Ex won't give property back

itsanne

Drubags wrote: »

My question was police or insurance.

Insurance won't be interested without a police reference number.

redpete

Not sure how you can expect useful advice when there's relevant information that you dont want to share (maybe understandably).

Money_maker

Not sure what information the OP is not sharing. She did put husband in OP so obviously she was married.

Reading between the lines, she did something unacceptable. She left, the break up wasn't civil, he didn't allow her back in the house and just gave her stuff to her. Just a humble guess.

I wonder if the OP lives with anyone else at the moment, maybe they may have seen the cameras?

Drubags

I didn't do anything unacceptable. He's an alcoholic, wouldn't help himself after years of me trying and I couldn't cope anymore. He didn't want me back in the house as he was angry at me for finally leaving.

I don't live with anyone else. I've had friends go through my whole house with me to check it's not here and I'm missing it. I don't have a lot of stuff here anyway. I'm still missing a lot of other small things that he said he couldn't find originally but have since turned up at his. He lives in a mess (one of the reasons I left).

I think that's enough information for now - I don't think any more details of my failed marriage will make a difference to the question I'm asking

I think I'll call the police and see what they say as soon as I can tomorrow.

[Deleted User]

Obviously, for whatever reason, things haven't been dealt with properly in the past.

I'd advise changing this now. You are not his enabler. Or rather, you don't have to be. You should be putting your needs higher on the priority list otherwise what was the point in moving out?

Decide if you think he's sold the items.., you know what he's likely to do.., or if they are just hidden under a pile of goo somewhere and he can't be bothered to look properly. But if there are other things missing, I'd advise to figure out a way to get in there and look properly. Check with a solicitor if its possible for you to reclaim your stuff, then go to the police for assistance if necessary if the solicitor says this is an appropriate course of action.

Or carry on letting his needs affect your life. Its up to you.

Guest101

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

I wouldn't be surprised if he's sold them already. It just sounds pretty cagey, when you say he's adamant they're not there and won't let you in.

All you can do is stay true to your word, and contact the police if you here nothing within two weeks, and then they can investigate further.

I wouldn't let my ex in to snoop around my house either!

Guest101

mark5 wrote: »

If someone moves out and doesn't take all their belongings, what's a reasonable amount of time to keep or store it?

Typically the holder must make efforts to return the property.


A written notice to say you have 14 days to collect may be reasonable.


HOWEVER the money still belongs to the person even if you do sell the items

Guest101

Dill wrote: »

Do you have a key to the property or did you give it back to him?

Sorry now we're advising trespassing?


So we're bordering stalking and harassment?

Georgiegirl256

Guest101 wrote: »

I wouldn't let my ex in to snoop around my house either!

I meant with him there. If he's got nothing to hide, then I can't see why he won't let her in?

Then again it's probably a fruitless exercise, as he's probably moved them on either to somewhere else or sold them by now anyhow.

Guest101

Drubags wrote: »

I didn't do anything unacceptable. He's an alcoholic, wouldn't help himself after years of me trying and I couldn't cope anymore. He didn't want me back in the house as he was angry at me for finally leaving.

I don't live with anyone else. I've had friends go through my whole house with me to check it's not here and I'm missing it. I don't have a lot of stuff here anyway. I'm still missing a lot of other small things that he said he couldn't find originally but have since turned up at his. He lives in a mess (one of the reasons I left).

I think that's enough information for now - I don't think any more details of my failed marriage will make a difference to the question I'm asking

I think I'll call the police and see what they say as soon as I can tomorrow.

If the police have any sense they'll consider that you sold the equipment and this is a scam.


6 months to find out you're missing £5,000 worth of kit and you 'don't have a lot of stuff anyway'



Just doesn't add up