Is this normal or a red flag?

WantToBeSE

Totally normal!

I would LOVE to be able to do this

Andypandyboy

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Is this really acceptable these days? I would never have been all owe to behave like that.

Really? Not on the first day of the Easter (or any) holiday?

I wouldn't have been allowed to do it every day, but I remember doing it on occasion. I don't think it is a new phenomenon.

cashewnut

When I was on uni holidays I would set my alarm for the start of lunchtime neighbours, 1.35/1.40 from memory. Soooo shameful but it was the life!

Peter333

No it's not normal for a 13 year old to stay in bed til 3.30pm. Not any 13 year old I know - or have ever known anyway. Not unless they are ill!

What a terrible example people are setting to their teens... 'Oh it's OK to lie in bed til 3.30pm!' FGS what's up with parents these days?! Why are they not up and out and about, playing, shopping, crafting, playing sports, creating things, helping mum around the house, doing something constructive; ANYTHING.

What a slippery slope that is. Teaching a young teen to be so utterly lazy and slovenly. Utterly disgraceful.

Andypandyboy

Peter333 wrote: »

No it's not normal for a 13 year old to stay in bed til 3.30pm. Not any 13 year old I know - or have ever known anyway. Not unless they are ill!

What a terrible example people are setting to their teens... 'Oh it's OK to lie in bed til 3.30pm!' FGS what's up with parents these days?! Why are they not up and out and about, playing, shopping, crafting, playing sports, creating things, helping mum around the house, doing something constructive; ANYTHING.

What a slippery slope that is. Teaching a young teen to be so utterly lazy and slovenly. Utterly disgraceful.

What rubbish.

Teens are tested to the nth degree these days, an occasional duvet day is not going to lead to any slippery slope.

I did it, my oh did it, my kids did it. All of us have degrees, professional careers in which we work very hard and engage in a range of hobbbies and also do voluntary work. So it really has not had any long lasing effects on us. Down time is very important to relax the body and brain.

goodwithsaving

Normal. School is draining, growing is tiring. I'm an adult and often stay in bed really late on my first day of leave!
I'm not a slob for doing so, just completely shattered and am childless, so able to rest.

PasturesNew

I'd think it was normal. It's that age when you're changing and everything's boring and you've got nothing to do - and you really like the idea of doing nothing/lazing in bed all day if possible.

It's also normal for parents to dislike this behaviour and scream/shout/threaten their child and stomp about and argue because they want them to get up early and get dressed and be chirpy and find stuff to do quietly downstairs.

Armchair23

You will know best, trust your judgement.

Few teens are keen to get up and about but the difference between the usual staying in bed and having a bit of a problem are harder to work out.
Let a lot of it go but it's OK to be concerned and don't stop thinking about what's going on and asking questions.
Mental health issues can be a problem in your teens and always brushing it off as teenage behaviour is easy to do.
My two almost drove me insane but we all survived.

Lets hope this is just the usual hell that is a teenager XX

Jagraf

goodwithsaving wrote: »

Normal. School is draining, growing is tiring. I'm an adult and often stay in bed really late on my first day of leave!
I'm not a slob for doing so, just completely shattered and am childless, so able to rest.

My daughter needs a day to charge sometimes she is 17 in sixth form. She's anything but lazy and works much longer hours than some adults. I positively encourage her to have duvet days occasionally in the holidays it's very good for her physical and mental health.

Torry_Quine

Andypandyboy wrote: »

Really? Not on the first day of the Easter (or any) holiday?

I wouldn't have been allowed to do it every day, but I remember doing it on occasion. I don't think it is a new phenomenon.

No , you only stayed in bed that late if ill.

Peter333 wrote: »

No it's not normal for a 13 year old to stay in bed til 3.30pm. Not any 13 year old I know - or have ever known anyway. Not unless they are ill!

What a terrible example people are setting to their teens... 'Oh it's OK to lie in bed til 3.30pm!' FGS what's up with parents these days?! Why are they not up and out and about, playing, shopping, crafting, playing sports, creating things, helping mum around the house, doing something constructive; ANYTHING.

What a slippery slope that is. Teaching a young teen to be so utterly lazy and slovenly. Utterly disgraceful.

Good to know I'm not the only one shocked at this.