Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

Pyxis

Sleazy wrote: »

Just a bit embarrassed to stand up and say "My name is Sleazy and I have MH issues".

Some of the things I'm not sure I would post on the forum :eek:. Although I might laugh at my non-sensical behaviour afterwards, at the time it makes perfect sense to me!

No need for that, Sleazy. We tend to just mention things that we might feel, or do, rather than outline a whole case history!

One can give a case history, of course, but it tends to just come in dribs and drabs.

People can say as much or as little as they like.

Then there is the 'penguin' feature!

FreeBear

Pyxis wrote: »

'Centering' may correct in the States, I don't know, but if I see 'center' in England I SCREAM! :rotfl:
(Same goes for 'color'. Aaaaargh!)

Just wait until you hear someone going on about "soddering" :eek:

[Deleted User]

FreeBear wrote: »

Just wait until you hear someone going on about "soddering" :eek:

Don't think this is what you meant, but .....

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Soddering

FreeBear

Sleazy wrote: »

Don't think this is what you meant, but .....

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Soddering

That is correct. I use a soldering iron to solder "stuff", but them Americans insist on calling it "soddering".

klew356

I have a colleague who is a worrier, she was a friend before i worked at that company. She drives past cyclists and then thinks she has clipped them and knocked them off and either drives back to check or pulls over and waits for them coming to check they are ok and in fact she hasn!!!8217;t hit them at all. This is just one example. She worries when there is nothing to worry about it. Its started filtering into work. Anything new or new projects like a certain regulation that has come into force this month she doesn!!!8217;t want anything to do with. This should be her department but the panic and worry in her means she does not listen to advice. She also buries her head in the sand and hopes someone else will do it. Cue irate colleagues. There are constant tears, on Friday past it was most of the morning about this regulation yet has done next to nothing to help her own situation, has offered her colleagues no help. The compassion in the office is wearing thin and we are not experts in dealing with these issues, as a friend i have offered to go to the doctor with her but as a colleague i have told her line manager as it is started to affect my work and if honest annoy me at work. I don!!!8217;t think taking the jobs away from her that she doesn!!!8217;t want to do will help any. Its almost a bit like a spoilt child turn the tears on so don!!!8217;t have to do it. I know it runs deeper than that but im trying to paint the best picture. So my questions are what can i do? What can we do at work? Help!

Pyxis

Sleazy wrote: »

Don't think this is what you meant, but .....

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Soddering

:rotfl: :rotfl::rotfl:

A quote from that link........


"An incorrect term for 'soldering', usually used by idiots, or people with 'labtop' computers".

:rotfl:

Pyxis

klew356 wrote: »

I have a colleague who is a worrier, she was a friend before i worked at that company. She drives past cyclists and then thinks she has clipped them and knocked them off and either drives back to check or pulls over and waits for them coming to check they are ok and in fact she hasn!!!8217;t hit them at all. This is just one example. She worries when there is nothing to worry about it. Its started filtering into work. Anything new or new projects like a certain regulation that has come into force this month she doesn!!!8217;t want anything to do with. This should be her department but the panic and worry in her means she does not listen to advice. She also buries her head in the sand and hopes someone else will do it. Cue irate colleagues. There are constant tears, on Friday past it was most of the morning about this regulation yet has done next to nothing to help her own situation, has offered her colleagues no help. The compassion in the office is wearing thin and we are not experts in dealing with these issues, as a friend i have offered to go to the doctor with her but as a colleague i have told her line manager as it is started to affect my work and if honest annoy me at work. I don!!!8217;t think taking the jobs away from her that she doesn!!!8217;t want to do will help any. Its almost a bit like a spoilt child turn the tears on so don!!!8217;t have to do it. I know it runs deeper than that but im trying to paint the best picture. So my questions are what can i do? What can we do at work? Help!

That's an interesting conundrum.

Firstly, does she know that she has a problem with her anxiety?

If she does, then it will be a lot easier to get her to ask for help.

If she doesn't think she has a problem, then it will be more difficult.

You offered to go to the doctor with her........... has she taken you up on that offer?
If not, then a long, friendly chat with her might be the way to go, and tell her just what you have told us on here. If she knows that her anxieties are impacting on everyone else, it might be the spur she needs to get help.

