Trying To Concieve

pukkamum

I found the whole trying to conceive and then being pregnant very much like being on the big one rollercoaster in blackpool. While you are waiting in the queue you feel excited, nervous and impatient, you can't wait to get on and you know you will love it but you can't help but wonder 'what if it all goes pearshaped?' You watch people who have just been on to see how they react, some love it and are desperate to go again, some loved it but found it really scary, and some didn't like it at all. Then you are on and as you go up the hill towards the first big drop you start to panic 'have i done the right thing', 'i've changed my mind i want to get off' but it's too late and once that big scary drop is over you relax and it's wonderful. Enjoy this time there is nothing as magical or wonderful as trying for a baby. The sex is extra special too knowing you could be making a new life!

kr15snw

I know how you feel even though Im not there yet! Me and OH are at the 'just moved in together and thinking of marriage' stage, and Im scared senseless!

Its a good thing, keep smiling and look forward to ur bundle of joy!

sismith42

Good luck jiblets!
Roxie: Congrats! Why is it that I'm just happy for you but was frankly jealous of my sister when I found out that she's due in Jan?

Steph

helen79

Congrats Roxie! Well done to Jiblets too, and hope that next week goes well.
I haven't seen my OH for a fortnight, and this weekend I'm due to OV. We're going to book into a hotel after work on Friday for a couple of nights, ha haaaaa!

sismith42

I know how you feel! Just before I went off my pill (as we were discussing whether I should be signing up for another few months or not, in fact-- we'd decided in Jan that when I ran out of the pills in April, I wouldn't get another perscription, then started having seccond thougts mid-March), I bought the book "First time Parents" and a book on pregency/conception (I got Miriam Stoppard's latest book, but there's so many on the market that cater to different outlooks on life that I'd suggest looking at a lot in the library and/or bookstore before buying the one that makes most sense to you... ditto on "what happens after birth" type books, but there are less of those one the market).

While I know you can't parent out of a book, I feel more in control with these on hand (and, um, already read!)-- and am simply excited and looking forward to getting PG!

Steph

Violetta_2

Of course it's scary . I was terrified all the time I was pregnant ,but when you have a little one nothing else matters they are so amazing. You will be a brilliant mum. All the best with ttc. I have a gorgeous daughter who is nearly 3 she makes the sun shine. Best thing I've ever done. I wasn't maternal was sure I'd be a rubbish mum, but don't think I;m tooo bad really.

clairg_2

It's amazing how you you just get the hang of it! my darlings to have managed to get to their 5th and 3rd birthday without us doing any damage to them, some of my closest friends and support have been girls i've met thro anti and post natal groups, as sismith42 says there are lots of books out there i found the rough guide to pregancy really good and funny, but enjoy the time with you r man and making the little bundle of joy. x

back2square1

If you have any doubts about becoming parents and having responsibility of a child try and eliminate any worries you have now. But remember having these worries is a good sign - it would be dreadful to go into parenting thinking that everything is going to be perfect and you will be amazing at it. No one is perfect and the fact you are realising this already is brilliant.

don't worry about having no parents nearby, through having children you will make a lot of new friends through mother & baby groups, ante-natal, mums & tots, old friends will reappear due to now having a young child too. You'll be surprised how many close friends you will have who will provide valuable support.

The best advice is to start getting experience now of being around babies. Even babysit for a few hours, ask for tips and get plenty of advice. Gain as much confidence as you can around babies and young children, that means for you and your husband.

MrsTinks

Thanks all

I would offer to look after friends young children but none of my friends have young kids! Those who do or have had kids recently (last 5 years) all live really far away! I used to babysit LOADS when I was at school - including a young baby and although she was a super sleeper I did get to spend time with her but obviously at a young (under 18) age I didn't quite appreciate that there were a lot of sleepless nights as usually I finished before 12
I think deep down I know I'll be fine. Mum is only a call away and would drop everything and jump on a plane if things went wrong I have a kind of adopted family too - my ex's sister and her family (kids are nearly my age lol) so I do have some support - and I know they'd be delighted to help out but not having MY mum here is more unnerving than I anticipated!
Whilst mum and I have always been very good friends she's never been the super maternal type and I lived for many years with my dad when I was a child so we don't have the normal bond, more like friends or sisters than mum and daughter. It's odd because I think if she lived closer by that would instantly change...
You know I've never before wished I lived closer to my family until now... Always been VERY independant and suddenly I want them closer by
Oh dear lordy what will I be like when the hormones start!!! :rotfl:

It'll all be fine... it will it will it will

VK-2008

hey guys and gals lol!

hope we are enjoying out ttc time!
i certainly am

i have a stange question which i would love some feedback on

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can acupunture help make you pregnant???????

the reason i ask is it helps u destress and relax as well as other things, just threr was talk of relexology in last few days and i just wondered ppl's opinion

babydust and hugs to all