Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

Pyxis

You're confused! I bet she's very confused!
She's holding on to her independence by not committing to staying.
That's fair enough, because though the care home is all very pleasant for her, it's still an unknown quantity, and very early days.

By hanging on to those visits home, she's ensuring that the final say is still hers, and she's not "being rail-roaded", which is fair enough!:)

She probably knows deep down that she'll stay, but she won't commit and burn her bridges yet.

What worries me is if BIL misses his carer's allowance and persuades her to leave the care home just so that he can continue to get it. :eek:

Tipsntreats

Hello again. I have got a little lost on all your posts, that is because I am an intruder.
Pyx I SO hope you are fully well real soon.

OK confession time.
I am unable to have any further contact with someone that I was VERY fond of. My hubby thought it was something more that what it was, and that caused a major problem!
I was very upset, as I was unable to convince him that he was reading more into it, than what it was.
So I cried and cried for two reasons, and that led me into a little period of darkness.
I am OK today, we are going to be fine. But, I do miss that someone still, but I will get over it.
I have a lot of relatives suffering from serious mental health problems,it all gets a little too much at times. As my hubby is involved, it was nice to have someone totally separate to talk to. But it is NOT worth the upset.
Tips x

mellymoo74

Good luck Tea!

Code see if agencies can get you contract work to get you out of there.

Elsien families suck, I haven't responded to a message from one of my brothers as still upset about not being invited.

Ginger when I was 18 I spent a ridiculous amount on some beautiful victorian style boots, I wore them to death right up until Froo ripped them for me. Sometimes its worth paying more.

WaS xxxxxx

Tip's its awful to let your sounding board go, you will be sad as your grieving hopefully this bunch can help.

whitewing

Are you sure millefleur hasn't wandered into a university hall of residence by mistake?

Now there's an idea. Have a mixed student house/old folks home.

Good luck with the exam, tea.

codemonkey

Tips, I've experienced a similar situation, except that I was friends with a guy for 15 years, we'd been drunk together, we'd stayed in each other's houses, and even when we were both single nothing ever happened. A few years ago he met his now wife (I stupidly introduced them) and she refused to believe that nothing had happened and thinks I'm on a mission to steal her man, despite the fact that I'm happily married. So he's not allowed to talk to me anymore. That really hurts because I'd considered him one of my best friends and suddenly that's all gone.

onomatopoeia99

code, that's really sad. I just wrote about trust on a different post, I don't understand her actions at all as if she feels she can't trust her husband to be in your company then why is she even with him? A relationship without trust has a huge glaring hole in the middle of it and I would rather be alone.

And how do people think that forcing their partner to choose between them and long standing friends is the right thing to do?

codemonkey

Even worse ono, is that I considered her to be a close friend of mine too, and she pretty much used me to get to him then dropped me once she had the information she needed. . Not sure why she's with him as she drunkenly told me that she was only with him because nobody else was showing an interest. She should know that I'd never, ever try to steal someone's husband. I once went nuts at a guy from uni because he snogged someone else on a night out and he had a girlfriend. I've been cheated on, I know how utterly !!!!!! that feels so I'd never do it to someone else. Also pretty sure that if nothing has happened with a guy when we've both been rolling drunk and single and sleeping in the same bed, then it's not ever going to. It kind of hurts that he'd just throw our friendship away, but she's his wife, so what ya gonna do?

Waves_and_Smiles

I feel for you both, Tips and Code. I lost my very close male friend of 9 years when he got a girlfriend and she wouldn't believe that nothing had ever or was ever likely to go on between us. I trusted him with everything and it broke my heart when we stopped talking.

Gingernutty

:hello: Hey Everyone.

More job woes.

I came into work last night to an email giving the order no to do the thing I was hired to do in the first place.

The powers that be have revoked the procedure and we have explicitly been told not to do it.

Our job has slowly been eroded away.

I suspect that it will be a race to see if I'm made redundant or I'm able to resign first.....

It's been a long slow night and now there's no real reason for being here, a pretty pointless one.

The plan is still to hand in my resignation on 16th December. Fingers crossed.

Pyxis

whitewing wrote: »

Are you sure millefleur hasn't wandered into a university hall of residence by mistake?

Now there's an idea. Have a mixed student house/old folks home.

That would probably work!
Research has shown, I believe, that segregating the old and the young doesn't work as well as mixing them up!

Look at "Off Their Rockers!"






Tea!