Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

calleyw

Evening my lovelies,

Massive hugs and squishes and handshakes to all that need them.

I hope WaS and MU are ok you are in my thoughts.

Need to get a car sorted hated the one I borrowed from dad just could not get the hang of it. Funeral went well. I only knew my boss there.

Came home this evening to have a major panic could not find phoebe. Text lodger and he said she was there this morning when he went out. Looked in kitchen as she can open the door. I looked in the living room even pulling out sofas to look behind. Even started to cry. So went up stairs and found her in my lodgers bedroom she can now climb stairs :rotfl::mad: need to get a stair gate.

I have been very bad and stopped my meds last week. I know felt really strange the last few days.

Went to action mans parents and took some fudge for his mum and some beer for his dad. They are so nice. Mid afternoon action man went to make a cup of tea for them. So I went to the kitchen and he gave me a massive hug and kiss and told me he loved me :j

Anyway been a long day traveling around by bus for a hospital pre-op appointment for husband. So shattered.

Catch you all tomorrow.

Yours

Calley X

elsien

Channel 5. Me and my mental illness.
Lots of triggers, and lots of honesty about what it means for people without being sensationalist. All perspectives, including an anti psychiatry one. Well worth a watch.

onomatopoeia99

Calley, awwwwww

tea_lover wrote: »

I'd forgotten that joy! :rotfl:. Both of you in a right strop with each other, at the point where you wouldn't pee on them if they were on fire but you still have to get it on because apparently the magic window after the HyCoSy is just guaranteed to work.

I'm going to TMI everyone now.

I'd be completely useless in that situation. I actually couldn't; doesn't matter how important it is to do it right then. I don't get angry, but by the same token I can't deal with anger and have to distance myself, so if someone I love is stropping at me I get so hurt and crushed inside that my body simply will not oblige. So, I'd be no use at all :rotfl:

Torry_Quine

Quick visit to say hi. Not great ,struggling even to get up and dressed. Thinking of you all.

heartbreak_star

*pokes head in quietly*

*waves*

*sends love to everyone as I have missed all of you*

HBS x

whitewing

Thank you code for the pm. I shall certainly have a good read of the website you linked in for me.

HBS and Torry - lovely to 'see' you.

elsien, I shall try to watch that on catch up at some point.

WaS - still miss you.

My body is on old time still. Hence, I was asleep early last night and have been up since dawn cracked. Feel rested though.

Had a good day yesterday in terms of getting things done. (Helps that it was payday for DH).

onomatopoeia99

Hi to hbs and Torry

penguin, indirectly relates to death Long talk with my dad about inheritance tax planning (caused by house price inflation rather than them being wealthy) last night bought very much in focus the fact that while neither of my parents have conditions that could lead to an early death, my dad is now older than both his parents were when they died after relatively short illnesses and I know how lucky I am to still have both parents and how quickly this could change given their ages. Anyway, as I often have done in the past I told them to enjoy their money and not to worry about me and my brother, we are both financially stable. It's making me think about the possibility of losing them though

I don't know if the next one is a penguin topic but just in case (self harm) I might remove it later as it is not about me. Probably not going to articulate this very well, but I'm really worried about one of my friends. She's always been a strong person, but since a painful event earlier his year she's really been struggling and has been cutting herself. She has been to the GP and is on anti-depressants and having CBT, Even so, last week she ended up with an ambulance being called in the middle of the night as she caught a vein and couldn't stop the bleeding. She's adamant that she's not suicidal and I believe her, but I also don't understand and wish I could do something to help.

Woke up at 3.15 this morning, did manage to get to sleep again in the end but so tired again. I might book the start of next week off so I can have a long weekend, maybe go to London to see the Beyond Caravaggio exhibition at the National gallery - what I ususally do when something is on in London is think "Oooh, I'd like to see that" then the closing date is past before I actually manage to organise myself .

Izadora

Hi HBS and Torry. Torry, I hope things improve for you soon.

Ono - parent penguin It's totally understandable and I think that sometimes that realisation is all the harder when there's no immediate reason for it. Even though I'm obviously aware of the fact that they're not going to live forever it's still a shock when I stop and think about how old they are now and the time that they realistically have left

With your friend, as in so many situations where someone's struggling, there's not really much you can do other than make sure she knows that you're there for her whenever she needs you.

Having a long weekend, with a couple of good lie ins, sounds like a lovely idea and just what you need.

codemonkey

Hi hbs and Torry.

Penguin for ono My parents were older when they had me and I've always been aware that they won't be in my life as long, but over the past few years my dad's deterioration to old man has been terrifyingly fast. He's 83 now and he can't walk far, his memory is gone and whenever I go to their house I have to rewash any dishes I want to use because he insists on doing them to make himself feel useful but he just can't do it properly. My mum was always the more sickly one but now she's off swimming and keeping active. I remember the first time I saw them as old and it was terrifying. Logically, I know that at best I have a few more years with them, but I can't think that way or it clouds every interaction. I have no words of advice, but just wanted you to know I understand.

As to your own friend, she is getting help but sometimes that help can make things feel worse initially as it involves dealing with things she may have been suppressing. I'm sure she's glad to have a supportive friend like you.

End penguin

Didn't sleep well last night as I was in pain and naturally started worrying about the whole work situation. Today we have a meeting which is going to be all buzzwords to the point where I may give myself a headache rolling my eyes. Then I had a genius idea. Today, I am pretending to be an anthropologist studying corporate culture. :rotfl:

seven-day-weekend

tea_lover wrote: »

FWIW, here is my list of things not to say.... others will see things differently of course

- just relax.
- it will happen when you stop trying.
- have you considered adoption.
- my cousin/hairdresser/neighbour's poodle did IVF 86 times then went on holiday and it happened naturally.
- you can have my kids, they're a nightmare.
- just think of all the drinking and holidays you can have instead.
- I know what you're going through, it took me three months to conceive child number 3.
- there are too many people in the world anyway.

That's useful - can you also give some idea of what IS appropriate? Thanks!