It might not need medication. It might only need something short and simple like hypnotherapy, at least for the work fears about new regulations.

With regard to the cyclist thing, a visit to a cycling group might persuade her that her fears are groundless. After all, if she had knocked someone, the chances are that she would have felt something and/or there would be yells and crashes. So talking to actual cyclists might reassure her.


I have ADHD and I can relate to her panicking about having to get her head round new regulations. I put off doing anything about it. However, once I do get down to it, and focus on it, then I can read up on it, and it's not so daunting. It is the getting down to it that is difficult. What would help me is having someone tell me to sit down and open the manual at a certain page and make summary notes about that chapter, etc. Then once I've started, I'm ok.

Splitting tasks up into chunks also helps, so it's done a chunk at a time, and each chunk isn't too daunting.


It may seem like hand-holding to have to start her off, but even that may show her that a) she can do it, and b) there might be a problem worth her investigating.

She may even have ADHD!

klew356

Pyxis wrote: »

That's an interesting conundrum.

Firstly, does she know that she has a problem with her anxiety?

If she does, then it will be a lot easier to get her to ask for help.

If she doesn't think she has a problem, then it will be more difficult.

You offered to go to the doctor with her........... has she taken you up on that offer?
If not, then a long, friendly chat with her might be the way to go, and tell her just what you have told us on here. If she knows that her anxieties are impacting on everyone else, it might be the spur she needs to get help.

It might not need medication. It might only need something short and simple like hypnotherapy, at least for the work fears about new regulations.

With regard to the cyclist thing, a visit to a cycling group might persuade her that her fears are groundless. After all, if she had knocked someone, the chances are that she would have felt something and/or there would be yells and crashes. So talking to actual cyclists might reassure her.


I have ADHD and I can relate to her panicking about having to get her head round new regulations. I put off doing anything about it. However, once I do get down to it, and focus on it, then I can read up on it, and it's not so daunting. It is the getting down to it that is difficult. What would help me is having someone tell me to sit down and open the manual at a certain page and make summary notes about that chapter, etc. Then once I've started, I'm ok.

Splitting tasks up into chunks also helps, so it's done a chunk at a time, and each chunk isn't too daunting.


It may seem like hand-holding to have to start her off, but even that may show her that a) she can do it, and b) there might be a problem worth her investigating.

She may even have ADHD!

Yes she does, she knows she is being irrational but can’t help it?

I was a bit frightened to tell her how she was impacting cos i didn’t know if that would make her feel worse, she has not been to the doctor yet, i think its getting over that hurdle of its ok not to feel ok type thing? She doesn’t want people to think she is crazy, even though she is displaying crazy behaviour, shes been off for a few days and im hoping she will come back fresh and enthusiastic but im guessing the weekend will be spent worrying about coming back on Monday!

Thank you for your reply!! :money:

dandy-candy

Health penguin (female problem)
I found a lump "down there" at the beginning of May and went to the dr. She said it's probably a cyst, and to wait 2 weeks and if it's there still to call. It was so I rang and she said she would get me a gynaecologist referral.
Yesterday I got a letter saying to call and book the appointment, so I rang the number and they said it was the wrong place and I had to call I different number which I did.
That number said it was the wrong one and I had to call the first one again to book it.
I rang first one again and they said no I had to call the other one. I said "But they will tell me to call you!" She said she would ask supervisor and to hold. Then I got cut off.
I rang the other one and spoke to the management team who said 100% it was the other first number who had to book it. Then the first one called and said their was a mess up in the referral but they would try and sort it and call me tomorrow (now today)
So today I sat around and it got to 3pm so I called them. They said their emails were down and they would call as soon as they had it sorted. Of course I never heard and now they are shut for the weekend so I have to start chasing it all again on Monday.
Things that should be simple seem to mess up for me and it really gets me down. Penguin end

Pyxis

Penguin reply to Dandy:


Some years ago, I found a lump 'down there', too.

The doctor said it was a Bartholin's cyst.

They are harmless. They can come quite spontaneously, and they can also go suddenly too.

That's what happened to mine. It just went all by itself. (I can't remember how long it was there for...... it was a long time ago).


Obviously, it's best to get it checked out, but don't let all that hassle about the appointment make you more anxious about the cyst.

End penguin.