Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

elsien

Faerie, I'm sorry you're finding things so hard at the moment - I don't know what to say that might help other than to let you know we're here.
Is it possible to get a bit more support from your GP or someone in the bpd group?

Wellyboots6

Thanks for the prompt code, I will try my hardest to remember to book it tomorrow. I'm not overly worried about getting it done, i just struggle to remember to book it, and actually find the time to go. I have come off my medication as I kept forgetting to go to my appointments to get my repeat prescriptions. Bearded one is insisting I get that sorted and get back on the meds though as my temper is lousy again. I shall do all my doctorsy stuff tomorrow!

Hello continualdiamond, I started back at work when Escapette was 4 months, partly due to money and partly to get out of the house. I'm still going through periods of wishing I could stay home with her, to enjoying being out and about again.
Pyxis suggestions are good ones . I've also found that breaking the day up in to chunks helps. For example, I know there are 2 nap times, 2 meals, 2 play times and a bath to do before Bearded one gets home. I give myself 1 nap time to do housework and 1 nap to do something for me like having a cup of tea and giving Little Sod (dog)a cuddle. I try to make sure 1 play time is going out somewhere, for a walk, to the park etc and 1 time is at home. It seems to make the day go quicker and feel more productive that way.

I might nab the story group idea Pyxis. I'm not sure how it could work here though as noone can come round here due to Little Sod and his enthusiastic welcomes!

jobbingmusician

Hello everyone! Welcome, continualdiamond (is CD OK?)

I've been away for the weekend playing an opera - brilliant weekend, partly because the standard was so high, partly because the weather was so good, partly because lovely company... you get the idea.

I have been reading, but too brain dead and overwhelmed with pages to try to reply individually, so fresh squishes, ice cream and other refreshments are available in the fort xxx

continualdiamond

Thank you for such lovely replies and CD is fine. I have Mondays just myself and my 5mth old and we go to baby yoga. I took my eldest to baby yoga, loved it and whilst yes I chatted to other mums for a bit afterwards or had 1 or 2 meet ups nothing else happened.

I am bored yes and it isn't helped by my lack of space at home as we live in a flat. It's my biggest issue as we have no space and I never invite people around because I am embarrassed by it. I have no kitchen table as have no dining room and my kitchen is super tiny that only 1 person can stand in it at a time to prepare food. I have a garden but it's not big enough to let children happily play as in a few I mean and no space for table/chairs. I sit on a picnic rug when my eldest is playing to watch her.

I love putting albums together but I don't have the space to do it. I would totally love having a kitchen table with my albums and craft bits on it so when my 5mth old is napping in the day I could sit and do it. Sadly it involves me sat on the sofa with a lap tray and everything spread out on the floor so I dont do it often as can't just leave it. If I had a table I'd just leave it out and come back to it when I could.

I love the groups I go too. I do enjoy it. Ive always taken my eldest to messy art and gone to the park afterwards. I just enjoy adult company along with it. I hate coming home as I feel so confined to a small place. Tues i broke down in tears as the flat is leasehold and will cost a lot to extend and it's in negative equity.

A friend lives 2hrs away as she moved away and we both have kids the same age. I am going to see her Thurs, we've bother said it's a shame we're not closer as we'd see each other every day.

Georgiegirl256

Sounds like a lovely weekend Lambyr! Love the idea of a doggy chaperone! All I got was a bite on the hand off my cat before....he loves me really I'm sure lol!

Hope tonight has gone ok code, and was better than expected! What did you wear?

Sorry to hear you're struggling faerie Is there anyone you can talk to? Social worker or doctor?

Glad you had a lovely weekend too JM.

Yes, it seems a very good buy WaS! I've decided I'm making minestrone soup in mine next!

whitewing

CD, do you have skype or similar? Could you and your friend or family just log in each day, even if you are doing nothing? Just to have that connection in real time?

ER has been moved to Rehab. (Stroke rehab). She has gone shockingly downhill but I am hoping that is just tiredness and new routine. I am not known for my warm and fluffy side so DH was surprised enough to comment on how good I was at dealing with her and feeding her yesterday. I have been somewhat fascinated by how much she can vary day by day in terms of mental health, and how much we family makes a difference in terms of responding to her own needs. (She told me she loved me last week, which was so lovely). I think psychiatrists could learn a lot about the brain with an in depth study of her and her wardmates, although I am not sure they could always get informed consent. Sometimes she is totally in the past with no concept that she is bedbound thinking she has just been cooking or running Sunday school classes. Other times she is reminiscing but also has a good grasp of the present too.

Took littlewing out to a funday this afternoon. She made me laugh as she heard the beat of a rock band and insisted we went to the marquee to watch them. My little rocker. She had a great time this afternoon and enjoyed every minute.

Work has been busy. Life has been busy and I have been staving off the odd bad thought that has been brought on by tiredness. Overall though I have had good moments that have lasted unspoilt. (Provided I mostly avoid the news).

Waves_and_Smiles

Don't worry if I am quiet for a few days, the hot weather has made my autoimmune disorders flare again and I can't do anything other than lie in a heap in bed, I am getting breathless and developing leg cramps just by walking to the bathroom which is so annoying. I will be checking in (you don't get rid of me that easily!) but until it cools down I may just read and post occasionally. Please send all storm clouds in this direction!

(Is it autumn yet?).

Pyxis

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onomatopoeia99

Morning all, it's promising to be a lovely day weather-wise here I did some serious weeding yesterday and now have big piles of garden waste waiting to go down the tip, though it was hot enough that after an hour I had to go inside for a cold drink and a sit down before carrying on. Sweaty, slightly overweight nerdy person is not a good look I decided :rotfl:

This nice weather has prompted me to look at garden furniture, but I expect that by the time I get around to ordering anything it will be autumn

calleyw

Morning my lovelies,

Hugs and squishes and handshakes all round.

Code I hope you managed to go and enjoy yourself. (((((Pyxis)))))
I do understand how you feel, been there done it. And its not nice to be there. Please take care of yourself. WaS I am sending you thoughts of nice cool weather.

I am sweating like a pig and its just about 10am :eek: I will be melting later. Did want to get out in the garden and do some jobs. That will have to wait until this evening now.

Had a very nice evening with Lego man. He was true to his word and cooked me a steak very nice as well. I have not had someone put that much thought and consideration in to something for me in a very long time. It was really nice. And nice having someone cooking for me as well.

And he bought me a present. Which I did open last night as he said I could. See below:



Its canvas. He knows my love of camper vans :rotfl:

Its so nice to have someone in my life who is not grumpy all the time and fun and wants to do stuff and the biggy spend time with me.

Sadly he is away working this week hence the birthday meal last night. I am sure I can survive :rotfl:

Everyone take care.

Chat again later.

Yours

Calley