Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

onomatopoeia99

So sorry WaS.

Pyxis

Well, I did my first Zumba class in over a year today!
People seemed really pleased to see me back!
And I remembered the moves pretty well! I was surprised!

I did it very, very gently, though, no jumping up and down. I'd had enough by the end, though. Just goes to show how much fitness I've lost. That would have been a short walk in the park a year ago!

whitewing

pyxis,

well done on your zumba'ing. I still go to mine. One of the best new things I have done this year.

WaS,

Always sad to hear, seems especially so for a fellow borderline person because I wish I could save people the pain of their suffering, knowing what it is like. We wish you and the family the strength to come to terms with it and to rediscover the beautiful girl that she was.

Gingernutty

Aw WAS. That's awful news.

PENGUIN Even though I didn't know the girl, it's always hard to hear of the death of someone so young. My condolences. END OF PENGUIN

It's not your fault.

Another, rather pointless night and I wasn't relieved by anyone at the end of my shift.

There's no one scheduled for the day so unless someone's doing overtime which hasn't been logged, the next person covering will be in at 10pm.

So much for 24/7 cover.

I'm off to Merry Hell to pick up a new pair of extra wide, clumpy, granny shoes.

I have a variety of things wrong with my feet and had a minor procedure PENGUIN (a steroid injection into a neuroma damaged nerve) END OF PENGUIN done privately last week.

Although there is less pain, I have been given or recommended orthotics and gel cushions which increase the width of my foot and I will need them in order to walk.

So instead of E fitting shoes, I need at least EE fitting shoes.

There are no stylish EE or EEE shoes.

Still I can't walk barefoot either. Wish me luck.

Pyxis

The (irregular) repost......

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!!!But first...............please be assured..................................................................******It should be pointed out that if anyone is feeling very distressed or close to a crisis, they do not have to worry about what they are posting, or whether it is a penguin for someone else or not. (See below about penguins). In a crisis situation, just post! We wouldn't want anyone to feel that they couldn't ask for help in case it's a penguin! The penguin thing only applies to a general discussion situation.******


- This is a thread for support. We have discovered some good friends on here, but we promise always to welcome and include new people, and not to be cliquey.

- People may make suggestions to help each other, and might even ask if the suggestions were helpful or have been carried out, but we'll really try not to nag each other or put too much pressure on.

- The normal board rules about sexism, racism, homophobia etc. apply, but if we are careful we should be able to discuss almost anything without breaching board rules - so far we have discussed subjects ranging from child abuse to incontinence!

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Waves_and_Smiles

Penguin follow up to previous post-

Thank you for the kind thoughts everyone. I haven't slept but have been talking to the poor girls mother for a while. I don't do at all well with suicide, this is the fifth friend I have lost to it and the seventh person. The girl took her life on the date of her father's own suicide years earlier, he was also my friend. I am trying to answer my friend's questions about a Borderline crisis without upsetting her which is difficult. Ironically and somewhat selfishly, this has triggered my own BPD, I have far too much emotion whirling around and feel very abandoned with unhealthy thoughts. Such is the nature of BPD. I am not the important one right now though, I need to be there for my friend and will do all I can.

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mellymoo74

WaS
Not your fault.

Sending love x

calleyw

Afternoon my lovelies,

dark and damp here.

Hugs and squishes and handshakes all round. Action man is upstairs playing computer games. He is so sweet he asks me if its ok. Umm of course it is.

Right who wants to come in to the fort snuggle up in a duvet and watch more xmas films. Me me me me me :jannoying like the donkey in shrek :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Hope everyone is not in too much pain but warm and dry enjoying there weekend end.

catch you all again soon.

Yours

Calley X

Tipsntreats

Hello again everyone. I do still get confused here.
Thank-you for support.
I came back to tell you that the saying - 'As one door closes, another one opens', is true.
I lost contact with someone, who is now back in contact. I am SO pleased. No problem this time, as the person is a SHE.
Hugs to you all.
Tips x

Pyxis

WaSsie, you're not abandoned.

You have WaSp,you have MiL, you have your American friend, you have your teacher friend, and of course you have your gorgeous Golden Lights!