Is this normal or a red flag?

michelle2008

Not panic stations (as long as it's not a hangover!) but if it continues maybe boredom is a problem?

A duvet day can be bliss - but should be a treat rather than a routine.

A few planned activities - swimming pool, biking might cut into the monotony of the holidays

FBaby

It's a pity that OP has not come back to give more information. I would assume that if she posted it is because she is concerned, and if she is, it is because it is normal behaviour?

There is a big difference between a 13yo who is uncomunicative with his parents, stay up until 5am in the morning playing interactive Xbox with his friends, and then sleep until 4pm, getting ready to do the same the following night, and a child who has had a week of exams, playing a basketball game on one day, football the following, and tennis the one after, who desperately needs to rest.

I would also question whether such child is actually sleeping, on lounging in bed with his phone under him.

My teenager daughter likes to stay late in bed (11am, but that's very late in our family!), but she is far from lazy on the opposite. She excels in school, does sports and other activities, goes out with friends, and now about to start a job. Staying in bed late is a little treat for her when she gets the chance to do it.

Jagraf

ravilious_fan wrote: »

I've got nothing against people having a relaxing day, but I do take issue with people who can't even be bothered to get washed and dressed.

I can see no reason whatsoever for a healthy young person to get up at 3.30pm!

I think the OP is right to flag it up.

What if they have had mock A levels all week, followed by a Friday evenjng job til 10, then helping to deliver next door's puppies til 2 this morning. Now One day off before a six day shift of holiday work (with revision in the evenings). Just giving an example of my daughters week. I'm going to let her lie in today. I wonder how much time off most adults have from work this weekend. I can rest knowing very well she's not a slob.

heuchera

FBaby wrote: »

It's a pity that OP has not come back to give more information. I would assume that if she posted it is because she is concerned, and if she is, it is because it is normal behaviour?

True, but many a poster has started threads on this board, seen the thread turn into cattiness between the usual 'warring factions' on here and decided to not return to it.

Homeownertobe

ravilious_fan wrote: »

I've got nothing against people having a relaxing day, but I do take issue with people who can't even be bothered to get washed and dressed.

I can see no reason whatsoever for a healthy young person to get up at 3.30pm!

I think the OP is right to flag it up.

Oh you'd hate me. I was up at 3am yesterday, packed for a trip, sorted out a few bills, had a horrific WOD challenge at 5am, was in the office for 7am, home for 4pm, back at the box for 5pm, dinner at 7pm, drinks until about 2am and today I only emerged from my cocoon to relieve the Deliveroo driver of dinner. And that was all after a night out and on about two hours sleep.

But I'm sure I must be endlessly lazy and outrageous for sleeping off a hectic week on my one day off where I had absolutely nothing to do.

Frostycornett

Sounds like my 14 year old dd..although she's awake from about 10.30... She hasn't bothered getting dressed...or left her bed..she has sky in her room and me being a daftie..running up and down with cups of tea and dinner/lunch/snacks every time she texts! Don't blame her..id do it too!

FBaby

he has sky in her room and me being a daftie..running up and down with cups of tea and dinner/lunch/snacks every time she texts!

Surely this is a joke though? I really hope so, can't imagine what a 14yo would be learning from this behaviour. DD16 tried the 'I'll call you rather than bother to come and talk to you downstairs once, tried mobile and phone. No need to say she got no answer and when she did come down, had a telling off and clarity that I will never pick up her calls/texts if we are both in the same house. She's never bothered again!?

Why would you bring food/drinks to a teenager's bedroom unless they are ill? We're not even allowed food in our house (not that it prevents it, but at least I can remind them of the rule when I have a go at them to sort our their bedroom!).

AnotherJoe

AnnieO1234 wrote: »

Okay so it's the Easter holidays, would you say it was normal for an otherwise healthy 13 year old to still be in bed at 3:30pm? They've not got up for food (mom dragged it to them) and they're sat in their pjs playing games?

Xxx

It's definitely a big red flag that mom took food up to them.
Need to have a strict word with mom and possibly ground her for a while to teach her a lesson and ensure such poor parenting doesn't happen again.

Everything else is normal.

ravilious_fan

Jagraf wrote: »

What if they have had mock A levels all week, followed by a Friday evenjng job til 10, then helping to deliver next door's puppies til 2 this morning. Now One day off before a six day shift of holiday work (with revision in the evenings). Just giving an example of my daughters week. I'm going to let her lie in today. I wonder how much time off most adults have from work this weekend. I can rest knowing very well she's not a slob.

Is a 13 year old (as stated in the OP) likely to be doing those things?

ravilious_fan

Homeownertobe wrote: »

Oh you'd hate me. I was up at 3am yesterday, packed for a trip, sorted out a few bills, had a horrific WOD challenge at 5am, was in the office for 7am, home for 4pm, back at the box for 5pm, dinner at 7pm, drinks until about 2am and today I only emerged from my cocoon to relieve the Deliveroo driver of dinner. And that was all after a night out and on about two hours sleep.

But I'm sure I must be endlessly lazy and outrageous for sleeping off a hectic week on my one day off where I had absolutely nothing to do.