14 so have been BDing plenty so maybe some of those little swimmers will get there and save me £20! lol.

Fingers crossed (but not legs) for everyone.;)

Rosie Bud xx

Personally I wouldn't waste my money on a male home testing kit. Having a test done at the hospital gives more info than just pos or neg and its free. The home kit can only tell you if the count is high enough to be considered fertile, what if all 20mill sperm are deformed? It won't tell you that.

Sorry to sound so negative but I hate wasting money on stuff I can get for free

Also, you say he wouldn't be able to abstain for 2-3 days before doing the test. Ideally you should only have sex every 2-3 days anyway while ttc as that's when sperm is at its best.
(Well that's what I have been told by 2 fertility specialists)

ginvzt

Ok, I told my OH about tcoyf book yesterday. He laughed. So I went and ordered it! I feel he is not rally taking seriously this ttc, and especially he doesn't understand how this affects me, with 1 year under the belt and still no luck (well, there were time when we didn't try taht hard, but still, it is a year ago when we started all this). I jsut feel like I can't really plan anything for next year, as I might be pregnant, or not. It is the second year like this!!!!!

GracieP

ginvzt wrote: »

Ok, I told my OH about tcoyf book yesterday. He laughed. So I went and ordered it! I feel he is not rally taking seriously this ttc, and especially he doesn't understand how this affects me, with 1 year under the belt and still no luck (well, there were time when we didn't try taht hard, but still, it is a year ago when we started all this). I jsut feel like I can't really plan anything for next year, as I might be pregnant, or not. It is the second year like this!!!!!

I don't think men can ever really get it. It's not their body, they aren't symptom spotting, they aren't taking their temps in the morning, they aren't trying to be so careful with their diet, they don't have their hormones screaming at them to have a baby and they aren't peeing on sticks for half the month. My OH mostly says all the right things, but he doesn't really get it. I just don't think he can.

I've been feeling so nauseous for the last two days I took a test this morning. BFN.:( I know it's only day 6 so it's not conclusive but I'm feeling blue. And still nauseous.

On the other hand maybe it's a good thing if I'm not pregnant, because if I'm feeling this icky going into what would be week 4, I'll be puking 24/7 for the entire pregnancy if I am.

ginvzt

Thanks GracieP!

I just feel very down today... Maybe just should give all this ttc and live my own life. I am a bit upset with OH at the moment and just want to curl up on the sofa and cut off everything else.... Not gonna happen - need to tidy up, do the shopping and tomorrow going to visit different office of the company (1st time, so meeting new people), and that will be 100 miles on M6 in the morning rush hour... really looking forward - NOT! 8 hours of work and then back the same 100 miles....

Sorry fir the rant, I am going to get some ice cream now - not good for the weight (already weigh too much), but it tastes good....

Rosie_Bud

shelly wrote: »

Personally I wouldn't waste my money on a male home testing kit. Having a test done at the hospital gives more info than just pos or neg and its free. The home kit can only tell you if the count is high enough to be considered fertile, what if all 20mill sperm are deformed? It won't tell you that.

Sorry to sound so negative but I hate wasting money on stuff I can get for free

Also, you say he wouldn't be able to abstain for 2-3 days before doing the test. Ideally you should only have sex every 2-3 days anyway while ttc as that's when sperm is at its best.
(Well that's what I have been told by 2 fertility specialists)

Yeah I must admit I resent spending if I can get something for free, lol! Its all about the moneysaving, eh!! I think we will just leave it that I get tested whilst he is away and then if necessary sort out something for when he is back (but via the hospital). Twenty quid is twenty quid after all.

I know what you mean about the 2-3 days, but I don't know if he believes me, lol! I think if we got to the stage of him needing to get tested and the docs tell him about the 2-3 days that he would believe them, hopefully anyway. But hey its fun for now anyway!

Rosie_Bud

ginvzt - I am sorry to hear you are feeling down today. This is a hard time for us girls and I don't think men get in as deep as we do. If you feel like you want to cool it for a while, then do so. You have to do whats best for you. Look after yourself hun.

Does everybody get EWCM? Its just I don't know if I do and don't want to obsess about not getting it if its not a problem iyswim. I think I have had something like that before but I don't know if its every month and now I am panicking a bit in case I am the "problem". Same for OV pains. I think I get pains a couple of weeks before AF but now I am doubting myself. I would just love to know if its still ok if you don't get these symptoms of OV. Although saying that I have a pain in the left side of my lower abdomen, a few inches above lady garden - does this sound like it? I am on CD15 so would be about right, but like many before me, now I think I am inventing the pains.

Take care everyone

Rosie Bud xx

shelly

Rosie_Bud wrote: »

Does everybody get EWCM? Its just I don't know if I do and don't want to obsess about not getting it if its not a problem iyswim. I think I have had something like that before but I don't know if its every month and now I am panicking a bit in case I am the "problem". Same for OV pains. I think I get pains a couple of weeks before AF but now I am doubting myself. I would just love to know if its still ok if you don't get these symptoms of OV. Although saying that I have a pain in the left side of my lower abdomen, a few inches above lady garden - does this sound like it? I am on CD15 so would be about right, but like many before me, now I think I am inventing the pains.

Take care everyone

Rosie Bud xx

Me again!

I very rarely get noticable CM but I have hardly any cervix left so I know not to expect it. I'm sure the other girls who do get CM will be along soon to help you with that query.


As for OV symptoms, I don't get them every month but when I do get the pain its roughly where you said, a few inches above pubic area but off the side. It can change sides too from month to month.

Hedgehog28

Hi ginvzt - sorry to read that you are feeling low...I have days when I feel really down about it all, but it goes away again...sort of . Hope that you feel better later on and that tomorrow isn't too bad.

Rosie Bud...I don't think that I get OV pains, but I do get EWCM...at least, what I think is EWCM! It's pretty stretchy...if that's not tmi for everyone! Hope that this helps.

Hedgehog

GracieP

ginvzt wrote: »

Maybe just should give all this ttc and live my own life.

Tbh, I don't know how I would cope if (when) I reach a year of trying without success. It might not be the worst idea to take a little time off from actively trying, or at least take a different approach. You said you will wait til after xmas to see a doctor, so maybe between now and then just try to relax more.(Oxymoron, I know.) Stop taking your temps, charting or using ov sticks. Plan some nice nights out and weekends away. Aim to have fun. And during this time try having sex every 2 or 3 days, with more of a focus on connecting with your husband, making love, having a laugh.

I keep thinking about the movie Election where Matthew Brodrick and his wife are ttc, and she keeps chanting "Fill me up, fill me up," while they are having sex. And I think that too much scientific ttc can feel like that and maybe that adds a tension which maybe standing in your way.

Sorry if I'm just repeating stuff you've already heard, tried or saying something you don't want to hear. But it might be worth taking a different approach for a while.