Is this normal or a red flag?

Lambyr

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

Normal. Don't let the scaremongers who think that all children should be bouncing off the walls doing all sorts of practical, creative activities every waking moment worry you.

Balance is good. Last Saturday I was up at 6am, but if I've had a demanding week, I'm quite happy to have a quiet weekend which includes sleeping in until I wake naturally and don't care if that's at noon. It's over 30 years since I was 13, I'm a grown up with a job and a mortgage and everything!

You won't find me in PJs all day though, I don't own any "night clothes".

I agree with this! I'm a carer so I generally have to 'work' around my mum's hours but the last time my mum was away the first night she was gone I was up late playing, went bed early hours... woke up about 9am'ish to let dog out and feed her then brought my duvet out to the living room and had a nice long snooze on the sofa. It was bliss!

I do lots of creative things during my downtime when I'm looking after mum. OU courses, reading, writing, teaching myself things... I like to keep myself constantly busy, partly cos I find keeping my mind engaged helps me better attend to my mum's needs too.

But when the opportunity presents itself, yes, I love taking that one day to lounge around and be a bit lazy cos it's a nice break.

Jagraf

Since when is it lazy to catch up on rest? Come to think of it, humans have been conditioned to stay up all day and sleep all night - but actually teens need more sleep than adults which is almost impossible to get on school nights.

Alikay

At least staying in bed until afternoon means the house stays tidy! Day 1 of every school holidays tended to see my boys draped around the house in their pants watching mindless rubbish on TV, winding each other up and eating whatever they could find that didn't require cutlery or crockery! DD would embark on a whirl of social activity, varying from hanging around the Londis shop with tracksuit-clad youths to mammoth baking sessions with her best friend. 13 year olds are a strange species!

Hermia

I remember being very attached to my bed as a teen, although my mum would never have brought me food in bed! I do remember needing a huge amount of sleep in my teens. I could easily sleep really deeply for 10-12 hours every night. I was otherwise in good health and grew out of it so I assume it was just all that growing and puberty zapping my energy. I wish I could sleep that well now!

OLD_JOE+

How things have certainly changed! - At a year older than the quoted 13 year old, I'd left school at fourteen and working the next day

System

My parents wouldn't of allowed it and would have insisted I got up and got dressed

But as a nearly 30 something this is now normal life for me, I quite often don't start work till the afternoon so im often still in bed that said I don't usually get home till 11pm and once im back that's my "evening"

As long as the kid is back in a routine by the end of school hols I don't think it's that's much of an issue.

Before anyone tells me it's laziness the Meds I take for my bipolar make me very drowsy, which helps me sleep but also means I need a lot more sleep than most people. If I get less than 9/10 hours I usually end up still feeling comatose (and im still going to work so it's not like I'm sat around doing nothing! )

SingleSue

I was a strange teenager as I was one of the few who couldn't sleep in (or even have a 'normal' amount of hours of sleep) no matter how hard I tried despite a very full life (school, ballet training, part time jobs)

It's just as frustrating to me not being able to sleep as it is to others when they find their teens wanting to sleep.

Person_one

OLD_JOE+ wrote: »

How things have certainly changed! - At a year older than the quoted 13 year old, I'd left school at fourteen and working the next day

Just to clarify, you do realise that's a change for the better, don't you?

PenguinOfDeath

A teenager sleeping in once, a red flag? Best make sure you keep an eye out first time they get drunk, they might become an alcoholic!

heartbreak_star

I'm so tired at the moment I'm actually planning a duvet day for Friday, and I'm in my mid-thirties...

HBS x