Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

codemonkey

For me, a relationship isn't a magic fix-all solution to a self-esteem problem. As much as I love Mr CP, he can't fix the years of damage done by my family, bullying at school, so-called friends, destructive exs and my own self-criticism which is blistering and I can't expect that from one person. It's pretty dangerous to base all your self-esteem on one person because if that person falls away, or lets you down even once, you're screwed. It's less about having someone love you, in a real way with all the negatives too, and more about believing you're worthy of love, from other people and yourself. Obviously, I'm working on this and one of my biggest lessons is to try to be gentle with myself. I'm my own worst enemy. I still berate myself for screwing up a recorder performance at school when I was 10. So now I'm working on treating myself as I would another person, because I'd never talk to someone else the same way as I talk to myself.

It was the bleedin window company who were rude to me. Been worrying that something happened to my parents and they want to discuss windows that I've already replaced.

Pyxis

Thanks Code.,:A

elsien

Gitdog has just failed his gold assessment.
He did every exercise in his own unique style (did you know walking to heel has to involve a quick break to play with a cone) and one other participant had to leave the room she was laughing so much.)
And still managed to pass all but one.

But underneath the clown is an anxious little soul and the send to bed was too much for him so he decided to lie on my feet looking sad instead. His second attempt reverted back to true Gitdog style when he decided a flying leap at someone on the settee was far more fun.

So we unfortunately remain the training school's longest serving delinquents.

seven-day-weekend

I'd hate to be sent to bed too �� He probably thought he'd somehow been naughty.

mellymoo74

Thank you for that elsien
I am having a night of self pity and scaring OH

calleyw

Code,

Massive hugs.

You put it so much better than I could. You are indeed correct a relationship is not a fix all. it helps a little bit.

I agree if I talked to someone the way I talk to myself well not sure what I do to them. But it would not be nice.

You are right you have to be nice to yourself. Before you can be with others.

My lodger is never going to learn. After blocking this woman. We agreed that me and him would go out for his birthday. Low and behold she got back in contact and said she had booked a table for them to go on his birthday. He wont listen to me and I don't have the strength to keep telling him walk away.

As I said to him the other night when he suppose to be going out with her and before it all went belly up. I said to him there will be tears before bedtime and I was right. I hate to see someone hurting themselves like that. But he just has to get on with it.

Just got back from a walk of 3 miles so pooped LOL!!!!

Every one take lots of care and have a good a nights sleep as possible.

Yours

Calley

calleyw

mellymoo74 wrote: »

Thank you for that elsien
I am having a night of self pity and scaring OH

(((((melly)))))

And massive hugs and squishes and handshakes and duvet hugs for all.

Yours

Calley

Pyxis

elsien wrote: »

Gitdog has just failed his gold assessment.
He did every exercise in his own unique style (did you know walking to heel has to involve a quick break to play with a cone) and one other participant had to leave the room she was laughing so much.)
And still managed to pass all but one.

But underneath the clown is an anxious little soul and the send to bed was too much for him so he decided to lie on my feet looking sad instead. His second attempt reverted back to true Gitdog style when he decided a flying leap at someone on the settee was far more fun.

So we unfortunately remain the training school's longest serving delinquents.

Well, I think he easily wins the Gold Star for Cheering Everybody Up!
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faerielight

still no news from the assessment, it's driving me crazy

mellymoo74

Thanks calley
Will be okay probably just had enough