Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

Georgiegirl256

Funny you should mention that code. I was reading this article this morning http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3598017/Can-really-earn-350-000-year-selling-aloe-vera-thousands-women-join-controversial-home-selling-empire-read-Candice-s-cautionary-tale.html I was going to say to forward it to her but tbh she probably wouldn't listen. People think these are going to be the miracle solution to all their money woes, but they're anything but. Hopefully she'll figure that out soon.

I'm so glad I'm not on Facebook, I really could not be on with the endless selfies, self promotions etc.

All I can say is don't buy anything from her. She'll get the initial hit and get drawn in even further because she'll be thinking "oh great, it's working", but she'll just get pulled into it more and more....it is not a get rich scheme, and I think she'll have to figure that out for herself and she won't listen to what anyone has to say.

Edit: don't know if the above link is what she is selling, but a fairly similar thing probably.

codemonkey

That's not what she's selling but not a million miles away. It's difficult because me being as subtle as a sledgehammer, I want to tell her that it's not the answer and it's just annoying but I have to nod and smile instead.

Georgiegirl256

Thing is, you could tell her until your blue in the face, but it sounds like she'll only hear what she wants to hear. Loads of lasses on D's Facebook are selling things on these schemes.

codemonkey

It seems to be the (mostly) SAHM's new avon/tupperware party only way more pushy and with fewer snacks.

I have another friend who sells skin care products but she asked me before she started selling them if I would be interested in buying anything, I said 'no thanks' and she hasn't mentioned it since.

Waves_and_Smiles

Hello Bluebell! Sorry that I haven't said hello yet!

Aw, MU I am so happy for Swain! I would love a fridge magnet, I collect them! Thank you!

I am a little fragile right now so I am quiet. I seem to be careering from one mental health problem to another resulting in a BDP flare which I will write about at some point because it is an insight into a BDP mind and I also want to whine about it. All of this is likely the left over feelings from the ESA form so should even out soon but please forgive me if I am quiet, I will back properly when I am in a fit state to be around humans without completely overreacting to something innocent.

Torry_Quine

((((((((WaS))))))

whitewing

Post away, WaS. If I am not mistaken, you always try to 'save' us from your worse feelings as they happen and yet one or other of us can usually make you feel better sooner rather than later.

Actually, BPD brings me nicely on to the fact that I passed my martial arts grading exam this week and I am dedicating this one to the kittenhearted faerie, and the lovely melly. Both of you have had very trying times and both of you have kept going as best you can.

I am awake with a nasty cough and yukky nose and tickly throat and I do believe a slight headache is coming on.

System

WaS, I echo what whitewing said if you feel able please post, it might help you to vent and maybe we can come up with a way to help between us (((hugs))) i'm sorry you're feeling unwell right now

whtewing-hope you feel better soon, hope you can take something to relieve the pain and get some sleep

Pyxis

Code, would you be up for writing her a long letter, saying what you've said in your post, with lots of kindness and hugs? And ending with " I want my friend back"?
It could be your chance to help her. If she takes no notice, at least you've tried. At least she'll know that you don't want to spend money you can't afford on things you don't like, but that, more importantly, you're worried that she's getting herself into an impossible situation, financially, and you're seriously worried about her.
Then follow it up with a visit when you're sure she'll have received it and give her a big hug?



Oh WaS, I was worrying that you were so quiet. :A
No worries, take all the time you need. We know you'll be hovering, so we'll be talking to you too!

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We're off to the seaside on sunday! (And WaS i'm going to find and send you a fridge magnet, i know you can;t get to the seaside yourself so i figure you can still have a memento! I'll be thinking of you all )

Oooh! Will you be going to BoggleHole? I like BoggleHole! And you can walk into Scarborough from there, along the beach!

How lovely about the knitted pig! What a lovely, thoughtful mum!

(He should have sued for custody of the Pig when he split with his ex! :rotfl::rotfl:)

Pyxis

Sorry this is so late..........got overtaken by events!

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