Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

whitewing

In our area, we get invited for smear tests every three years, if it is all routine. (Or 5 over a certain age).

MU, would it help to tell Swain about the song/circumstances? Maybe that would take its power away (although it will likely make him feel angry and frustrated). Or maybe talk specifically to a helpline or something - someone geared up for exactly that kind of issue. Things that are locked away inside sometimes need a bit of light shone on them to frazzle them up to a manageable size. Even if it is to reassure yourself that you have got skills now that will help to protect you from similar circumstances.

I think you are fantastic, girl!

jobbingmusician

MU, so sorry to hear about the song and its associations. I agree with WW, it can be very helpful to talk about this sort of stuff and stop it being a horrid memory locked up in the dark. xxx

calleyw

Mel,

There is no room at the inn. Your mail box is full.

I am trying to send you a reply.

Yours

Calley XXXX

elsien

Is it the weekend yet?

onomatopoeia99

elsien wrote: »

Is it the weekend yet?

Sadly another day to go. Though I might open the bank holiday bottle of wine a day early

uberalles

mellymoo74 wrote: »

I believe this is gitdog cousin

Funniest picture I've seen in a while. How did it manage to wedge itself in? I adore English Bulls.

Waves_and_Smiles

Hope you feel a bit better today MU, things like that can be a horrid shock. Have a hug.

Today I am thinking about how messed up my family really were. Not just in what they did to me but in what they did to each other too. There are many incidents that are clearly not how other people live and that were all about power and control but they thought they were closest family you could get. Once, a social worker said at a conference that she thought we all should have been in long term psychiatric care. I can see why she thought that.

Izadora

elsien wrote: »

Is it the weekend yet?

It is now!!!! Have a good one everyone

faerielight

Messed, songs can be so triggery, can't they.. hope it passes over, do some grounding techniques, look around the room and name 5 things you can see to ground yourself in the present.

penguin

I'm going to my mother's house today.. I'm dreading it! it was my house of horror that haunts me in my nightmares and going through her stuff will be so hard, as will meeting the solicitor who is being rude after talking with my uncle... I had very abusive phone convo with the uncle 2 nights ago, I knew it was coming, after the funeral, but he was so vicious.


when I called him out on his behaviour and said how clear it was how much hostility and resentment he had, and that it was not in either of our best interests to be on contact, he denied it and gaslighted me, as narcissists do, and said that was in my head and he had nothing but best intentions in me.. that's what made me feel crazy was the denial' as it did with my mother.. it makes them impossible to communicate with

I've decided to email him and tell him I will no longer be his point of contact as my male bestie and my female bestie's BF will split the contact between them, which is so nice of them. I am the target and have to remove myself from him. I cut contact with my family for a reason, but now I find myself in a situation where peter is the executor, he is friends with the solicitor, and I feel so trapped, and want it to all be over. I can't wait til the house is sold. and to walk away from my toxic family for good. Anyway, I've got to focus on today's mission, it's going to be a long, tiring, hard trip, and everything will be a trauma trigger, I know, her clothes, all of it. I'm dreading it

mellymoo74

Prayers please

Lots of them
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