Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

tea_lover

This is very nosy of me, but I'd love to hear how the wedding plans are going lambyr (if you fancied sharing anything!) I do love a good wedding

onomatopoeia99

Hugs MU, and to code as well.

Izadora

tea_lover wrote: »

This is very nosy of me, but I'd love to hear how the wedding plans are going lambyr (if you fancied sharing anything!) I do love a good wedding

Ooooh, yeah, do share!!

There are so many questions - Is it going to be traditional, will there be loads of guests or just you two, have you booked anywhere yet and so, so many other things!!

As much as I love the way IzHe and I are getting married there's not really been all that much in the way of wedding plans. A few emails to the hotel in Cuba and we were all sorted

Izadora

Lambyr wrote: »

We're planning it for mid-October next year. My birthday is early October and hers is late October, so she suggested we pop it in the middle. Personally, I think this is some vain attempt to get me to remember the actual date her birthday falls on as I'm pretty rubbish with dates.

It also means you'll hopefully remember the date of your anniversary

IzHe and I picked our date for similar reasons, he's hopeless at remembering dates and first of all suggested getting married on his birthday but I didn't like the idea of having a day which should be all about him as our anniversary so we went for the day before instead. Him agreeing to that wasn't in any way swayed by me pointing out that our hotel offers breakfast in bed the day after your wedding

tea_lover

They both sound so lovely

heartbreak_star

I missed my morning gym session today and I feel so guilty

HBS x

tea_lover

(((hbs))) you're allowed a day off! Try not to beat yourself up x.

Thinking of you code xx.

Have just finalised holiday allowance etc.... I leave work two weeks today..... scary stuff!

onomatopoeia99

tea_lover wrote: »

Have just finalised holiday allowance etc.... I leave work two weeks today..... scary stuff!

Change is scary, but it's also a new opportunity and has to be better than where you are now.

And on a completely unrelated subject, have you been watching the snooker? I saw a fair bit at the weekend apart from Sunday as I was at Silverstone all day in the bitingly cold wind to watch a six hour motor race. I still ache all over :rotfl:

tea_lover

It really was cold at the weekend wasn't it?! Bit of a change from the week before. Some friends of mine were working at Silverstone and I was pretty glad I wasn't with them this time! Am really enjoying the snooker (just sorry I'm not going this time).... just been having a sneaky look at this morning's results

faerielight

messed.. penguin about drinking

I think the 1st step is acknowledging you have a problem with drinking, and you're there so that's good, 2nd is wanting to change it, and you're there too. As others have said, swapping something is a good idea, maybe low alcohol drink or alcohol free. My friend who I mentioned swapped it for lemongrass and ginger cordial as it has a kick, he found that really helped. I too used to have a big binge drinking problem from the age of 14. I had no "off" button, and gave myself alcohol poisoning all the time. I also mixed prescription meds with it, but because it loosens inhibitions, if I look back, all the suicide attempts I ever made, bar one, was while I was drunk. That's what stopped me drinking in the end, knowing that I couldn't tackle my risky self harm behaviour without tackling the drinking. I haven't drunk for about 8 years now, I still get the urge. When I got the call that my mum had died I automatically went to the off licence to get booze and tobacco, (I did get baccie though) but on the way, I managed to rationalise that when my dad died, I was off my head on drink and drugs and it didn't help at all so I realised that adding alcohol back into the mix now would not help the situation and only make it worse. Plus, I never moved through the grief when he died and I want to move through it this time and it not get stuck.

I think those are the kinds of awareness that come after a period of abstaining, knowing that if the reason you were drinking was to try and block things out, or self medicate, the reality is that being sober and going through tough times is a hell of a lot easier than with alcohol!

You'll get there, you don't have to tell anyone professional about it if you choose not to, you could always go to AA, which is not affiliated with the NHS or even do online meetings.. there are other options available.. It is really good that you are talking openly with us about it, it's a good sign that you're ready to face this.