Accident at nursery

ravilious_fan

onlyroz wrote: »

When people say things like "why bother having kids if you're just going to plonk them in childcare?", or "children get better care at home", what [STRIKE]they invariably[/STRIKE] I interpret it to mean is "mummy should stay at home with the kids while daddy gets to go out and have an interesting career".

Paranoia..

You want a baby, - babies need looking after. You decide between you who is going to look after the kids and when. You don't farm them out onto a nursery, where some disgruntled underpaid person barely out of their teens has to look after them for you.

As the OP is finding..

ravilious_fan

FBaby wrote: »

The UK has the highest (or one of the highest) number of SAHM in Europe, yet I don't see UK kids growing into better prepared/happy adults then those on the continent.

Not sure where you're getting this from. Less than one woman in ten in the UK looks after her children full-time, according to the ONS. There were 227 000 men who stayed home and looked after the children full time in 2013.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/mother-tongue/11118738/Stay-at-home-mothers-have-the-most-worthwhile-lives.html

Other countries often have lower birth rates.

tea_lover

ravilious_fan wrote: »

Paranoia..

You want a baby, - babies need looking after. You decide between you who is going to look after the kids and when. You don't farm them out onto a nursery, where some disgruntled underpaid person barely out of their teens has to look after them for you.

As the OP is finding..

The OP isn't finding anything of the sort, they're not even the child's parent.

ravilious_fan

tea_lover wrote: »

The OP isn't finding anything of the sort, they're not even the child's parent.

That's irrelevant, though.

The point of the thread is, the child allegedly wasn't being watched properly at nursery.

KiKi

Parents have different ways of parenting. We all have a view (personally I'd rather not have a one year old in nursery), but let's not slate the views of others just because we disagree.

tea_lover

ravilious_fan wrote: »

That's irrelevant, though.

The point of the thread is, the child allegedly wasn't being watched properly at nursery.

It's completely relevant. The child's parents are happy with the level of care provided. The aunt thinks no one else can look after the child as well as she can, refers to her as her child, and claims she will never have an accident under her care. Delusional.

FBaby

You want a baby, - babies need looking after. You decide between you who is going to look after the kids and when. You don't farm them out onto a nursery, where some disgruntled underpaid person barely out of their teens has to look after them for you.

I think in some circumstances, babies might be better off looked after by young but friendly teenagers than by their arrogant and judgmental parents. I always considered myself quite a good mother, but always accepted that I wasn't perfect and that by mixing with different people, my children actually did get the best of all worlds. Some things these 'teenagers' did with my children was actually endearing as not something I would have done naturally myself.

I won't bother looking for the official statistics that I read some months ago about SAHM because you clearly are set in your views and I would just be wasting my time.

ravilious_fan

FBaby wrote: »

I won't bother looking for the official statistics that I read some months ago about SAHM because you clearly are set in your views and I would just be wasting my time.

You may be mis-remembering them. Did you read the article I gave a link to?

ravilious_fan

tea_lover wrote: »

It's completely relevant. The child's parents are happy with the level of care provided. The aunt thinks no one else can look after the child as well as she can, refers to her as her child, and claims she will never have an accident under her care. Delusional.

Have we been reading the same thread?

Poppie68

ravilious_fan wrote: »

Have we been reading the same thread?

Obviously not....
The OP is the aunt of the child in question who has clearly stated the child's mother(her sister) is happy with the care provided by the nursery, no mention of neglect or abuse from the sister or nursery but the OP seems to think she can care for the child better than even the sister. It's coming across as rather obsessive behaviour which puts into question the OPs suitability to merely be in the child's presence let alone be left alone with her...